How to react to elusive man

onomatopoeia99

Timpu wrote: »

I'm pretty sure in the UK cousins cannot legally marry. There are other countries where it is permitted.

As has been stated already prior to your post, you're wrong. This is not an opinion, this is a fact.

Please read the relevant legislation, all current UK statute with any amendments that have been made subsequently is available online on the government website. Unsurprisingly, it's called the Marriage Act (1949 is the relevant one) and sets down prohibitied degrees of affinity.

skint_chick

I agree with Pastures New he's stringing you along - you already found out he lied about who he was going with. Does it really matter if they're cousins/in a relationship/posting all over Facebook. He wasn't honest with you. Even if he told you something now would you believe it was the whole truth? Best to move on to someone who is actually interested in a relationship rather than just texting you because they're got some free time on holiday. If he was genuinely interested in a relationship he would have done something about it a long time ago. Since you only decided you liked him a few weeks ago it's no great loss to keep him as a friend you see occasionally, if you even want to do that.

mariposa687

It's up to you but it's all a bit complicated don't you think? Is he really that great a guy to be stressing yourself over? It's a cliche, your gut feeling is rarely wrong so I'd go with that. It's maybe the sort of thing you could bring up in a face to face conversation in a roundabout way, not over text. That way you can gauge his reaction. Sitting around thinking about it too much will only make you upset.

ceegee

This sounds very similar to something that happened to me albeit about 40 years ago! He's stringing you along and, as has already been said, after a bit of "leg over". He is " of a type" who is happy to lead women on for fun whilst having a serious and steady girlfriend who he describes as a cousin. I know this may be upsetting but he could even be stringing others along as well as you.

Please don't get in touch with him when he gets back. I know you may feel upset but you need to keep your dignity. Getting in touch with him will not get you anywhere and will only be bad for you.......he won't care because he's got his serious girlfriend and, no doubt, he will continue to string others along.......he won't be hurting at all in any of this.

I hope you can find a nice man who will respect you and treat you properly.

justme111

You do not need to find out what he is or is not right now. If you keep seeing him with your eyes open it will become apparent with time.

BrassicWoman

I would become elusive myself; sounds like a prat

-taff

Post on his facebook page 'thaks very much for th great day last week, hope we can do it again soon, Can't wait to see you when you get back .....


and see what happens.......

Tigsteroonie

Cousins certainly can marry - our very own Fruitcake of the forum did so!

Loz01

Yes cousins can marry, my friend married her first cousin who she grew up with and "looked upon as a brother"..... her words, not mine!!! Either way it sounds like this guy is being dishonest, one way or another. Either have it out with him and ask him whats going on or just forget him and move on. Sounds like he might be the type to play games.

Robisere

https://www.quora.com/Is-cousin-marriage-legal-in-the-UK

But this bloke is definitely deceiving you, cut him out of your life. He had his fun, you have learned a bitter lesson, move on.