Buffy Keeps on the Straight and Narrow

beanielou

I miss my dad too.
6 years

Good news on a holiday adventure :j :j

Buffythedebtslayer

Hugs Beanie XX

I was doing really quite well before BIL got sick and whilst obviously my sister and him have been most affected everything - all my plans for the last year have been on hold. And now the pressure is off for me to an extent I just don't have the fight in me. And I definitely need a new job.

i haven't the energy for either!

beanielou

No wonder you have no energy.
Hopefully you can regroup at some point.

Pooky

How's your BIL doing?

Sun_Addict

It's one expense after another for you at the moment. Everything seems to have happened at once. I think you're going to have to get the fence done for your own sanity. I know it's expensive, anything to do with gardens usually is.

Buffythedebtslayer

beanielou wrote: »

No wonder you have no energy.
Hopefully you can regroup at some point.

I have temporarily given up marking some classes. The dogs are now on day four of diarrhoea, poor boys. They have had chicken and rice the last two nights and it has helped.

Pooky wrote: »

How's your BIL doing?

This is an awkward one, I think he is doing ok, I have been round with the dogs once or twice a week and take shopping and when I am there all seems good, my sister loves a routine so they are working that out with the carers. He looks SO much better than when he was in hospital. Although he doesn't remember home directly he says he feels safe there. She can't leave him tho and even if you are in the kitchen (making drinks) he calls out and gets...concerned. So it is an enormously steep learning curve. I am worried about my sister. She hasn't left the house since he came home, I get it he can't so she won't. Plus he doesn't like being left alone. the whole situation is just so unreal. But I will do what I can.

Sun_Addict wrote: »

It's one expense after another for you at the moment. Everything seems to have happened at once. I think you're going to have to get the fence done for your own sanity. I know it's expensive, anything to do with gardens usually is.

I think ...........I try and think I can technically afford this, being in debt has happened so easily and I am so rubbish with money but my credit rating is good so I am lucky I can do this. It does make me so angry but he isn't every going to turn out sane in my view. So to protect Mum the dogs and me I will do it. Sounds a bit dramatic I know! but it is how I feel after Thursday.

Had a nice dinner of omelette and chips tonight. yum.

XXX

beanielou

I dont envy your sister

Buffythedebtslayer

beanielou wrote: »

I dont envy your sister

No, I really don't know how that will work out. I don't know.

Pooky

If she speaks to the GP or care team they should be able to get him sorted with a wheelchair so they can at least get out and about (ramps can be put in for him to get out of the house). Getting out and about was what saved my sanity after E's accident.

Does he have family that can visit and take over for a few hours so she can get out on her own?

And poor dogs! They seem to have very sensitive tummies, does stress set them off? Is there a dog version of feliway? Maybe that would help.

beanielou

Wise words from Pooky.