Too much too soon? Work trials

dekaspace

BorisThomson wrote: »

Lots and lots of excuses. Are you going tomorrow or not? Would you like any help in preparing for the interview?

Try harder with your baiting


Since I have implied various times I will then what was the point of asking.


If you truly think I am making excuses then go and educate yourself or stop lazily baiting.


I refer back to me making a effort at so many things and you have to pick on one thing I struggle with, just to put me down.


Thats excellent help for someone with mental health issues isn't it!

xapprenticex

Good luck with the trial, its good that he found you something in IT and something else that fits your past experience.

Learn some breathing techniques in case you get an adrenaline dump and remember there is a very fine line between the physical symptoms of anxiety and excitement.

keep us updated.

Tigsteroonie

The fact is, however it was handled, whatever the Advisor said, it's happening. It's happening quickly There's no point going over and over how it happened. Sometimes life is like that, you don't have much time to prepare. You just have to run with it.

dekaspace

xapprenticex wrote: »

Good luck with the trial, its good that he found you something in IT and something else that fits your past experience.

Learn some breathing techniques in case you get an adrenaline dump and remember there is a very fine line between the physical symptoms of anxiety and excitement.

keep us updated.

Interesting about the adrenaline thing, I have lacked that pulsing energy which I assumed to be adrenaline for years, and just feel tired a lot and when I am active I basically want to sleep, cant even touch alcohol as even half a pint makes me fall asleep, used to be pulsing with so much energy I would jump up and down and feel tingly all over.

pollyanna_26

Unlikely but do you have any written evidence of the things the other professionals said ? I assume it was delivered verbally but just wondering if you have any reports . If it involved case conferences there will be written evidence . It could be well to contact the social worker involved in the discussions as there will be reports .

Meanwhile did you sort out getting back to SAMH . A while ago you mentioned finally hearing from them and needing to respond . Not the priority at the moment but I'm sure at some point they can help you sort the dreadful thing that happened in your family as that hasn't been dealt with and worked through .

I hope you do turn up for the training . Give it your best shot . I recall when you worked in the past at a call centre you were a useful and capable member of staff .
Have everything you need laid out ready so there is no last minute panic looking for things and give yourself plenty of time to get there . If it gets overwhelming ask to speak to whoever is supervising the course and try to speak as calmly as you can manage to let them know and head off a meltdown .
If you do attend you have fulfilled the requirement to be there and someone will be able to deal with any issues . I imagine you wont be the first to struggle .
polly

BorisThomson

dekaspace wrote: »

Try harder with your baiting


Since I have implied various times I will then what was the point of asking.


If you truly think I am making excuses then go and educate yourself or stop lazily baiting.


I refer back to me making a effort at so many things and you have to pick on one thing I struggle with, just to put me down.


Thats excellent help for someone with mental health issues isn't it!

Not baiting, trying to stop you going round in circles. You talk about making an effort but you don't appear to stick at anything - that's what you need to work on.

Do you need any help before your interview? Have you made some notes of competency examples, team working, problem solving etc?

dekaspace

BorisThomson wrote: »

Not baiting, trying to stop you going round in circles. You talk about making an effort but you don't appear to stick at anything - that's what you need to work on.

Do you need any help before your interview? Have you made some notes of competency examples, team working, problem solving etc?

I don't stick as I flake after a while and longer I have been out of work and more times I fail the less time I last.


So I make an effort but increasing mental health problems bring me down


And insecurity such as me at college alongside 17-21 year olds, and of course how they would arrange things like class nights out and not even invite me, not out of spite but because they thought I was too old/not interested which made my self esteem lower.

rach_k

Do you actually want help/advice or do you just want people to agree with you? If it's the latter, here you go:
Yes, absolutely, you're right. Cancel everything. It's not your fault and there's nothing you could do about it.

If you want help, you have received lots of good suggestions here. Why don't you try taking some of the advice? Just give it a go. Doing nothing isn't helping you, by the sound of it. Sometimes doing something completely different can help.

dekaspace

rach_k wrote: »

Do you actually want help/advice or do you just want people to agree with you? If it's the latter, here you go:
Yes, absolutely, you're right. Cancel everything. It's not your fault and there's nothing you could do about it.

If you want help, you have received lots of good suggestions here. Why don't you try taking some of the advice? Just give it a go. Doing nothing isn't helping you, by the sound of it. Sometimes doing something completely different can help.

Saying hes doing it for my benefit not his isn't "advice" his job is to help but that doesn't mean hes putting my needs first over his.



And please please please use your common sense and tell me where I said I WASN'T going to do it.


So why is agreeing with me saying "cancel everything" when I never once said that.


I have both already attempted things said as well as listened,


The point was about me rushing in with my background and him meant to not rush me but doing so because of his own interests.


Its why I mentioned if for example I applied for a job on my own I would expect feedback at some point even if it was a rejection, this was out of the blue and promised to specifically not rush in, and his own words were getting someone into IT or call centre made him look good as its something he can add to his portfolio, at no point did he make it clear it was for my benefit over his and kept referring to what he got out of it.


I don't think hes a bad guy, actually seems friendly but seems to be putting his own interests first and hasn't taken mine into account when he specifically knows I screwed up before by rushing in and that was when I was in a better place mental health wise (and physically)

pink_princess

You can do it

It will push you out of your comfort zone and you may get palpitations and sweaty but talk to them, they can help you through it.

It could be the turning point for you. Good luck :A