Online Dating Tips

PeacefulWaters

Lolly88 wrote: »

Out of curiosity what was it that made that date exciting and spectacular and if it made such an impression why was it a one off?

She was stunning. Fantastic company. Very affectionate.

And then ghosted me!

krlyr

Try meetup.com or similar. I signed up just to get out a bit more after ending a long-term relationship, my goal wasn't actually dating but I did find a dog walking group set up partly to give single dog walkers company, partly to replace dating sites. I don't go on the walks to find someone but there do seem to be some singles there that hit off quite well with each other and it's a lot less pressure than a formal date. Plus you know you have at least one thing in common and if you find after chatting that you don't get on, there's no obligation to go on a date or anything.

emsywoo123

PeacefulWaters wrote: »

If it's gone well, as you return to cars etc t........... Go for the kiss on the lips.

No no no no no no no.

This is a major no no for me!

Not_Me_Officer

z1a wrote: »

" Online Dating Tips" - Don't. - Get out into the real world & meet real people.

Well when i met mine i must admit that tapping away on the keyboard felt really real.

And when we met up i could've sworn she was real too.

And when she moved in 2 years after we met (long distance) that felt real too.

As did when we got married 7 years after that.

And now we're 14 years in i've got to admit it still to this day feels really real.

Although i must confess, it wasn't an actual online dating website we met on but a forum where we just got chatting. Sorry, to you i'm guessing that'd be typing because you can only chat face-to-face or on the phone.

Fancy that.

alex_163163

My advice - just keep trying! I was on internet dating for nearly 2 and a half years and sometimes it felt like a second job! You have to put the time in to get anywhere.
I had quite a few first dates, a few second dates and minimal 3rd dates! But after 2.5 years, just as I was literally about to delete my profile as I was fed up with online dating, I got chatting to a guy and nearly 2 years later we have just bought our first home together.
Some of my advice/ 'rules' would be:

Don't send one word messages, like 'hi'. Nothing more uninspiring!

If you get chatting to someone, try meet up at the 1 week point. I used to hate messaging back and forth for weeks before we could meet up - I just got bored.

Don't go in for a kiss on the lips on a first date, contrary to the advise of someone above! This would really put me off and it would take more than 1 date for me to decide if I liked the person. First dates will always be more exciting as you should have lots to chat about. Proof is in the 2nd date!
Again contrary to the same person above, if you have enjoyed a date, do send a short text at the end of the night asking if they are home ok, and saying you enjoyed the evening.

Profile pics - not too many group friend shots. Also make sure they aren't just all selfies taken in the same mirror whilst in different outfits!

Don't write war and peace on your bio, just a couple of paragraphs will be fine. Try word it so there is an obvious question to ask from it. E.g. 'I lived in Spain for x years' but don't say exactly where or why - gives an easy opening for someone to ask you a question back.

Also, is your search area too narrow? My now-boyfriend was 50 miles away (luckily we both drive) and we were both unsure of the distance when we first started messaging but I'm so glad we took a chance on each other now! The hike in petrol costs was worth it!

And again, just keep trying! It took many many messages, bad dates, & fizzled out connections until I found 'the one'. Don't let it all get you down - just keep living your life, having fun with friends etc, and it will happen when you least expect it as I found out!

DUTR

Pay_me wrote: »

So been on online dating for a few months now and having absolutely no luck what so ever.

Literally had about 3 messages in that time one I set a date up (the girl who turned up was not the girl in the photos) the other two matches 1 fizzled out quickly after few message the second girl scared me lol. I had to block her so she couldn't phone, text, watsapp etc.

For the last 6 weeks I have not managed to get a single girl to reply to my initial messages. I stick to the rules, i.e. personalise the messages but nothing.

So anyone have any tips? (I'm 33)

Thanks

Are you getting lots of new views though?
Don't let it knock your confidence, there are 7 times more blokes to women on them , only send messages to ones that are online at the time, some are dormant accounts :eek:. Remember some are only on there for an ego boost so have no intention of dating or meeting even if you were a movie star or footballer. Change your profile even if slightly every now and then so your profile goes back to the top of the queue, use meet me, even if the profile says they can't see it, you know those are the ones not worth bothering with as everyone can see it, and if they were interested in meeting someone they would use it themselves rather than sitting waiting for Adonis to contact them and they happen to notice his message through the upmeteen messages they have.
Good luck and don't give up.

caprikid1

Its great fun and almost addictive.


Had two serious relationships from it ,second one 18 months.

strawberries1

Lots of good advice on here! I'm single female late 30s. Many first dates few seconds but not the elusive connection for my late first date! It gets tiring!

Huwbert

Good advice on here, even the first dates have dried up tho! My advice would be not to expect fireworks on the first date as you both may well be nervous and sussing each other out. Give it a couple of dates and see how things go!

Fireflyaway

I met my now husband this way. I'd say be careful of the sites you use. Some sites are more for quick hook ups than longer term. Choose a site where you have to pay which usually attracts a different sort of person. Then just be patient. Some people will be on these sites because they are socially awkward. Some because they want to date multiple people! Its just a matter of time. Have an accurate photo, don't be too enthusiastic or ask too many questions. I found that one person I was messaging seemed cool but in 'real life' we didn't get on, so I'd say don't waste too much time chatting online before you meet.
Its just luck. You could meet lots of strange people. You could have girls who are not into you, or girls you don't fancy. Kind of similar to job hunting! Good luck.