Freezing my Eggs

Chlorine7

I'm 34 and will probably be single for while still. I'm considering freezing my eggs as I have the money and since I live in London, I won't ever be able to afford a place solo anyway.

Has anyone got any experience, good or bad of doing this? Or any recommendations of where?

Soundgirlrocks

Hi Chlorine, I'm in a similar situation, 34 single in London. I discounted freezing because of the costs and have settled to try co parenting if I'm still single in a few years (mentally l've said 37!)

Loz01

Is there a right age to freeze eggs??? I'm 30 with no kids and my work colleague (kindly...) pointed out that they would start to decline if I dint get pregnant soon (aren't people tactful :rotfl: ) So is it the earlier the better to freeze 'em or do most people do it their mid 30's...? Not saying I want to, just interested.

Hedgehog99

If women do want to freeze eggs, it's better done in their early twenties. Leave it later and the quality declines - might not be a problem for a natural ovulation leading to pregnancy, but these have to survive thatwing and still be functional.

It's a hell of a process to go through though, and you have to think whether it's really worth it.

z1a

No thought about any kids having an old decrepit mum!

FBaby

Like many things related to conceiving, freezing eggs is a unknown quantity. A successful outcome is going to be based on a number of things but all in all, remains against the odds especially for a woman in her mid 30s.

Chances a successful pregnancy with frozen embryos are lower than those of fresh embryos. Success when the eggs are fertilised after the defrosting process is even lower. All this then of course depends on how many good quality eggs were harvested. It might take two or even maybe three goes.

This could end up a very expensive process and emotionally draining, for a chance of successful pregnancy still below 50% probably at best, most likely closer to 10/20% if that.

So really, it's all about whether it is worth it or not and I would needs to be weighted against the chances of meeting someone, considering adoption, and considering life without children.

My advice would be do your research and if you want to go ahead with it, look at clinics success not only in terms of successful birth, but success rate with frozen eggs (numbers likely to be low) and frozen embroys (more data available). Some clinics will be more successful with fresh embroys whilst others will have higher success rate than others with frozen).

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z1a wrote: »

No thought about any kids having an old decrepit mum!

They can just get a 'toy boy' to cover when they are gone!

I had forgotten and suppose quite pleased to be recently reminded - My friends Mum had my friend at 40+ back in the 80's - the lady is 72 now with no regrets. x

hazyjo

Nothing wrong or 'decrepit' about it. I fully understand. Lots of women have kids in their 30s and 40s. For those who might be confused, it's not often for people can hang onto their eggs indefinitely in case they want a kid when they're 60, 70 or whatever, it's more that they may not meet Mr Right and may choose to have kids anyway, or may find they go through the menopause early (I have friends who went through it in their 30s). If you want kids, you don't want to get to 34 and realise you've missed your chance purely as you've not met Mr Right yet.


I'm 47. I always thought I would have kids. Unfortunately I split with my first husband at 30 and plans shot out the window. Had several relationships since but never planned a family with any of them. For years I regretted it and hoped it might happen, but I have changed my mind over the last few years. I've accepted it and would probably be horrified if I got pregnant now. I like my life how it is and have come to terms with it.


Those years go VERY quickly. I can honestly say there is not one time when it would have been right for me to have a baby if I had frozen my eggs though, so I expect they'd still be sitting in a freezer!


I just don't see the harm in doing it. You never know what life may throw at you.


I don't think you have long to decide btw... Don't leave it too long!

Chlorine7

FBaby wrote: »

Like many things related to conceiving, freezing eggs is a unknown quantity. A successful outcome is going to be based on a number of things but all in all, remains against the odds especially for a woman in her mid 30s.

Chances a successful pregnancy with frozen embryos are lower than those of fresh embryos. Success when the eggs are fertilised after the defrosting process is even lower. All this then of course depends on how many good quality eggs were harvested. It might take two or even maybe three goes.

This could end up a very expensive process and emotionally draining, for a chance of successful pregnancy still below 50% probably at best, most likely closer to 10/20% if that.

So really, it's all about whether it is worth it or not and I would needs to be weighted against the chances of meeting someone, considering adoption, and considering life without children.

My advice would be do your research and if you want to go ahead with it, look at clinics success not only in terms of successful birth, but success rate with frozen eggs (numbers likely to be low) and frozen embroys (more data available). Some clinics will be more successful with fresh embroys whilst others will have higher success rate than others with frozen).

Yes, it is obviously better to do it in your 20's but that ship has sailed. I was in a relationship in my 20's which ended when I was 30.

Thank you for regurgitating what I have already researched on the internet. I am well aware of the costs and success rates. I'm sorry if I seem rude but this post seems condescending.

What I have asked for is any experiences from anyone who has gone through the process or maybe why they didn't. Possibly any recommendations as that can be incredibly helpful in a decision too.

Reading the experiences and stories on the various clinic websites will only show the positive aspects and inflated %'s. I want something a little more unbiased.

Chlorine7

hazyjo wrote: »

I don't think you have long to decide btw... Don't leave it too long!

I don't. I either do it now or never.

surveyqueenuk

Chlorine7 wrote: »

What I have asked for is any experiences from anyone who has gone through the process or maybe why they didn't. Possibly any recommendations as that can be incredibly helpful in a decision too.

Why don't you ask on Mumsnet? You don't have to have children to be able to post there and I am almost certain that someone will be able to help you.