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ivyleaf

MrsLurcherwalker wrote: »

IVYLEAF would something like a cotton reel or some marbles in a bag under the bottom sheet at the edge of the bed in a couple of places be enough to wake him if he rolled towards the edge? like folks do to make them roll over off their backs if they snore?

I don't think so, but thank you

VJsmum

mardatha wrote: »

I'm feeling a lot older than I did, even a few months ago. Arthritis in the feet make walking painful, and the doc says my arches are crumbling so that's why none of my shoes fit, I bought 5 pairs of expensive shoes one after the other before I realised it wasn't the damn shoes it was my damn feet And now with this sling and the hellish shoulder pain if I move the arm at all, I keep hearing this song :rotfl:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RghKdGn8h5A

LOL (at the song) - my mum went out in her wheelchair for the day a few years ago and ended up like that! Sorry about your troubles

kittie wrote: »

My loneliest time was as a stay at home new mum

Mine too!!! But you are supposed to be #soblessed and so thrilled and i have never felt more wretched. I joined the local NCT group and it was AWFUL - all they talked about was babies :rotfl: I went back to work (for 2 days a week) when she was 4 months old - best thing i ever did. You just aren't allowed to say that small babies are boring - I remember the comedian Cathy lette saying that you can sit and watch your plants photosynthesise :rotfl:

MMF - my mum had a real internal battle before she went into a wheelchair. She asked me what i thought and said "isn't it just giving up?" I said that right now (at that point) the illness (rheumatoid arthritis) had got hold of her and was dictating to her, going in the wheelchair meant that she'd told it "b@lls to this, i'm doing things anyway". She liked that, went in it and never looked back - she went on holidays, days out, could go shopping and had a much fuller life. i should say, though, that my mum was only in her early 60's then. We have just persuaded MiL to get a motorised scooter and she can now go on dog walks with her daughter and out with her baby great grandson... She's not thrilled, saying things like "I used to skip from rock to rock walking up Snowdon" but i just say "Well i used to turn cartwheels down Sheerness high street, but things change. Now if i were to turn a cartwheel, I'd have to lie down for the rest of the day.". :rotfl:

Softstuff

Thank you for the congratulations, I feel like you lot are my cheerleading squad In all honesty, couldn't have done it without my husband, my GP and you lot.

MMF007, it's the milestones that make you more determined and walking up a gradient without puffing like a steam train is a great one, I wish you every success and we're all here cheering you on.

Silvasava, glad you're on the mend now. I couldn't have done without my meds previously, but the one I have now stopped first is one that required my GP to get authorisation before prescribing it, it has been banned for this use in most countries and has a high risk of causing heart attack :eek: Fingers crossed I'm ok, the GP is all ready for me if I need him though. I'm glad you've been able to ditch one too.

VJsmum, does he have a camelbak for cycling? I fret when hubby cycles in summer here, but to be fair you scarcely find any aussie cyclists who cycle between 10am and 4pm here in summer, most set off stupidly early to avoid the heat.

Monnagran, I'm far from a walking miracle... today I had to go into work unexpectedly and was feeling far more effect of the gym than even yesterday. I had to endure much ribbing for walking a little like John Wayne and wincing every time I sat down, I have supportive yet cruel colleagues Meanwhile, as regards "glowing" with perspiration, I don't... I sweat like a pig. In summer here I drink like a fish just to keep up.

Fuddle, I have every confidence you'll get there health wise. Not everything can or will be fixed (I still have issues), but a fair amount can be at least managed well and with your level of determination I'm sure you'll get there in the end. Incidentally you'd be surprised in an emergency room what symptoms and conditions can be caused by trapped wind or constipation (and how many people come in with it). Kitty mentions ground flaxseeds, we make this: https://www.marksdailyapple.com/chia-flax-hot-pudding/#axzz4HdolDAvB not sure if it's good for your issues, but as a hot breakfast that ...er... gets you moving, we like it.

Mardatha, would some orthotics with good arch support help? The song did give me a chuckle though :rotfl: I'd steer clear of any vets just in case Monna has precalled them. I like "ornery" as a word, it's stoic but with more of a cantankerous streak and some dark humour to my mind.

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I bet AnE is full of poorly people at the moment, who aren`t coping with the heat. Thankfully my new house has a cool side and I bet had a larder on the north wall at one time


I changed my mind about snug/conservatory wall divider. I will be getting the conservatory upgraded to a summer/winter room with an insulating roof, it would I think be better to leave it all as one sweep, rather than a division. Conservatory is approx 12 x 12, a nice size. Money saved because I would be getting the conservatory upgraded anyway


I think I will slosh clean water on my stone floor later, it will cool the air

monnagran

silver-oldie, I wish I lived near you. I'd be hammering on your door, clutching a bag of cheese scones and begging a mug of coffee.
I know that 'alone' feeling. You spend your life being a rock for everyone and suddenly you're a bit older and a bit limper and you need a rock of your own. Where is it? Not there, that's for sure. That's when it hits home that there is no one there to rely on. Friends are great but as you get older they all have their own problems and you don't like to involve them in yours. Family is great too, but they all have busy lives of their own and often still expect you to be there and available to help them, as you've always been.
In my own case I have always lived in the middle of a 3-ringed circus with chaotic life swirling around me, but suddenly I am on my own. I often wonder if I happened to die in my sleep how long it would take for someone to realise that I wasn't around.

When I have an important decision to make, there is no-one to share it with me. People are kind to give their advice but mostly it is not going to affect them one way or another.

I know that I have lots of friends but it takes years to make them, and like you, I am not a joiner of things.

Yes, silver-oldie, come and live next door to me, we'd have a great time.

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a poignant post monna and every word of it is true

monnagran

kittie, I hope you don't think I'm moaning. Fundamentally I'm a happy and positive person, but I know too well that feeling that you are, suddenly and completely, on your own.

I also know that I am far from the only person to feel this.

ivyleaf

Thank you all so much for your concern about mr ivyleaf :A :A :A
I'm going to tuck a cushion between the bed and the bedside cabinet with it protruding just above the surface of the cabinet, so he can't bump his face again. Sadly no space for a separate mattress on the floor, or a separate bed, but box cushions on the floor sound a good idea as he could stand them against the side of the bed to get them out of the way when he's getting up.
When we first moved here we had a 2-metre bed with 2 separate mattresses, which we'd bought when we lived in Germany. It was lovely, but there was no room for anything else beside the bed, and when the mattresses needed replacing (Dunlopillo) it would have cost more than we could afford, so we went down to a 5ft bed then. at least it meant there was room for bedside cabinets for our glasses and a drink etc.

fudds I do get cramps when I'm worrying, but also have lots of diverticula and a colon that's "narrowed", "looping" and "tortuous" so even small amounts of gas get trapped.
I bought a "low FODMAP" cookbook, but the intro says that foods that upset some people may be fine for someone else and it's a case of trial and error, which would seem to let the author off the hook nicely. As I like porridge with some golden syrup in cold weather, I looked to see if golden syrup was on the high or low FODMAP list....it was in both lists. Oops.

MMF It was lovely of you to take your In-laws on holiday, and it sounds as if you did all you could to try to make sure they enjoyed themselves. I don't know what your FIL would think of Mr ivyleaf who's been using a stick since he was in his forties due to a dodgy hip that tends to give way (not to mention the numb foot).

silver-oldie I'm so sorry you feel lonely, and being anxious as well is horrid. I hope you'll accept several cyber-hugs. (((HUGS)))

mar My auntie had terrible trouble with shoes as she got older, due to osteoporosis. In the end she had to have some specially made for her by the hospital podiatry dept. Maybe worth inquiring?

monnagran I do worry about your walking so far in such heat. Could you use a taxi next time, if one is available? I know it means extra expense and your haircut or whatever will be much dearer, but it would be so much better for you. xx

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We have a 2 metre bed with two separate mattresses also bought when we were in Germany and last year exchanged the Bio mattresses we got with it for two of exactly the right size from Ikea and they are supremely comfortable and I think were £160 each and worth every penny too.

Islandmaid

They have just said on the local news that our hospital has additional 50people a day in due to the sun, mostly sunstroke/dehydration.

I am annoyed with 87 YO MIL who phoned to say she was feeling unsteady and a bit feint yesterday, she refuses to drink more - I rushed round to find the jug of water I had put by her chair earlier had not been touched, the windows and doors had been shut. I took her to see the nurse and our local medical Center who told her she was dehydrated and must drink lots, MIL told nurse that she does drink a lot 3 cups of tea a day and an actimel :mad: I am popping in 2-3 times a day at the moment, but (she says) I am just fussing :rolleyes: I am worried that she will collapse and not be able to get hold of us, she refuses to come here, as we don't like football :rotfl:

Those of you not feeling good, or with poorlies to care for, please look after yourselves too.

P.S I have started to listen to hypnosis in the mornings, it will never work on me, I am a stroppy hard nosed professional woman - *wakes up 2 hours later :rotfl: