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Softstuff

Huge hugs Karcher. There's nothing worse than being unfairly maligned I hope that something improves for you soon. Is there anyone who can set things straight?

I think that's good news Nursemaggie. And his need for independence might explain his reluctance to look at houses. It could be really good for the both of you, you getting peace, quiet and support, and him learning to stand on his own two feet independently.

Monna, I assumed that low cal, low carb diets were something Mardatha had heard of but didn't believe were really real... like unicorns, or life sized jelly babies Much as I know (via my friends daughter), that unicorns poop rainbows and vomit glitter, I don't expect I'll be able to ride one :rotfl: The doctor I'm seeing is frankly a good example. Well over 60 but looks about 40 and is a member of a local rowing team. He is, as the young'uns say, ripped.

karcher

monnagran wrote: »

Terrific nm.

Karcher, watch your emails.

I have. Thank you Monna xxx

nursemaggie

Floss will be on soon telling you she has PM'd you karcher.

Now what you need is one of us to chat all day with PM's and then do something completely different like DS and I. If he had not forgotten to click rent we would never have had to long discussion on him getting a flat. He will still have to go on the local link but now it will be only 5 minutes to the bus station in stead of 40mins.

Bigjenny

karcher :grouphug:have a dodgy hug from us, and we are here with the elephant, our rolling pins and aprons at the ready if you need us.

Floss

nursemaggie wrote: »

Floss will be on soon telling you she has PM'd you karcher....

You took the words out of my fingers NM!

Karcher give me 15 minutes to get it writted

MMF007

NM great news about getting attendance allowance, about time too!!
I have to say I was wondering if your DS was subconsciously dragging his heels. If you get sheltered accommodation and he gets a flat he can have spread his wings while still looking out for you. Glad you both had a really good talk about it.

Softstuff, my diet stalled due to the chaos when my dad was so poorly. I am maintaining my weight loss but need to get my act together and begin further reduction! Unfortunately I have spent this evening dealing with more paperwork to help mum so exercise was cerebral rather than physical. Doh.

Karcher, sweetheart, please have this huge virtual hug (((((0)))))) and a box of virtual tissues with soothing balm in them.
I know what you mean about being maligned. It is so wrong when blame is doled out inappropriately and I, too, have a tendancy to take it to heart. But why? Essentially because we hate injustice!
Can you set out in writing to the other party (or preferably their superior) why they are wrong in their accusations, simply so you get to have your say in a calm considered way.

Don't get angry, get even! By detailing what is actually the case, you will be showing up your 'accuser' for what they are. And i bet there are folks that already know the true nature of the person concerned who may well come out of the woodwork once the matter is exposed.

Don't forget, us Fencers, a dainty elephant, and Nursey have got your back. xx

karcher

nursemaggie wrote: »

Floss will be on soon telling you she has PM'd you karcher.

Now what you need is one of us to chat all day with PM's and then do something completely different like DS and I. If he had not forgotten to click rent we would never have had to long discussion on him getting a flat. He will still have to go on the local link but now it will be only 5 minutes to the bus station in stead of 40mins.

NM I read your posts and all I want is a better life for you and your son. I so hope you find a happy medium soon x

mardatha

BigJenny you're out of date pet. We haven't got an elephant. I ettit.
Monna and Softstuff - I do eat low carb and I try to eat low sugar. This is the problem lol. DEPRIVATION!

nursemaggie

Thank you karcher. I think MMF007has a very good suggestion there. I could have done with that advice when I was bullied at work. I was very young and the internet was 40 years away.

karcher

MMF007 wrote: »

Karcher, sweetheart, please have this huge virtual hug (((((0)))))) and a box of virtual tissues with soothing balm in them.
I know what you mean about being maligned. It is so wrong when blame is doled out inappropriately and I, too, have a tendancy to take it to heart. But why? Essentially because we hate injustice!
Can you set out in writing to the other party (or preferably their superior) why they are wrong in their accusations, simply so you get to have your say in a calm considered way.

Don't get angry, get even! By detailing what is actually the case, you will be showing up your 'accuser' for what they are. And i bet there are folks that already know the true nature of the person concerned who may well come out of the woodwork once the matter is exposed.

Don't forget, us Fencers, a dainty elephant, and Nursey have got your back. xx

Oh you've made me cry..MMF thank you x

I have done much of what you have suggested already but I am banging my head against a brick wall, read male chauvinistic woman hater: How can a woman possibly do this job better than a man?

I have detailed my case and put it out there only to be told I wasn't allowed to?

Thank you MMF xxx yours is exactly the support I need so I don't give up and continue to fight my corner. Thank you xx