The Garden Fence - proper Old Style support and chat!

Hard_Up_Hester

Wonderful new about dd Polly.

pollyanna_26

Thank you Hester it's taken a very long time but was worth all the effort through the years. One very caring GP who battled alongside us throughout many years was a real game changer. He never gave up so neither could we.

Are you back at the Marina now? The nights are beginning to draw in and it will be good if you're back to base after your meanderings.

I hope you, Steve , Beano and the family are well and Steve is his usual chirpy self- cough. A stroke is such an out of the blue life changer but your dark at times sense of humour seems to have kept you going and supporting him through good times and bad. You have a very big heart Hester and have faced tough times in your life but you are a strong woman who has faced tough times and got through.

I do hope you're getting those hugs now from the grandchildren and family you've been so looking forward to.

Look after yourself

pollyxx

pollyanna_26

A very impressive picture Mar and I'm glad you escaped the deluge. You can sit and eat your Smarties while pondering how nice it is to be a nice wee wumman rather than a homicidal maniac. it's much less exhausting for us both when you're nice.

polly who is still reading backx

MrsCD

I jumped off the fence to go to the seaside today. DD asked if we fancied a trip out so we put up some flasks and headed out to South Shields. We walked along the seafront and up the hill at the south end to see the old war cannon, I think it is. The view was wonderful, looking up the beach and seeing the waves crashing in with the surfers trying to stay on their boards. The rain kept away but it was very windy. We were back home by 3pm, exhausted but very happy.
I'm glad the water didn't reach your house Ming. It must have been a worrying time for you. Thank goodness for your sweeties!
Polly, I'm so pleased that your daughter is coping better with things. Long may it continue.
Monnagran, I remember over many years reading your comments to others to support them, and I hope that you have someone who can help you with David. I don't want you to run yourself into the ground. Please look after yourself.

pollyanna_26

monna I totally understand your concern for David who sounds like a wonderful man with a ilfe well lived while caring for others.  After losing his beloved after so many years suddenly  he will be totally bereft and your support will be a bright light in the darkness.

I just want you to take good care of yourself too. It's easy to push yourself too far so you do need some downtime. Many a time I'd be thinking to myself come on one foot in front of the other while trying to convince youngest that one day those seemingly never ending appointments would be worthwhile. I never imagined it would take nearly 20 years for that to happen but we do what we can when needed.

David must look forward to your visits so just try to find a balance between your needs and his and bear in mind Christmas stockings , baking and marmalade as well as some rest and reading and other things you enjoy. The marmalade with Clemanties sounds lovely and should prove popular.

I know it bothers you you didn't manage to get things sorted in the bungalow but you have had many different demands on your time over the years and however hard you try there are other things to do.

If it's any comfort I have a new kitchen complete with the kitchen sink in the garage , the taps are in an indoor cupboard. It should have been fitted a few years ago but life was busy still and it was delayed.

I was just planning to have it done when along came the pandemic so with an ECV daughter i wasn't about to have workmen in the house.

I think it was John Lennon who said " Life is what happens when you're busy making other plans" It's true monna and whether it was dds health, the toxic second husband or an unfitted kitchen it is what it is.

Since last year many people have created beautiful gardens and renovated their homes but we must bear in mind other things take priority in life at times and they need to be our focus. I do have a working kitchen which is more than many have and i count my blessings.

Just find a bit of you time and get your feet up for a while.If it will help I wont expect you to glitter the cobwebs for Christmas.

pollyx

pollyanna_26

burtha said:

Morning all . 
20 mins to catch up with you all today . thankfully I'm on a weeks holiday, as everything is still a bit full on . 
my little dog had a operation last week and is now on the mend , just waiting for lab results back .
and youngest dd is moving into student halls today . although we are only 10mile from university.  
think she will be here 3 days out of 7 depending on her mental health  . 
hope everyone is ok . 

I don't normally watch the news , but looking at the headlines it's all abit  yuck still . 
think I'll go back to head in the sand and worrying about just my little world instead  . 
the world I'm sure will cope .

x 

Sorry burtha I've been working my way back through posts I missed so it took a while to get to yours. I hope ittle dog is ok now.

You are a very loving and wise mum so remembering your youngest dd went through periods of not opening up about her worries and kept things to herself is she now discussing her difficulties with you as they occur?

If youngest had spoken to me when she started high school about the bullying she was experiencing on a daily basis it might have prevented the damaging coping methods she adopted to try to get through the days until I decided to home school her.

I can't see uni objecting to her attending part time if she can keep up with the work.

My eldest dd tall, slim and an athlete was always super confident.she was was mainly studying English Lit and sending lovely pictures of her and her friends home. Near the end of her first year I had a phone call from her athletics coach teling me he was sending her home for a while as she'd developed signs of anorexia and needed to see the GP. That was a total shock and I never got the full story of why it happened out of the blue. After seeing our GP she got back to her old self, hadn;t been homesick and never spoke of it again.

I do hope your dd is now able to talk about her highs and lows with you. 3mw did a lot of damage that can affect both self esteem and confidence but you're the opposite to him in every way and can support her through any ups and downs.

If she's going to Durham they have a good reputation and most unis are far more flexible nowadays when it comes to MH.

i hope all your loved ones are well. You make sure you look after yourself too. We never did dance on the tables but maybe soon we'll manage it.

Keep on running!

pollyx

Hard_Up_Hester

Polly your posts are always so full of wisdom and kindness.

Monna listen to Polly!

We're watching the water levels very carefully here and adjusting the ropes accordingly, some days when I step off the boat it's almost level with the jetty, sometimes there is an eight inch difference.

monnagran

I'm listening Hester.  The trouble is that my brain hasn't aged along with the rest of me and it keeps coming up with things I could do, might do, should do, would regret not doing..........................
On the other hand it has developed a distressing ability to forget how to do them.

Never mind.  We keep muddling on.

Polly, you are a fine one to be talking about the wonderful things other people are doing.  Have you forgotten about that ring of shining light above your own head?
You are a walking, talking marvel my girl.  Never, ever change.  

Sorry.  I've completely lost my train of thought.  A long conversation with a dear friend who has just lost her husband.  I'll come back later.

pollyanna_26

MrsCD said:

I jumped off the fence to go to the seaside today. DD asked if we fancied a trip out so we put up some flasks and headed out to South Shields. We walked along the seafront and up the hill at the south end to see the old war cannon, I think it is. The view was wonderful, looking up the beach and seeing the waves crashing in with the surfers trying to stay on their boards. The rain kept away but it was very windy. We were back home by 3pm, exhausted but very happy.
I'm glad the water didn't reach your house Ming. It must have been a worrying time for you. Thank goodness for your sweeties!
Polly, I'm so pleased that your daughter is coping better with things. Long may it continue.
Monnagran, I remember over many years reading your comments to others to support them, and I hope that you have someone who can help you with David. I don't want you to run yourself into the ground. Please look after yourself.

I somehow missed your post on my big catch up. Thank you for your kind wishes for dd, I expect a few blips along the way when she's in pain and losing sleep but things seem much more positive now she's whizzing through all appointments that were postponed and left her without her normal regular checkups which help keep things more under control. Superdoc calls it firefighting bringing in extra meds when needed some of which need a consultant.

I'm glad you enjoyed your trip to the seafront and up the hill. We're a short walk from the beach here but haven't been over the last couple of years.. We get gales whipping in over the Irish Sea and are only 3 meteres above sea level so it's a nice non windy day if we go along the seafront . It's been busy along there during the pandemic so hopefully one day we'll get there again on a warm day.

monna has always been so kind and caring over the years and so lovely to everyone I do wish she wasn't tiring herself out. David seems to be a very private man. He did accept some help initially from a neighbout moving bags that monna had filled when sorting stuff for charity, tip etc. I would hope there would be some help available but seem to recall the congregation are elderly so there doesn't seem much choice. Someone his age will value their privacy which is understandable.

Going back to the North East I don't know if you've ever seen the two photographers who take glorioue pictures of the lighthouses , moons including Supermoons , the bridges , sunrises and sunsets and post them online. I can't remember their names but they're usually out before daylight until late at night and also capture stormy seas. I'll have to try and remember their names.

pollyx

MrsCD

No, Polly, I don't think I have seen those photos,but they sound amazing.
We don't get to the seaside often because its about an hour's drive for us and neither of us like to drive too far nowadays. I'll see if I can put a picture up for you!