Ex-boyfriend wants me to pay back rent

Takeaway_Addict

Murzipan wrote: »

Posting here for the first time in the hope that someone can offer advice. I have recently split up with my boyfriend. We were living together in a flat that he owns. When I moved in, we agreed (verbally, nothing written down) that instead of contributing to the mortgage repayments, I would put the money I had been paying in rent previously (£600/month) into a Help to Buy ISA which we could use were we to buy a property together in the future. This decision was so that I would not be paying towards the mortgage on a property not in my name, and so that I would have no claim on the flat if we split up.

Now that we have split up, he is asking that I give him all of that money as rent for the time we lived together. I am only working part-time and need this money to pay towards the deposit and first month's rent in a new place. Do I have to give him this money, or can I argue that I was not a tenant but rather a co-habiting partner in the house? Thanks in advance.

Half is his money...though as he has no proof he probably could not force you to pay it

skint_chick

He didn't want any contribution to the mortgage to avoid you having a claim over his property. The agreement was that you would use the Help to Buy ISA for a future property together. He no longer wants to buy a property with you in the future. Therefore you are entitled to use your Help to Buy ISA to buy your own property - or rent if that is what you want to do, since it is your account. A court won't see this any differently. He is just annoyed that you have left and have savings.

Don't get into an argument over it, just don't respond. He can ask all he wants, I don't think morally there's any issue either as you paid your share of the bills and he specifically asked you not to pay rent. He can't change his mind retrospectively

mum2one

I'm for telling him to jog on, you paid ur share of bills... he's made sure u never had any hold in the property..

borkid

ERICS_MUM wrote: »

OP's ex is in no worse a position now than if OP hadn't lived with him for that period. He owns his property, she paid half their living expenses. It didn't cost him anything extra for her to live there and no doubt he derived some benefits from her presence (housework, ironing etc !!!). I don't see why he should expect to make a profit from the situation. If OP had known that all the boyfriend wanted was a paying lodger she probably would not have moved in.

She also contributed to repairs and furniture.

AylesburyDuck

Has anybody asked (i've skim read) how much the mortgage was a month?

Mojisola

AylesburyDuck wrote: »

Has anybody asked (i've skim read) how much the mortgage was a month?

Why does that matter?

AylesburyDuck

Mojisola wrote: »

Why does that matter?

In the great scheme of things, nothing, i just wanted to see how much of a micky her Ex partner was trying to take with £600 PLUS half the bills as well.
To me it sounds like him wanting his cake, eating it and asking for seconds as well.
But thats just my opinion.
So, OP, how much was his mortgage per month?