Ex-boyfriend wants me to pay back rent

gettingtheresometime

Murzipan wrote: »

I paid in for just over a year, with the additional £400 per month going into a separate savings account.

Well I'm no financial guru (as my debts will testify!) but if you can avoid using the money in the ISA for the deposit for your new place.


Don't get into a discussion with him (you never know if he's recording the conversation or keeping texts!) about it - just ignore him

CP26

Before we got married it was agreed that I paid my OH half of the bills but nothing towards the mortgage as he owned the property. I put what would have been my rent money if I'd been living alone into savings.

The idea was that if we split he had his house and I had funds to start again. We split all other bills, holidays etc 50/50 but anything to do with the bricks and mortar was his responsibility alone.

Assuming you were contributing fairly to the bills and other joint expenditure then I would just ignore his demands. As others have said, he cant have it both ways, if he wants to back charge you rent then I dont see why you couldn't argue that, if you were to pay it, then you have a beneficial interest in the property.

Murzipan

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

How is he going to make you give him the money?

Who paid the bills, food etc.?

If he paid everything and you paid nothing I would give him some but not all of it.

I paid half the bills, and bought some of the furniture, paid my share for repairs if white goods broke down, etc.

Murzipan

cjdavies wrote: »

What happened to the money you put away?

It's still in the savings account. He wants that plus the money in the ISA.

Murzipan

Thank you for this advice. We've split all bills and I've paid my way in everything.

Loanranger

Why are you only working part time? Get a another job either an additional part time or a full time one, and just move on with your life.

gettingtheresometime

Loanranger wrote: »

Why are you only working part time? Get a another job either an additional part time or a full time one, and just move on with your life.

Does it matter whether she working full time or part time?

It doesn't sound as if she was not paying her way in any event - he's just trying it on!

PeacefulWaters

Single line response:

We had an arrangement. I made my contributions to that. Goodbye.


Document everything you agreed and contributed to. It might come in handy in the very unlikely event he drags you onto Judge Rinder or the county courts.

Red-Squirrel_2

Ignore ignore ignore.

What's the point of having an agreement that specifically states you should not pay rent (for a totally sensible reason) and then demanding backdated rent later?

His nose is out of joint and he wants to punish you. He hasn't got a leg to stand on. Don't respond, it will just prolong it.

mariposa687

I'm going to be controversial here as when I lived with my ex he didn't have a job for a long time and when he did get one it was part time. The stress became so unbearable that I chose to leave him over it. I paid the majority of the rent, petrol, food shopping etc. I was tempted to ask for money but the pain of a breakup is hard enough so I let it go. He never offered anything either but knowing him it wasn't a surprise.

You have to try and be fair here, go halves on the money and let it be.