I ended things with my BF but he wants me to stand by him. Feeling torn.

KRB2725

His girlfriends family wouldn't accept him and she doesn't want him back so he'll choose you instead. Nice. What a catch.

pollypenny

Surely the sexuality is irrelevant in a committed relationship.

Playing away would mean the end whether it was with a man or a woman.

PeacefulWaters

Clean break.

No contact.

bagpussbear

You did the right thing. I know it hurts, but a clean break is the only way for you to heal and move on.

He is upset because he doesn't want to be alone.

You deserve so much more than that OP.

gettingtheresometime

Sounds like something out of Holby City.


I'll tell you what I was screaming at the TV.......run Trey, run!

seven-day-weekend

I think he should sort out his sexuality before he has a relationship with anyone. I think he is one confused individual.

I also think he doesn't know which (if either) of you he loves and has kept trying to hang on to both of you so he is not left alone.

Tell him to come back when he has sorted himself out.

Zeni

trey101 wrote: »

He told me something I didn't know before. That her parents were homophobic and that they'd never in a million years allow their daughter to be with a bisexual like him, especially one who left her for a man. He admitted no one knew about his sexuality until he got with me. Her parents didn't know, and neither did his ex. He admitted the reason he ended things with her was because he realized he had fallen for me. He said his ex forgives him and has been amazing, but feels she deserves a better man than him.

He's begged me to stay with him all day. Obviously, I still love him and want to try and overcome this obstacle. From his messages it's obvious he still has feelings for his ex, but he swears there's no way they'll ever get back together.

Should I try and give things another go? or should I give up for good?

It sounds like he is seeing that she will not take him back - her parents will be against it and it sounds like she is do if she says she deserves better..Going back to her isn't an option for him. But surely all this focus on his ex isn't really the important thing - does he want to be with you? More importantly do you want to be with him?

If I was in the same situation I feel like it would be a good idea to give him (and you!) some space, you've done the hard part of broken it off and now let it settle and see what happens and how you feel in a few weeks.

FBaby

Stop believing all the rubbish he is telling you.

I said he might as well just get back with his ex; that it was obvious he had regrets about breaking up with her, so why not just get back together?

There is only one reason why he is not back with her, without you, or cheating on you, and that's because she doesn't want him back. That was made very clear in the correspondance between them, the 'hints' that he sent her, her responses to these that were very clear how she wished him good luck.

You can bet everything that even if he was with you, she would just have to say that she realised that he is the love of her life and he would run back to her without a thought on his supposed love for you.

As for his confession? What a hypocrite. He is not with her because he thinks she deserves better than to be with a bisexual man? Ie, he is sacrificing his love for her just because she deserves a straight guy? What does this mean? That if they were together, he could potentially go and cheat on her with a man just because he is bisexual? Why would he cheat at all? What would it matter that he is also attracted to men if he was devoted to her?

He is not with her because she hasn't told him she wants him back, end of. If you're fine with that, stay with him.

Aced2016

This guy is beyond confused and in turn confusing you and his ex. I would walk away tell him to be on his own and work out what he wants ! Either to be with a man or a woman.

Once he comes to terms with that you can all move on. Either together or not. I personally think he is gay ! But I think he loves and misses his ex as a person if you get me, but sexually wants to be with men.

But he's a mixed up confused person and it's unfair on everyone else !!

suejb2

He's covering all his bases, He has tried to get back with her and failed you are and always will be sloppy seconds!
Get out he doesn't know if he wants Arthur or Martha.