When things hit rock bottom the only answer is to fight the way back up...

Bobarella

Sorry to read how your partner has behaved. You deserve better.

enthusiasticsaver

I am shocked your OH has £85 a week to himself while you are trying to scrimp together money for paying fines/debts and have no hoover/cooker/beds for some of you. To go out with his friend on your anniversary is bad too. You deserve better.

You are doing well with the no smoking though.

Hiddenidenity

I've surprised myself with the no smoking. It shows I didn't really need too. I just did it because I could

Although I think it was made easier because I don't and never have smoked when the kids are around. So it only left when they had all gone to bed to do it.

£10 cleared in PayPal. Withdrawn and should be in the bank in 72 hours.

The £30 pending I'm a bit worried about. I tracked the parcel and it says a card was left. However the buyer says no card left and he can't collect it I hope I don't need to refund him it cost me £6 to post

Have a few baby items to list to use up my last 3 listings of the month. Should hopefully bring £10

Hiddenidenity

Things to catch up on to make above work.

TV license [STRIKE]£24[/STRIKE]
Mum [STRIKE]£50[/STRIKE] £30
Council tax [STRIKE]£64[/STRIKE] £39
[STRIKE]Small Fine £105[/STRIKE]

Debt 16/5/17

Council Tax [STRIKE]£2092.71[/STRIKE] £2061 (£5 paid)
Fine 1 £1250
Fine 2 [STRIKE]£200[/STRIKE] £85
Aunt £1000
Mum £340 + [STRIKE]£87[/STRIKE] £30
Step Dad £1000
Friend £1379

Total [STRIKE]£7348.71[/STRIKE] £7145 ( £203.71 paid )


Rent arrears [STRIKE]£3381.28[/STRIKE] £3365 (£16.38 paid)


Bank balance £7.74 (need £6.25 school dinners) topped up our phones £5 each.
Savings £25 (the eBay funds waiting to be sent to the debt but for now they're staying where they are.)

Finally hit £200 paid off :T small progress but still

Toni'sfriend

Hope things are improving, Can I ask if you've been together/married long? Just wondering if he's always been like this.

Hiddenidenity

Toni'sfriend wrote: »

Hope things are improving, Can I ask if you've been together/married long? Just wondering if he's always been like this.

Been together since I was 14 :eek: (13 years)

He's definitely improved over that time. He just improves at snail pace

Toni'sfriend

If this is him improving what was he like before? Have you been married long? If he's nearly 40 he seems very immature. Has he been in touch today?

charlies_tribe

Good afternoon hidden, Hope DH has been in touch and your feeling a little better today.

Could you give him a shock, as EE said, you would be better off moneywise at the moment, on your own. Use the turn2us calculator and get the amounts you would get by yourself and present it to him, he either listens and has to sacrifice some if his (that is a lot for each week) money to help or you'll do it alone. He probably thinks you are better off as you are and it might shock him to think your even looking at going it alone (even if your not, he doesn't know that). But only you will know if this might work.

Hiddenidenity

Definitely something to think about Charlies tribe.

OH is back and peace is resumed in the hidden household.

The weather is awful so the kids are happily playing, cleaning done just some ironing to catch up on.

There's a job coming available at somewhere I've worked before (I left when youngest issues where meaning I couldn't be reliable, even though there was never an issue on their side I felt I was letting the team down) now things are more settled it's tempting to take up the offer. It's only a 10 hour contract but working 19 hours term time.

Toni'sfriend

Glad things are a bit more peaceful. Think carefully. If you start earning money it doesn't mean he can give you less money. I'm still furious about what he did last night.