When things hit rock bottom the only answer is to fight the way back up...

Toni'sfriend

Hello EE - I share your anger. You've just said all the things that I wanted to but thought that maybe I shouldn't interfere. From what you say, Hidden. you would be better on your own with the children and not just financially. He's just not helping your situation. It's a scary thought and I get the impression that you are not very confident but would you really miss him that much or are you just worried that you can't manage on your own. What is he bringing to this relationship? You've shown you can be very capable - look at what you've achieved this week. There's lots pf help out there. You deserve a life as well.

ada-or-ardor

The fact he's going out for drinks and computer games is bsolutely shocking, when he had offered to be in a position to work tomorrow. Also, what about the fact maybe you need a break once in a while. Sounds like he doesn't want to take any responsibility whatsoever. My blood boils on your behalf!!

Hiddenidenity

I don't go out I have no friends :rotfl: :rotfl:

I'll have calmed down before he's home tomorrow and all will be calm again.

Although he hasn't even opened his card for our anniversary :cool:

On the plus side of arguing the house is sparkling because I've taken my mood out on that :rotfl:

Just sat in the garden having a coffee, the kids are tucked up in bed

Going to sweep round the house and front etc I think why the weather is calm and I've nothing better to do :rotfl:

Hiddenidenity

Eager_Elephant wrote: »

So your H (not going to call him DH) gets to keep £85 per week for himself but you get nothing for yourself - there is something wrong here.

Let me just drop in here that if you separated you would get:

£73.10 per week Income Support
£47.10 Child Benefit
£189 Child Tax Credit (approx. - give or take £10)
plus maintenance for 3 kids (I reckon £50 per week)

All your rent paid and nearly all your council tax paid (depends what your area have done with regard to Council Tax Benefit/Reduction)

I know its not about the money but you would be so much better off without him and no one to argue about money with plus you would know all the bills have been paid!!!

He seriously needs to grow up - just wondering when you get to go out with your mates and stay out all night?!?!?

Angry EE!!!

I agree with all you've said I'm not perfect though and he isn't all bad xx

Toni'sfriend

Just as a matter of interest can I ask how old he is and how long you've been together?

Hiddenidenity

Logged in the council tax account and we need to pay £178 by the 4th. That's catching up on the payment me missed (23.57) 2 agreement payments (2 x £25) and this years monthly installment (£104.43). That means I need to pay just over £11 a day! That's my target and where my eBay sales/surveys etc will go.

After that.
Between the 4th June - 1st July payments are £207. (4 x £25 agreement and £107 monthly installment)

Between 1st July - 1st August payments are £232. (5 x £25 agreement and £107 monthly installment)

Between 1st August - 1st September payments are £207 (4 x £25 agreement £107 monthly installment)

I was trying to work out what I need to pay a day but my head doesn't work I'll come back to it

ETA.
I think there's 104 days between now and the 1st September.
Above payment's are £824.

About £7.95 a day? Meh how am I making it so hard

Hiddenidenity

Toni'sfriend wrote: »

Just as a matter of interest can I ask how old he is and how long you've been together?

40 on Monday and 13 years today

charlies_tribe

Happy anniversary HI , treat yourself this evening, you deserve it. Can't believe Dh wouldn't want to be at home with you on a special date. Hope he realises and comes home with flowers and chocolates.
Hope you manage to sort the cooker. Sorry it's just a short post as using my phone.

Eager_Elephant

Apologies for being blunt!!

Can't believe he went out without you on your anniversary.

I still can't fathom out what he needs £85 (or more) per week for?

Hiddenidenity

Eager_Elephant wrote: »

Apologies for being blunt!!

Can't believe he went out without you on your anniversary.

I still can't fathom out what he needs £85 (or more) per week for?

I have no idea. Cigarette's etc I assume because he knows I'm not buying any now. Where as before he'd spend on them saying they where for me but then have more than half himself :cool:

I've not even heard of him this morning.