Money Moral Dilemma: Should I give my ex of 10 years ago her coin collection back?

meknowalot-51

A lot of times past and to revisit for any reason could cause a lot of issues.As for the reasons for the divorce and who's fault it all was could take ages to explain,perhaps you feel guilty?If your ex still lives locally then give them to someone you both know to return,if on the otherhand the whereabouts is unknown then give them to a charity shop and get a receipt.

donethat

I should think after 10 years if she wanted them she would have asked for them back, or tried to reclaim them through other means.

fairy_lights

No, if she had wanted them back or if they held any particular sentimental value to her I'm sure she would have been in touch in the last ten years.
I doubt any of them are worth much anyway, coin collections rarely are.

Bellisima

Messy divorce (aren't they all?) then I would say don't bother. If it was that long ago and your ex hasn't asked for them in that time then again don't bother. As has been suggested why not donate them to a charity of your choice? They often auction stuff that is more valuable than the usual donated goods.

Fitzmichael

Wow! The mere question confirms my belief that, over the last 30 years Brits have developed a culture of dishonesty, and the fact that several respondents have said 'No, keep it', full stop or with some (reason) excuse for it is further evidence of that.
My ex terminated badly (turned out she was developing a personality disorder) but whatever the circumstances, the fact that you would even consider not returning them must mean you have a really gross personality.

PasturesNew

Give it to her. Some might hold special/happy memories of past relatives etc.

You don't want them; she might not know how/when/where she lost them and might be very sad about that.

Lrimas

Put yourself in her shoes. How will she react? You know her better than we do.

I personally would be upset if my ex tracked me down for somethig of so little value.

I would find it creepy, invasive and it will bring up too many memories that are better left alone.

But that's me...

John_Gray

Give them to a charity which has people who know about these things and how to get value from them.

It's what she would have wanted...

[If you want to tell her that's what she wanted, that's up to you!]

System

if you know where your ex lives i'd package them up and push them through the letterbox.

I wouldnt feel right keeping them, wouldnt feel right selling them and i certainly wouldnt want them around me reminding me of the past.

crmism

I shouldn't get too excited. As far as I can recall, £1 coins were first circulated in 1983, and unless there's something very odd about the collection, they're probably still only worth their face value or fractionally more.

Anyway, are you quite sure they belonged to your ex? If she didn't think sufficiently of the collection at the time you separated, she probably doesn't remember owning them now.

In your position, I'd keep and spend them before they're no longer valid currency. We're talking about £25, not £2,500 or more, so don't get hung up about such a trivial amount.:)