spendthrift husb - dunno what 2 do - ideas ?

ailuro2

He's full of bright idea isn't he?:rolleyes:

The only good idea there, is the one about claiming to be single- from what we have read here, everything points to that being your best bet! Maybe he didn't mean you to be claiming genuinely though.:rotfl:

Please don't get PG again while things are like this- it's wrong on many levels, but I think you are clever enough to realise that! Barefoot and pregnant is not somewhere you deserve to be.

Margaret54

Hi BartGirl, I am sorry to read about all you are going through, and in the end you will do what is best for you and your child. I honestly think you would be happier and your little one too if you were to send this person packing. He is very selfish. I have been there many years ago, and they stay the same. Hold your head up and believe in yourself, and i hope you are able to sort things out and are able to get the help you need to do so. Look after yourself and your little one, best wishes for the future xoxo

pinkshoes

BartGirl wrote: »

I cant change someone - altho he's expecting me to be the 1 to change. Doesnt like the way I dress, company I keep, food i cook etc. Reckons he turned a blind eye when we were first together but cant stand it any longer.

So he doesn't like the way you dress, doesn't like your friends, doesn't like your cooking, refuses to do the childcare even tho this is financially the best option, and won't give you money either!

As one human being to another: PLEASE LEAVE THIS GUY!! It sounds more like a prison sentence than a marriage! I wouldn't even wish this guy on my worst enemy! You deserve to be happy, and be loved by a guy who will love you for who you are.

If he didn't like you when he first met you, why on earth did he marry you!?! For your money?!!?

Take the advice of all the posters on here, and get him to leave! You deserve so much more than this!

charmed-imsure

This guy sounds horrible and despite you saying you can blank out the emotional abuse now, I tell you it can leave nasty scars. I had an ex that constantly bullied me and I didn't realise how badly until we split. I forgot how to laugh at jokes, forgot how to enjoy a night out (I was never allowed out). He told me what I should n shouldn't wear but in fact tried to make me wear revealing clothes which I actually don't like to wear. I couldn't speak to my family when they called and he was around because "it was rude". Oh - I'm glad I'm away from that. It was over a year ago now but it still left me with a kind of paranoia and self-consciousness. I wonder if you would be able to make him leave? As in, would he actually go? If not I'll give you one exceptionally good piece of advice on a law that was long forgotten but still exists and I used this against an ex: If he refuses to go - get an Occupation Order and couple it with a Non-Molestation Order. Occupation Order gives you the right to stay and he would need to go by a certain date and time. Non-Molestation is so that he can't bother you. Similar to an injunction but more to it.

As for changing someone - I wouldn't change my man for the world, I love him as much now as I did months ago. People change someone then say "you're not the same person I fell in love with" Erm... ok! Don't you change yourself for anyone :-)

BartGirl

guys,
you've all been really supportive - more so than the few people I've confided in about this issue.
I'm going to keep an eye on the situation and start counting the pennies - i now realise that i prob would be able to come up with the extra cash, so i shan't fret until i need to..if at all !!
I'm frantically ebaying, car booting and doing points on Boots..shall kep u all updated.
Thanks a million - again