Neighbor dispute has become nasty and intolerable

fairy_lights

FredG wrote: »

You need to address it korma-ly. Don't dilly-dhaaly on it though or it'll drive you jalfrezi. Don't set yourself up for a phaal.

I saagree. It would be a pitta to let this cause a rift. Bit of a naan issue really.

Guest101

Complaining certainly wont curry any favour with the neighbours....

Malthusian

Seems like a trivial bit of argy-bhaji to me.

[Deleted User]

Make sure the wind is blowing in their direction next time you have a big smokey BBQ

tensandunits_2

The council are very unlikely to intervene, especially if there are cultural sensitivities they have to consider.

Football_Geek

Nathaniel_Essex wrote: »

Hi all,

I live in cul de sac and have been here for the past 2 years. We had great elderly neighbors but unfortunately one has fallen ill and has been moved into retirement home. The house was put up for sale and quickly sold about 6 months ago.

Being relatively new to the area our self, my wife and I introduced ourselves to the new neighbors and everything seemed fine. One day, I went up to mow the garden for the winter and noticed a smell coming out of the neighbors kitchen (terraced homes). It was cooking but particularly pungent but never took much issue with it as I thought it would be a one off. The other neighbors and I started to notice the smell coming round to the front of the houses and you would be hit with the smell coming out of the house at times. I was not too sure the best way to approach the situation but thought if they were made aware of it, they'll be more considerate.

Bumped into the husband coming back from work and jokingly said "That curry smells nice" as a way for him to know that I noticed. He smiled and waived me on and nothing changed. A few weeks later I get a knock on my door husband and son accusing me of complaining to the council about the smell. It wasn't me but did let them know my thoughts that the smell was too much. From then on things have been quite icy, smell just as bad but wasn't bothering me too much up until recently I was inside my home for the most part.

As it has become warmer, the family and I are doing up the garden to properly use for the first time (we had no outdoor furniture and would only go outside to keep it tidy) and have purchased furniture, slide and a football net to use. Unfortunately the smell is so bad the garden is no longer usable. The smell is bad most of the time but when they are cooking it really gets in your throat and makes you feel sick. We are also getting most of the problem as they have the end of terraced property.

I approached with my wife to discuss it and we were rudely dismissed and had the door literally slammed in our faces. All the neighbors on my side sent a joint letter to the council who investigated but said there was nothing they can do. Our garden is uninhabitable. I even took the football from the garden to play in the park with my son and had the curry smell on my hands for hours, it has coated everything. As they are home owners, I don't see them moving anytime soon and it is just so stressful, so upsetting, that this perfect little home is turning into a nightmare because of ONE family.

The neighbors son has also become intimidating, making the odd comment if he sees us or the other neighbors, accuses us of being racist and playing his music in his car quite loud. I have no idea how to deal with this, everyday seeing them or smelling them is a daily irritant and it's taking it's toll on me.

Council says there is nothing they can do. What on earth can I do?

Why say "That curry smells nice", when it annoys you so much?

What is the real problem here?

seven-day-weekend

Maybe your neighbours do not like the smell of roast dinners that waft from your house.

Live and let live.

Fireflyaway

I don't see how cooking smells can be so bad that you can't use the garden! This is food. Someone is eating it. We are not talking sewage or piles of dog mess. I think its annoyed you and now you have become obsessed by it.
You can't control what people cook in their home, its none of your business. Do you seriously expect environmental health to issue you your neighbour with a list of what they may and may not cook? !
If you can't tolerate normal neighbour behaviour then don't live in on a housing estate, go and live in a remote area with no adjoining homes.

Livelongandprosper

tensandunits wrote: »

The council are very unlikely to intervene, especially if there are cultural sensitivities they have to consider.

Why on earth should the council get involved because people are cooking??

I can't abide the smell of a chip pan and the smell of cooked cabbage

Today my house smells like a tandoori because I've cooked chicken tikka masala

I hazard a guess that it smells no worse then it does if I've the chip pan on or if I've boiled cabbages only today's smell doesn't register as much as chip fat or boiled cabbage for me

I also want to leave home when my mother cooks fish




Seriously you are really ott about this. It's cooking smells. Smells that aren't to your tastes. But what do you want to happen? You neighbours to swap their dietary habits and make roast beef and pork chops the same as your family?


You say the son is intimidating you because he plays loud music in his car? I'm in my mid 50's. A female A grandmother. The only time I can listen to my choice of music at the level I like is when I'm in my own car. I blast it out. Even my husband says he knows I'm home before I pull on to the drive



You live in a terrace. It's called live and let live. Be grateful it's curry and not weed and half the town scumbags partying in your garden

If you can't hack it, then move. Just don't move to the country. You will be praying for the smell of curry after smelling chicken poo spread in the field you back on to

Livelongandprosper

Fireflyaway wrote: »

I don't see how cooking smells can be so bad that you can't use the garden! This is food. Someone is eating it. We are not talking sewage or piles of dog mess. I think its annoyed you and now you have become obsessed by it.
You can't control what people cook in their home, its none of your business. Do you seriously expect environmental health to issue you your neighbour with a list of what they may and may not cook? !
If you can't tolerate normal neighbour behaviour then don't live in on a housing estate, go and live in a remote area with no adjoining homes.

As I've just replied. I live in a detached house in a field in the country.

When you have cow !!!! and chicken !!!! being spread for 3 or 4 days a month, then fertiliser on top of that. When you seriously can't hang out washing or leave the windows ops on spreading days, then you might have some thing to Amon about

Yet I've chosen to live in the country and so I accept the stink and the noise. Same as when I lived in London, under a flight path and in a terrace That's what you sign up for. If you don't like it, move