Feeling unhappy

System

Aced2016 wrote: »

Try speak with them on Monday or citizens advice.

They could get you some support perhaps in getting your place. That way you could visit your mum and perhaps help out a bit, instead of the strain of living together.

And ending things is not an option ! You living and breathing and life will get better ! Start by making plans for your own place. Then join some new groups and take part in some activities. Life really can get better ! You just need to make some plans for your future

Thanks. I will speak with them on Monday morning first thing. At the moment, I'm starting a Bricklaying course as of next week at a training academy for 28 weeks, so that will be something to look forward to!

LilElvis

himynameisaaron wrote: »

I think you're not helping - you don't know us. For your information, they split up four years ago.

We help her in much way as possible by doing cleaning duties on a daily basis as mentioned and paying for rent, thank you very much.

Caroline was only trying to help, based on the information you gave.

It can't be easy for her as a lone parent dealing with at least 3 boys/young adults given that you are autistic and at least one of your brothers can be a bit lippy.

Aced2016

Good luck with the course. And while at home for the time being, try and be helpful, avoid arguments and advise you brothers to do the same.

Hopefully you'll get your own place soon too

System

LilElvis wrote: »

Caroline was only trying to help, based on the information you gave.

It can't be easy for her as a lone parent dealing with at least 3 boys/young adults given that you are autistic and at least one of your brothers can be a bit lippy.

I know, hence why I want to live in my own home by saving up as hard as possible to ease the burden on her, because I feel for the woman.

just_trying

Caroline_a wrote: »

I'm reading this as an adult brother, sounds like mum has had enough of him treating the home as a hotel. Of course I may be wrong....

Are you nuts, because she was in a mood and things weren't where she wanted in the room she put her hands on someone, that's not acceptable. Then threatened both to leave the house.

As for no food op, how old are you. Could you buy. It may help. Do you both contribute to the house ?.

Purplez

I hope you can leave home as soon as. It is never ok to lay hands on another person.

I am mum to 3 children (all under 18) with autism and other difficulties. I am an adult with autism. Also OCD. Is the moving things around a stress thing? I pick things up and put them down when I am feeling stressed. My youngest (daughter) stims a lot. I have never raised a hand to one of them, even in the most testing of situations.

I hope you get on well with the course. And find yourself a place of your own. Have you spoken with the National Autistic Society? They have some good helplines, at least may be another support?

System

I do move things around purely because am bored and never do it for the intention of annoying anyone.

Yes, I'm aware of NAS but never been in touch with them before. I am unsure whether this has been mentioned, but starting from next week am beginning a high intensity course with an emotional and wellbeing service/cognitive behavioural therapy.

just_trying

Do you contribute to the household, to help your mum ?

determined_new_ms

I'm sorry you went through. Can I ask is this a regular occurrence? If it was a one off it is different in my view to something that is happening regularly. Although I have to agree it is never ok for anyone to be violent to anyone. I was driven to the brink of insanity with my dd who it turned out has a mh problem and dysfunctional family behaviour patterns developed, so on some level I can relate to how your mother is behaving, however looking back I regret bitterly I didn't manage the stress I was feeling better.

Are there supported accommodation in your area? Might be worth going to the council and asking about this. While there will probably be a waiting list once you move there you will be offered support.

How old are your brothers?

System

Thanks for all your responses once again.

I went to sleep in the hope that I would be waking up for a bright, new and fresh day, but doesn't seem the case. I've been feeling increasingly paranoid amd am overrhinking everything, like my heads going in to over drive.