Divorce - Do we really have to wait 2 years?

CharlieRabbit01

my husband and i are separating, somewhat amicably.

Is it correct that because there was no adultery, unreasonable behavior or desertion we will have to be separated for two years before we can file for divorce?

SunnyCyprus

http://www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Guides-Divorce/How-To-Guides/Step-1-Initial-Checks.html

Zeitgeist

You can treat yourselves as separated even though you may have lived in the same house, if you lived separate lives.

CharlieRabbit01

we've only been married 18 months and officially separated a month ago. we're still living together for the next two months.

I didn't realise that you had to wait 2 years.

CharlieRabbit01

SunnyCyprus wrote: »

http://www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Guides-Divorce/How-To-Guides/Step-1-Initial-Checks.html

thanks for the link, it is interesting what they list as unreasonable behaviour as this site is slightly different:

https://www.gov.uk/divorce/grounds-for-divorce

onomatopoeia99

CharlieRabbit01 wrote: »

Is it correct that because there was no adultery, unreasonable behavior or desertion we will have to be separated for two years before we can file for divorce?

Yes, if you want to avoid fault, it's two years with consent or five years without.

A recent attempt to reform divorce law to introduce one year, no fault, no consent divorces was blocked by fierce lobbying from vested interests (most notably the established church and bishops in the house of lords).

jackieblack

Unreasonable Behaviour doesn't have to be anything really dreadful.

hazyjo

Was one year - and according to Wiki page, still is. Perhaps the other info is more up to date and it's now two...
PS I divorced after a year

System

You can’t give adultery as a reason if you lived together as a couple for 6 months after you found out about it.

I never knew that!

gingercordial

Does either of you have a new partner now, or is either one willing to admit to having had even casual sex once with someone else yet? You said there was no adultery but maybe you were thinking of whilst you were together. If so, the one who does not have a partner could use adultery as the grounds for divorce, because you are still married at the moment, saying that the other has admitted this to you. This does not require naming of the "third party", nor is it a matter of public record.

Alternatively you can come up with some grounds for unreasonable behaviour. A warning though: even if you both agree this is what one of you is going to say about the other, feelings can still get hurt when they see it on paper!

caprikid1

It's a bit of an irony really.


In order to divorce on grounds of unreasonable behaviour you have to be reasonable !!!.


check the criteria, sit down write something out agree it job done.


Its what we did and my EX was reluctant at first but all solicitors advised it and said its the common thing to do.