being accused!!

Darksparkle

If you are married and the separation isn't likely to be permanent (you say you hope to reconcile) then your tax credits should have remained a joint claim.

loulout

We're not divorced or legally separated yet.

When the house sold he was left with 40k because the debts are being paid off (30k) and although money was jointly spent most of the debt was in his name so it made sense for him to be the one who pays it off. This leaves him with 10k for a new place to live. I had 12k which I declared although just under 6 went straight out for rent.

I only claimed IS when we split. I wasn't working.

The neighbour knows I'm now on benefits but she has no idea about "boxes being ticked" she's just doing it out of malice irrespective of whether or not I can defend myself. It's the latest in a long line of bullying

The reason I'm so bothered is incase anyone speaks to the school. It's embarrassing especially because I've already had social services talk to the school over false accusations. So they would think I'm a benefit fraud and a battered wife! (She called police saying I was being beaten, I wasn't, but it was auto referred to social services who investigated and closed case)

Aced2016

Where is she a neighbour from your old house or new house ?

Because if old house surely you wouldn't see her now you've moved ?

If she is causing you all these problems I would call the police on her and get a restraining order !

swingaloo

So if he has used £30K to pay off the debts there is no reason to still have the joint accounts.

marliepanda

Aced2016 wrote: »

Where is she a neighbour from your old house or new house ?

Because if old house surely you wouldn't see her now you've moved ?

If she is causing you all these problems I would call the police on her and get a restraining order !

Do you really think saying 'I'm going to report you for benefit fraud' constitutes a police call and a restraining order?!

It doesn't. Gossiping at the school isn't either.

Aced2016

Marliepanda **
Reading her posts, she said she more or less split because of this woman. She also said she called the police claiming her husband was hitting her. She has also said she's now phoned and reported her for benefit fraud and has said she is harrassing her.

So after reading all that and if its true yes I think it does merit a restraining order. She's clearly crazy or the op is exaggerating the whole thing !!

marliepanda

Aced2016 wrote: »

Marliepanda **
Reading her posts, she said she more or less split because of this woman. She also said she called the police claiming her husband was hitting her. She has also said she's now phoned and reported her for benefit fraud and has said she is harrassing her.

So after reading all that and if its true yes I think it does merit a restraining order. She's clearly crazy or the op is exaggerating the whole thing !!

Nothing suggests it was the neighbour who made the social services accusation. (Apart from association)

The fact OP seems more bothered about the 'posh school' getting the wrong idea suggests it's not actually as big a deal as harassment. I'd be more worried about my personal safety than my reputation...

I also don't see how a neighbour could stress someone so much they split up... that's blaming an outsider for a situation. If it was just the neighbour then they'd be reconciled now the house has gone.

Aced2016

(She called police saying I was being beaten, I wasn't, but it was auto referred to social services who investigated and closed case)

This is what she said above in her post. So she did say this woman called the police stating this.

And no I couldn't and wouldnt allow anyone to stress me out like this. But we don't know what kind of personality the other poster has!

They used to be friends as well which makes this all even stranger !

loulout

We're not divorced or legally separated yet.

When the house sold he was left with 40k because the debts are being paid off (30k) and although money was jointly spent most of the debt was in his name so it made sense for him to be the one who pays it off. This leaves him with 10k for a new place to live. I had 12k which I declared although just under 6 went straight out for rent.

I only claimed IS when we split. I wasn't working.

The neighbour knows I'm now on benefits but she has no idea about "boxes being ticked" she's just doing it out of malice irrespective of whether or not I can defend myself. It's the latest in a long line of bullying

The reason I'm so bothered is incase anyone speaks to the school. It's embarrassing especially because I've already had social services talk to the school over false accusations. So they would think I'm a benefit fraud and a battered wife! (She called police saying I was being beaten, I wasn't, but it was auto referred to social services who investigated and closed case)

FBaby

It sounds like there is more to the story than shared, so difficult to make an assessment, but it does sound like you might struggle to justify that you are officially separated from the perspective of tax credits if they were to investigate because they are clear holes in your story and a lot of things that don't make sense.

It might be common for someone to make a report of suspected fraud out of spite, but it is not so common that they do so where there are no foundations at all to trigger it because frankly, it makes them look like idiots. Whether she is right or wrong, from what you've said only -and there's probably much more - there is enough to indeed justify some investigation.

I think your biggest challenge will be to justify why you still have a joint account when he has now paid the debts, because that's factual and something they can use against you as opposed to trying to evidence that you are not really separating on the basis of how much time you spend together.