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Physical contact/intimacy in long term relationships

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  • -taff
    -taff Posts: 15,501 Forumite
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    If you think something is wrong, then something probably is wrong.

    People don't change overnight or over-week unless there's a reason. You'l have to find out what it is.
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  • Mojisola
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    Daffodilly wrote: »
    I noticed a change and it's one of those things where I'm not really sure how long it's been happening for.

    If I initiated cuddling he'd go along with it but it felt different. I did ask him about it (I was quite upset) and he wouldn't answer, said he didn't know what he wanted and since then there's been no physical contact between us at all.

    maybe he's down, maybe he's tired but I'm not sure it is that.

    If he's been happy up to now and has previously initiated intimacy (in all its forms) but now doesn't, something has changed that needs discussing.
  • Spicing things up in the bedroom and making your partner uncomfortable are two absolutely different things. Physical intimacy in the bedroom is a two-way street. You get what you give. You can ask him why you want to role play this situations. People like have all kind of new ways and find new ways for physical intimacy spicing up in bedroom. Depend on you if your comfortable and if your not tell them. Because Physical intimacy in the bedroom is a two-way and both should enjoy it.
  • onomatopoeia99
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    Just so anyone reading this at the top is aware before they decide to comment, new poster 'AnanthiM' has resurrected a thread that has been dead for over a year.
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