Not religious but love feeling at Church

BJV

POPPYOSCAR wrote: »

I am not a lover of churches but I do like graveyards.

I find them very peaceful and interesting.

Mmmm I find them very sad but also humbling at the same time. I always think about the people who where once just like me trying to get by and hopefully living a good life that are gone. The children's graves always make me sad.

Sometimes I think it is the action of taking time out and just thinking without all the rubbish that everyday life can bring. Strange I find walking by the sea just the same.

No matter how big the drama no matter what the issues there is nothing new under the sun.

Jackieboy

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Nothing wrong per se. In many ways though the time spent building relationships with others is as important if not more so than the actual service. That's not to say those who need to leave quickly are wrong just missing out on an important part of being a Christian

I don't think you need to get on or have relationships with other people simply because they attend the same church as you do.

Jackieboy

Rosemary7391 wrote: »

Less so than you might imagine. As far as I'm aware, my current church has always had someone looking after day to day issues - calling the roofer (one leak was caused by someone nicking the lead - it isn't just natural building deterioration!), fixing doors, cupboards, locks, calling plumbers, electricians etc where required, and organising occasional architect reviews - the last one of which identified £300k+ of repair work urgently required. The building is large and well used; it needs looking after!

As to the rest of your post; I don't know your friend's church so can't really comment on what goes on there. Even our small church has people who are perfectly happy just to attend on Sunday, and we're happy for them to do so. I'm just an introvert who is glad that folk made it clear I was welcome to join in the fun now, where'd I leave that paperwork pile... :rotfl:

Surely all those things are the role of the Chuchwarden?

Torry_Quine

Jackieboy wrote: »

I don't think you need to get on or have relationships with other people simply because they attend the same church as you do.

No you don't have to but to me it would be strange not to.

Jackieboy wrote: »

Surely all those things are the role of the Chuchwarden?

No church warden, we do have a church officer who oversees the building but needs others to assist with the work as they aren't available all the time and don't have the necessary skills needed

Jackieboy

Torry_Quine wrote: »

No you don't have to but to me it would be strange not to.

No church warden, we do have a church officer who oversees the building but needs others to assist with the work as they aren't available all the time and don't have the necessary skills needed

It's obviously a good thing to get on with as many people as possible but I don't think attending the same church makes that more likely than in any other group of people.

I'm not sure what skills it takes to phone up a plumber or electrician, but hey ho!

Torry_Quine

Jackieboy wrote: »

It's obviously a good thing to get on with as many people as possible but I don't think attending the same church makes that more likely than in any other group of people.

I'm not sure what skills it takes to phone up a plumber or electrician, but hey ho!

If only it were all that needs done! For instance recently the hall needed painting so someone has to get the paint, organise when and of course get people to do it, which was people from the church. There are often little things like bulbs to change.

Rosemary7391

Torry_Quine wrote: »

If only it were all that needs done! For instance recently the hall needed painting so someone has to get the paint, organise when and of course get people to do it, which was people from the church. There are often little things like bulbs to change.

You need someone to look and see what needs doing, notice problems developing etc. Many folk have these skills but not all. Plus basic diy is useful, as is ability to use the stupidly tall ladder, saves paying for every little job. We would call this job a property steward; doesn't matter what you name it so long as it gets done! We're progressing towards a property committee at the moment due to impending major works - one person simply can't manage a £300k project. I realise that is far beyond most churches needs though!

Jackieboy

Torry_Quine wrote: »

If only it were all that needs done! For instance recently the hall needed painting so someone has to get the paint, organise when and of course get people to do it, which was people from the church. There are often little things like bulbs to change.

Sorry, I thought we were talking about the church, not the church hall which is why I assumed professionals would be needed. I suppose volunteers might be good enough to throw a coat of paint on the church hall walls.

Primrose

These days I'm a Christmas only attender. I'm not sure what I believe any more and I hate the way the Church of England has ditched the beautiful poetic wording of the Book of Common Prayer and adopted the current language of the day. Whatever your feelings are about worship, I believe that doing so in beautiful surroundings and the right environment is helpful. And I think the choral schools in our cathedrals are nurturing our lovely English choral music traditional which has developed through the ages. When I hear some of the well known anthems being sung it sends a real tingle down my spine. I fail to see how anybody could not be inspired by their beauty (but then I'm not a pop music lover !) Nut not everybody is fortunate enough to have the facilities of a cathedral on their doorstep.

Torry_Quine

Jackieboy wrote: »

Sorry, I thought we were talking about the church, not the church hall which is why I assumed professionals would be needed. I suppose volunteers might be good enough to throw a coat of paint on the church hall walls.

Well I consider the church as being the sanctuary, the hall and the other rooms used for activities such as creche, not forgetting the office. The hall is used for things just as important as the weekly service and is cared for to the same standard as the sanctuary. It certainly wasn't a case of throwing paint on, when the sanctuary needs decorated its done the same way.