What puts you off?

Dird

AubreyMac wrote: »

As a low libido is a red flag for you, how do you find this out in someone at the beginning?

By trying to shaft repeatedly in quick succession. If your first time is Friday night & he/she isn't in the mood to do it again on Saturday even when everything is "new/exciting" then time to end it

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Do the online dating services include libido level in the profiles?

OKCupid does. There's a question "once in a relationship how often do you want to have sex?"....avoid the prudes saying once or twice per month/year

lobbyludd

as the posts attest, this is such a personal thing
but I have ended relationships because of:
being treated poorly: so aggression, lying, paranoia etc due to alcoholism which they refused to acknowledge/treat, expecting me to be monogamous whilst they were not
different world views: e.g racism/homophobia, very opposing political views (I have friends with lots of differing political viewpoints, but in a partner it can really impact day-to-day decisions and lead to conflict which can become very difficult)
boredom: e.g. pettiness: constantly going on about other people's spelling and grammar, wanting to be together all the time, not being able to connect intellectually, loss of physical attraction (this for me generally results from the boredom - it's not due to physical changes).

some of these relationships have been long term - others have been shorter term.

Cotta

hazyjo wrote: »

Most of the above - but I was really put off one bloke cos he had little girlie hands. I'd hold his hand and cringe. I am VERY good at looking for things to end relationships. I get so fed up of people. Thankfully don't feel that with my BF now!

Jx

Never thought of hands even being an issue - every day's a school day.

Scorpio33

Lack of communication.

I can understand people have differing view points and different ways of doing things, but unless there is communication, I won't know how the other person feels so it would cause a disconnect.

moneyistooshorttomention

Selfishness, meanness, unfaithfulness, poor grasp of hygiene, generally a "narrow"/boring sort of person, different background (in both directions - downwards and upwards from my middle class background).

There's been a variety of reasons.

Huwbert

Smoking, jealousy, just being very different people, distance

Kazzabell80

Ahem!... Liars, cheats, poor communication skills (grammar etc), no ambition, being too needy, an incompatible libido, smokers, drug users - even if it is only to relax..., doesn't like animals, whingers, arrogance, too short, overweight, doesn't take care of themselves, thoughtlessness, trust issues, stubbornness


I'm sure there's loads more!

Gloomendoom

Kazzabell80 wrote: »

Ahem!... Liars, cheats, poor communication skills (grammar etc), no ambition, being too needy, an incompatible libido, smokers, drug users - even if it is only to relax..., doesn't like animals, whingers, arrogance, too short, overweight, doesn't take care of themselves, thoughtlessness, trust issues, stubbornness


I'm sure there's loads more!

Are you single?

Kazzabell80

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Are you single?

Actually, I'm not. Just won't settle.


I'd like to point out that a lot of this list are "qualities" that ex partners have had. Which is why I'm determined to stick to the list. Having said that, the odd short fella has made it through due to their shining personality...

Sjc1973

sparkychris wrote: »

Money!

I spent many years in lots of short relationships (I get bored / boring easily!) and one thing that was a quick turn off is a woman not paying her way. I would never ask a woman to contribute but I notice when they don't.

I always was happy to be expected to pay for the first date but can't see why I should continue to do so forever more so if after date number 3 or 4, if she continues to look around awkwardly when the bill comes and I have already smashed her, she'll get let go.

If a boyfriend was going to be refering to intimacy with me as 'smashed her' that would certainly put me off -lol. I don't mind paying my own way though!