Cooking for one

Tiddlywinks

I've been single and married (but many bouts of forced singledom when OH was on operational tours in war zones)...

Being single doesn't make you stronger or better than living as a couple - each situation brings its own challenges.

It's interesting to read some of the opinions on this thread referring to 'smug' couples etc... they are just as discriminatory as the complaints made about singles not being understood.

We've all got our strengths and we rise to the occasions thrown at us - life is difficult enough as it is without passing judgements based on someone's domestic status.

Hollyharvey

So lunch was sausage & potato salad. Eaten with a teaspoon directly from the takeaway box I'd used to store it in the fridge.


It is always good when you can save on washing up

This weekend I've fancied all sorts of food that I've not bought so not got in the house .... quiche would be nice, a deep/creamy one .... and a deep thick apple pie


I'm having a similar problem this weekend. I really fancy a chocolate fudge cake now but I haven't been able to summon up the energy to go and get one. I think it has got something to do with being a bank holiday and feeling the need to allow myself treats because of this.

Hollyharvey

^ Sorry, I don't seem to have got the hang of quoting from other posts. Can someone point me in the direction of a guide to do this please?

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moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

I do know exactly what you mean by most long-married women don't basically seem to have a clue as to how strong a single woman has to be (whether she likes it or no).

I was one of those money, married in a lovely relationship for 45 years and we did all the jobs together. I remember when being widowed and single and what it potentially meant, hit home. Just the dishes, still sitting in the sink, not magically put away and it has been one very steep learning curve since then. Single widowed ladies in the village, we helped if we noticed anything but never realised the sheer amount that had to be done, just to keep the home running.

room512

Hollyharvey wrote: »

^ Sorry, I don't seem to have got the hang of quoting from other posts. Can someone point me in the direction of a guide to do this please?

Underneath each post is a little orange speech bubble. If you click on that then the post appears in the text box where you write a reply. If you want to quote multiple posts then the press the icon to the right of the orange one, the turquoise one. Hope that helps x

moneyistooshorttomention

kittie wrote: »

I was one of those money, married in a lovely relationship for 45 years and we did all the jobs together. I remember when being widowed and single and what it potentially meant, hit home. Just the dishes, still sitting in the sink, not magically put away and it has been one very steep learning curve since then. Single widowed ladies in the village, we helped if we noticed anything but never realised the sheer amount that had to be done, just to keep the home running.

But the thing is with you Kittie that you are open-minded and learning what's what in this situation you've found yourself in - so kudos to you for that. I can get that it is a steep learning curve (as I've had a few steep learning curves in my life in very different set-ups). You either sink or swim when put into a "steep learning curve" situation. My assessment is that you've decided to swim and are making a good fist of it.

I've been following your situation - and feeling sad for you that you were widowed like this.

But you are picking yourself up/dusting yourself down and getting on with it - so :T for that to you.:)

meg72

Hollyharvey wrote: »

^ Sorry, I don't seem to have got the hang of quoting from other posts. Can someone point me in the direction of a guide to do this please?

Just click on the quote button at the bottom next to thanks.

Hollyharvey

room512 wrote: »

Underneath each post is a little orange speech bubble. If you click on that then the post appears in the text box where you write a reply. If you want to quote multiple posts then the press the icon to the right of the orange one, the turquoise one. Hope that helps x

Thank you.

katkin

The most time poor I ever was is when I was a single parent. On my own, working full time and ensuring my sons had and did everything they needed to do was exhausting.

When they left home for uni I suffered empty next syndrome quite badly and couldn't get my head around my now extra free time. It took me a while to get back to living a life as a normal single again. A part of that experience was making up for the sheer exhaustion and making up for that by learning slowly to rest, that it was ok to sit and read a book, paint, craft etc go out socialising with friends more when previously I couldn't do any of that as much. I was so very tired for years after the boys left.

Children certainly eat into your time.

Being a single parent for a long time is exhausting. You are mum, dad, house maintainer, cook, cleaner, the entertainment committee, decorator and mover of all heavy stuff. Off course I was stubborn as an !!! then and refused to ask for help.

Though I'm finding this thread now quite unwelcoming to us who may once have been single, but aren't now but would like to post. Not of all of us are smug or look down our noses at singles. Not a bit! Some of us know what it's like.

However, it would be nice to feel welcomed and not judged. We all have things to add to Old Style, where friendliness has been a marker of the forum's ethos.

Regardless, I'll continue to lurk here as you are an amusing bunch of people with good things to say, which I like reading. I'd just like some reassurance it's ok to post here now and then and feel welcome.

moneyistooshorttomention

Well - from what you say - Katkin you "get it" (ie understand). That's the difference:T