Single mum, being pushed out of my company

Kinderegg

FBaby wrote: »

It is if you only consider yourself in the argument, it might not be at all if you consider others.

As already stipulated, I expect that the issue is that you expect some flexibility that just cannot be given to all employees and it might be that these employees are being fed up that they have to come to the office every day, maybe some dealing with long commute, problems with trains (if SE region) etc... but are told that in no circumstances they can work from home, when you get to do so just because your daughter had a bad night and doesn't want to go to breakfast club. Or asking to leave at 3pm to pick her up from school when others have to pay for afterschool clubs because they are expected to stay until 5pm.

I am extrapolating, but I've seen this so often, some particular staff getting some benefits that everyone craves over reasons that are not, or not always at least, justified, hence building huge resentment.

Flexible working is great when staff want different things. Ie, in my team, some want to early starts whilst others are happy to come later (traffic in rush hour obliging), so it works well. Also, we now have a much better mix of parents, so there is a better balance between those who really want to take their holiday during term time whilst others want to avoid it at all costs.

Back a few years time, I took on a job where myself and a colleague were expected to cover each other at all time. I knew his kids were adults so thought it would work out well, except that his wife was a teacher!! We therefore had to compromise, but both of us would have preferred to take all the school holidays then!

Flexible working is common in my workplace, especially for people with young children.

nicechap

Undervalued wrote: »

Given how annoyed the OP is with her employer (rightly or wrongly) I rather doubt if she is interested in being "fair" but more in getting everything to which she is legally entitled.

So yes, if she is owed time off then she is entitled to be paid for this along with any untaken holiday. Also, depending on her notice period and assuming she continues to be signed off sick, then she may be entitled to full pay for the notice even if she would otherwise only be getting SSP.

But she admitted in her opening post it wasn't carried over so I would suggest that its lost.

We're really not privy to what hours she's supposed to work and what hours she actually worked.

In my previous employ I was amazed at how well extra minutes were recorded by those with this kind of arrangement but so forgetful of all the late arrivals and long lunches.

We only have one side of the story.

For her good mental health, the OP needs to let it go and move on.

nicechap

annandale wrote: »

People are entitled to sick pay if they are ill. The toil is a separate issue.

Couldn't agree more.

However work is a 2 way relationship and you need to get on with your company and colleagues and they're entitled to be able to rely on you to do your work.

Kinderegg

Pleased to report that I managed to get a new job just a few weeks after leaving my old job. I am much happier and glad that I don't have to now contend with a power hungry, ego sensitive boss like my last one. I'm also currently doing my training sponsored by my new employer which was promised but never materialised at the last company.

Thanks again to those that were supportive.

Kinderegg

Also as some people were so concerned, I managed to recover over 5 days and only took two days off work after my second wisdom tooth op the last time in April as my recovery was much better than last time. I don't have any regrets for the recovey time for my first op, it was totally necessary.

And my daughter was diagnosed with autism.

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Good to see your update - did referencing go without a worry in the end?
Did you ever have to say how bad things got really.

Thank you.

I'm not being nosy or responding to pick holes, I've felt pushed out of my company in recent months and received an offer today subject strictly to latest employer reference. I know other people who have got out have seemingly been able to bypass the need for any reference but on this occasion I've fallen under them words of reference required. Typical but it was the easiest interview.

Kinderegg

Deleted%20User wrote: »

Good to see your update - did referencing go without a worry in the end?
Did you ever have to say how bad things got really.

Thank you.

I'm not being nosy or responding to pick holes, I've felt pushed out of my company in recent months and received an offer today subject strictly to latest employer reference. I know other people who have got out have seemingly been able to bypass the need for any reference but on this occasion I've fallen under them words of reference required. Typical but it was the easiest interview.

Congratulations on your job offer.

I actually work in a regulated business and so references including current references are mandatory and any company would have a regulatory duty to report wrongdoings including in the hiring/recruitment process. I didn't confront Hr about references. I simply sent in a notice letter referencing a very generic excuse for leaving.

During the interview I said my reason for leaving was because of job security as the company had not been doing particularly well. I didn't want to go into detail about the discrimination because I didn't want them to think my daughter's needs would make me unable to do my job with them. It's unfortunate but it is how it is.

Back to your question, i did give my former employer for reference purposes but I also gave my last boss and my employer before that. I was offered the job and so they must have been satisfactory.

I hope you manage to have a smooth transition. From my experience, the quietest way out was the easiest way.

[Deleted User]

Thank you Kinderegg, much appreciated, you are an angel.
Resigned this morning, was asked if I wanted to cancel my holiday as technically don't have to go back but offered to show my face and work couple of days once back at least so hope I don't fail the leave quietly.

Onward and upward for us both. Thank you again x