Looking at other women on social media

Hurtandconfused

jamiehelsinki wrote: »

It could be worse, he could be viewing !!!!!!.

I would guess he's not completely happy in the relationship though. It's a bit like window shopping and seeing what's about!

Is !!!!!! necessarily worse? We have actually said !!!!!! is OK within the relationship. It's more anonymous and seems less of an intrusion into the relationship than friends of friends or local women on social media (who, unlike !!!!!!, are not just offering sexual gratification, which raises the question of what the purpose of looking at them is).

Primrose

My husband has worked most of his life in a female dominated profession so I'm perfectly used to him interacting closely with women. I trust him and it bothers me not a jot.
And neither of us are on Facebook or have any desire to be.

Mrs_Ryan

Out of 96 Facebook friends, 13 are male. 4 are close family (nephews and brother in law) 2 are very gay; 1 is my best friend's husband; 1 is a guy I went to uni with who is married to and utterly devoted to another one of my friends; 1 is an old friend and 1 is my partner's friend who now lives away and I relay messages to my partner from him as OH doesn't do social media. The other three are random uni acquaintances. The only ones of those who I'm really actively interested in what they're doing are my nephews so OH can't accuse me of looking at other men
consumers_revenge- re the house thing me too! When next door went up for sale recently I had a nosey on the website

comeandgo

I can't believe the number of females who think if they are in a relationship|married to a man all his contacts with other females should be restricted to what the girlfriends/wives view as acceptable. Goodness, you are turning them into children, you only talk to who I say you can talk to. Give the poor men a life. If they love you and you fulfil them they will always be yours. And I dont mean fulfil in only a sexual way. I mean intellectual as well. Some women are coming across as very needy.

Lily-Rose_3

comeandgo wrote: »

I can't believe the number of females who think if they are in a relationship|married to a man all his contacts with other females should be restricted to what the girlfriends/wives view as acceptable. Goodness, you are turning them into children, you only talk to who I say you can talk to. Give the poor men a life. If they love you and you fulfil them they will always be yours. And I dont mean fulfil in only a sexual way. I mean intellectual as well. Some women are coming across as very needy.

That's fine. All men in relationships should be allowed to keep all their female contacts and female friends, and be allowed to go out for drinks, coffees, lunches etc, with women they have known for years, and women they have recently met, and they should be allowed to mooch around through the facebook and instagram profiles of random attractive females.

As long as HE is OK with HER doing the same. Keeping regular contact with men she knew before they met, and men she meets after they met, and going out with them for drinks and meals etc...and of course, looking at loads of other men on facebook and instagram, some she knows, some she doesn't know.

I am sure all men will be fine with their wives/girlfriends doing this. It has to be. If they want freedom to do whatever they want, with whomever they want, their woman should be free to do the same. Right?

Going off now to love and fulfil my man so I can make sure he is always mine. :rotfl:

jamiehelsinki

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

Female here.

The option I wanted is not there.

IMHO, if you are in a committed relationship, looking at pix of other women (other thsn things like holiday/wedding photos or similar) on social media may be normal, but it is not fine.

Male, late 30's

Agree with this basically, most people have probably done it but wouldn't be happy if their partner were doing it.

I think there's a difference between someone bored flicking through for 5 minutes occasionally (harmless) and someone spending time most days to continually look. ( big issue)

My vote would have been most men have probably done it but it doesn't make it right.

System

..... depends if they are just looking as in browsing or gawping like a dog on heat.

jamiehelsinki

Lily-Rose wrote: »

That's fine. All men in relationships should be allowed to keep all their female contacts and female friends, and be allowed to go out for drinks, coffees, lunches etc, with women they have known for years, and women they have recently met, and they should be allowed to mooch around through the facebook and instagram profiles of random attractive females.

As long as HE is OK with HER doing the same. Keeping regular contact with men she knew before they met, and men she meets after they met, and going out with them for drinks and meals etc...and of course, looking at loads of other men on facebook and instagram, some she knows, some she doesn't know.

I am sure all men will be fine with their wives/girlfriends doing this. It has to be. If they want freedom to do whatever they want, with whomever they want, their woman should be free to do the same. Right?

Going off now to love and fulfil my man so I can make sure he is always mine. :rotfl:

Great post!

comeandgo

Actually that is how our marriage works. I work in male dominated career, I can be the only female in a room of men, I have lots of male friends, some I am in contact with daily, some weekly. My husband and I don't spend all our time being totally dependent on one another. My husband can talk to any female he wants, he can look at anything he wants, I'm not going to dictate to him what he can and can not do.

Hermia

What I don't get is how would you know the reason your partner is looking at someone on social media. I follow a bunch of people on Instagram because I love their photography and/or the city they live in. But they do also post glam selfies occasionally. If a jealous partner picked up my phone on a day when the people were posting selfies rather than arty pics of their city I suppose they might get the wrong idea. I'm certainly not going to sit there and explain who every single person is I follow!