Husband's lost his wedding band!

dewdropsandsunshine

After only 10 months of marriage, my husband lost his palladium wedding band I’m upset, but he has tried really hard to look for it and it's not like he did it on purpose.

The question now is whether to purchase a replacement. I’m kind of of the mind that any other ring has lost the meaning that it’s the ring we got married with, so I’m tempted not to bother.

I’m curious what other people would do?

Faith177

Wouldn't bother myself but then OH doesn't wear his because of work. Doesn't make you any less married without it.

If he really wants a replacement a cheap argos job will do just as well

Izadora

It depends on whether or not he wants to wear a ring but if he does then you could always wait a couple of months and he could have a first-anniversary ring rather than a wedding ring.

Guest101

dewdropsandsunshine wrote: »

After only 10 months of marriage, my husband lost his palladium wedding band I’m upset, but he has tried really hard to look for it and it's not like he did it on purpose.

The question now is whether to purchase a replacement. I’m kind of of the mind that any other ring has lost the meaning that it’s the ring we got married with, so I’m tempted not to bother.

I’m curious what other people would do?

It's just a piece of metal.

nkkingston

Was it insured? Even if you didn't get specific jewelry insurance it may be covered on the contents insurance, so it's worth checking.

The important question really is whether he wants to replace it. You're upset, but is he? How much meaning did he attach to it? If he lost it because he takes it off regularly, maybe consider replacing it with something else instead. A watch, perhaps, with an engraving?

Person_one

My mum's on about her 4th wedding ring, she's shocking for losing them, they both like the symbolism though so just get another cheap one each time, I don't think its the particular piece of metal that carries the meaning its the intention behind wearing it.

cats2012

I would definitely get a replacement - but then my OH loves wearing his and never takes it off so I know he would want to replace it. Same logic if they were stolen or anything though, I would be gutted the original was gone but would still want the symbolism.

JP08

I think I'd have to replace. Lost mine a few weeks back whilst clearing out the fish pond. Took it off, put it in a pocket, at the end of the day went to put it back on and it had gone. The degree to which it's loss upset me really quite surprised me.

After a couple of hours I spotted it - caught on the end of the shed key hanging on the key hooks ... the key I'd put in the same pocket as the ring.

lisa110rry

You were lucky JP!

dewdropsandsunshine

He didn't tell me for 2 weeks....he knows I'm a sentimental soul and would get all emotional about it! (I can assure you I was very emotional.)

I'm sure I took out insurance, but that covers theft not loss. I could use the contents insurance but I'd end up paying more than £325, the price of the ring.

I don't think he wants a replacement (...it would have to be a cheap one mind!) At the end of the day it wouldn't be the one we'd exchanged during our vows and he thinks he may end up losing it again He says he never wore one before our wedding so he wouldn't feel 'lost' without one either.

I keep telling myself its just a piece of metal. Husband even told me that if I were to lose a ring tomorrow, it wouldn't mean our marriage or love for one another was any less.

Maybe it is just a piece of metal. I didn't realise how traditions and symbolism became so ingrained in our beliefs and mindset until now.

Thanks for your input guys - I really needed to vent.

cats2012

If he didn't tell you for 2 weeks then I can safely say you hadn't noticed? In which case it is probably fine not to replace. As I say, my OH never takes it off (although the pond example he probably would!) and I reckon I'd notice straight away when I held his hand...!

But some people never wear them, and you're right it wouldn't be "the ring". Just do what is right for you guys