Uni student coming home for holidays

Lunar_Eclipse

Definitely not! He's still in 'full time' education and not financially independent until after graduation, so no, I don't think he should pay board and lodgings.

Becles

summersmile wrote: »

My son is also at uni. Your very lucky that your son has any money left. My son is broke so no chance of getting anything from him. I think he's looking forward to the student loan coming in January. I've missed him loads so just looking forward to him coming home even if that means I'll have no food left and tons of washing. Who knows he might of changed but I doubt it. Lol

Mine gets the student loan. He got the lump sum in September and paid the rent for the term. He put the rest in a savings account and worked out how many weeks it had to last him. He divided what money was left by the number of weeks and pays that figure into his current account once a week. He knows that is how much money he has for the week and he can't overspend as he'll run out of money before the next student loan payment. He's doing really well doing that. It might be worth suggesting that if you think it would help your son.

We've had a chat as he is here this weekend. He still wants to pay something, so I've said £10 a week would be fine. He said he'll help out and do some cooking and washing up to give me a rest. I'm a single Mam so I'm really looking forward to that bit

Thanks for all the comments. It's been interesting reading what others do :cool:

sooty&sweep

Hi

You have to do what feels right for you & your son. We don't know your financial circumstances.
If you need the financial help then you should take it.
If you don't then it's up to you but you could say yes & either save the money for him for later or give it back in other ways. That way you allow him to feel that he's contributing.

Jen

Savvy_Sue

Very impressed by him Becles!

We never charged ours for keep when they came home while they were students, and I think I'd suggest he should treat you in some way - either buying some food not usually on your shopping list, or taking you out for a meal or coffee and cake.

OldMotherTucker

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

Very impressed by him Becles!

We never charged ours for keep when they came home while they were students, and I think I'd suggest he should treat you in some way - either buying some food not usually on your shopping list, or taking you out for a meal or coffee and cake.

I'm looking forward to spoiling mine to bits when she comes home for Christmas - she has offered to help out but we aren't even at home for Christmas Day/Boxing day so it's gong to be a cheap and easy Christmas!!

paddy's_mum

Another one who thinks that him taking you out for a nice meal (no washing up to do afterwards - hooray!) is a happy compromise.

He gets to demonstrate that he is a grown up contributing in tangible fashion, you get to let him know that you are proud of his maturity and generosity in bringing the subject up in the first place, nobody gets 'robbed' and the leisure time together is more cement to the relationship between you.

Win, win in my book! :T

Spendless

I'd go for him paying for a take-away for all of you perhaps on one of his last nights before returning to Uni. Cheaper than a meal out and if you can get some sort of meal deal probably similar to the £10 weekly amount that's been mentioned with minimal washing up.