Uni student coming home for holidays

summersmile · 19 November 2016 at 3:12PM

My son is also at uni. Your very lucky that your son has any money left. My son is broke so no chance of getting anything from him. I think he's looking forward to the student loan coming in January. I've missed him loads so just looking forward to him coming home even if that means I'll have no food left and tons of washing. Who knows he might of changed but I doubt it. Lol

Loz01 · 19 November 2016 at 4:11PM

How nice of him to actually offer! If you don't want him to hand over cash but he's insisting you could always say "Well why don't you bring XYZ" something food or drink related. I know when I went to Uni it does make you more grown up and you become very aware of the price of food shopping and bills etc.

Lily-Rose_3 · 19 November 2016 at 4:38PM

nimbo wrote: »

My mum never took housekeeping while I was in full time education. Much to the annoyance of my step father. I always offered when I was working though. There were sometimes a few weeks here and there I wasn't working - I went to uni the other end of the country and never managed to get a job they would keep open for me while I was away.

My first Christmas she'd booked days off to do my washing and insisted I took food from the cupboards that she'd bought for me as no one else ate it.

When she discovered I'd done my washing before getting the train home she seemed gutted. I personally don't think that if you don't need The money - you should take it - say he can spend it on presents or re-stocking his uni food store. obviously if you're going to be very skint and he has the spare cash then that's different.

Am I reading this right, your mum booked time off work to do your washing? :huh:

Why? (I am genuinely baffled...)

kelpie35 · 19 November 2016 at 4:50PM

Becles wrote: »

My eldest is away living in halls at uni, but is coming home over Christmas. Possibly for two weeks but he hasn't decided yet! He asked if I wanted any money off him to cover his food etc.

I'd never really thought about that to be honest! I said I didn't mind him paying nothing but he insists he should pay something.

Do other parents ask for a contribution towards costs and if so, how much do you ask for?

I think you should be very proud of your son that he has the respect, for you as a parent, to even offer. It just shows that you have done an excellent job in bring him up. :T

If you feel he would be offended by you not accepting something then I would take what he if offering. You then could spend the money on something that you know he really wants but is not able to afford at the moment.

Well done to your son, pity there were not many more like him. :A

Archergirl · 19 November 2016 at 5:19PM

What a wonderful boy you have brought up, if he wants to contribute let him, he wouldn't have asked you otherwise, just tell him whatever he wants to donate to Christmas is fine x

nimbo · 19 November 2016 at 5:48PM

Lily-Rose wrote: »

Am I reading this right, your mum booked time off work to do your washing? :huh:

Why? (I am genuinely baffled...)

I was too. My sister always used to come home with boat loads of it. I figured if my case was to explode my knickers everywhere on the train I'd prefer they were clean.

I'd been doing my own laundry as well as bits for my mum step dad for years before I went. I was shown how to use the machine at age 7 by my brother. I was gutted the day we no longer had to use J for James as the wash cycle!

I suggested we did nice things like go out for lunch and do the nice bits of Christmas shopping.

I think she'd missed me. I was the youngest of four to leave.

When I didn't raid the cupboards she insisted I had too as she'd stocked up on things neither she or my step dad ate as my sister always used to raid the cupboards before she left. I'd kind or weighed up the pros and cons of heavy tins on the trains on the way home and felt I'd save my back. Haha I ended up taking the food.

74jax · 19 November 2016 at 6:04PM

My DD gets just over 3k maintenance loan and her halls costs her over 5K a year. No chance in her buying food when home. In fact she stocks up on food to take with her :rotfl:

I think it's lovely he has offered. But unless you need it, I would decline.

tiger_eyes · 19 November 2016 at 6:06PM

All the above suggestions sound good, and here's another - as he'll be with you for about half a month, you could ask for half his monthly food budget. Then he's level with where he would have been had he not come home for Christmas. The money was always meant for food, so it might as well be spent rather than left to gather dust.