What is a reasonable gift

ness3765

Thnk you for your kind words , that means a lot to me

ness3765

Thank you, I can relate to your comment about buying your own gifts, my siblings dont ever think to buy card for me or a gift when its my birthday or Christmas for my mum to give me. Fortunately I have a daughter who helps here with this

Thank you for your advice it has been most helpful

chubsta

I think the very fact you are worrying about this shows that your mothers money is in good hands! Given that your mother is in a reasonable financial position i am sure it would make her very happy to know that her money would be used in such a special way

clairec79

You mention a sister - is she married and did your mother give her money for a dress (or your brother pay for something else towards his wedding) - if so then you can reasonably assume the same amount

Prothet_of_Doom

Alikay wrote: »

If your mum wants to pay for your dress, I'd say it's reasonable for her to pay whatever the dress you choose costs. You're her daughter, and she no doubt knows your attitude to money, weddings, clothes etc, and she'll have offered with that in mind. She trusted you enough to make you her POA when she had full mental capacity, so let her treat you to the wedding dress you want to wear on your special day as a gift to the daughter she loves.

It's what I'd want for my daughter, and I know my mum would've wanted to do that for me too.

Indeed. You probably know what ball park figure she'd have in mind, and you know what she can afford, so if you see something beyond that you'll just pay the extra.

My parents had POA for my nan, and after she had a massive stroke, (she was in nursing care for 18 months before she died), they made sure everything she would have given, at birthdays and christmas and at special events was given. Although to be honest, I think they knew what was in her will and whatever they gave away on her behalf meant they were just spending their and our inheritance(s)