How to get over a huge crush

Meepmeep

Get some physical distance - a new job will help. Then de friend. In the medium and long term this is the easiest option, even if it doesn't feel like it at the time.

mariposa687

Maybe you should look at your marriage first before crushing on this guy at work because it sounds like there is a problem somewhere otherwise you wouldn't be that interested.
If he is being distant with you that's a good thing because then you don't have to talk to him. If you want it to disappear then distract yourself by staying busy at work. Bottom line is - nothing is going to happen and you are married - move on.

Mr.Generous

you could always shag him at the Christmas party, usually puts an end to a crush.

Mrs_Ryan

Can't give you any advice but I would also love to know the answer to the question of how to get over a huge crush....

Money_saving_maniac

perfumeandglitter wrote: »

I feel he is interested as I notice him looking at me and when I look over he looks away, sometimes I notice him double take looking as well, plus when I talk to him his hands shake and he is in general very nervous around me. When I talk to other people he is very interested in listening to what I am saying and he doesn't seem to like it if I speak to other male colleagues. There was talk in the office about me and him, I don't know where that came from as I haven't made anything obvious and nothing has happened. On work nights out he is either just talking to me or very off. He is strange. When I messaged him asking what his problem was, I got some rubbish excuse and he said he wanted to be friends, yet he doesn't speak to me or show any signs that he wants friendship, which is all I can offer him and even then I think that is a bad idea.

He was going on breaks with me all the time, we would talk more, but since I asked to move away from him and I ignored him for a while, I feel he is taken that personally as he seemed angry with me. I am married as well, so I feel he is keeping his distance because he knows nothing will happen. I won't act on the crush and I really want it to disappear.

Oh I don't talk about him to people at work, I make an effort to avoid him. I meant my friends outside of work.

Oh you poor thing. It will take time to get over your crush. Stop talking about him, chatting to your friends about him is like picking a scab. And you are wise to change jobs.

I think you need to give some consideration as to why you are having a crush on him. Are things a bit boring with your husband? Is he paying you enough attention? Do you still feel he desires you? To my mind if you are married and have a crush on someone, it's because you could see them filling unmet needs. You need to start looking at what they are and how your other half can meet them.

People aren't machines. If you have a deep unmet need and it never gets resolved, sooner or later you may find your marriage breaks down.

hollydays

YOu need to expand your life. Find other interests and meet other people.
I'm getting a sense your lifestyle is limited . Find things to do that really engage you. In short , your life is only just beginning .There are some unresolved sexual problems in your marriage

perfumeandglitter

I agree, but it is hard not too mention him as I find I notice he does things or doesn't do things and it bugs me.

My husband pays me no attention and really makes no effort with me at all.

I find my crush attractive, but I don't feel he is my type at all personality wise so it is rather strange i like him at all.

hollydays

There , you've said it.
You're husband pays you no attention . You are obsessing about what it woyld be like to have attention.
What can you do about this

Mr.Generous

hollydays wrote: »

There , you've said it.
You're husband pays you no attention . You are obsessing about what it woyld be like to have attention.
What can you do about this

What can you do about this?

See my previous post :rotfl::T:j

Smartsaver7

meer53 wrote: »

So you're married ? Stop it now, it won't end well.

Yep I agree , he obviously has realised you want more than friendship, and probably the office gossips have made it uncomfortable for him , if he was interested even in an affair , you would know by now.
Likely to end by you becoming some sad stalker and it ending your marriage.

If people are married they need to stop cheating on their partners, if things are not working out either get some marriage guidance or separate , sneaking around especially with work colleagues just pathetic.