How to get over a huge crush

perfumeandglitter

Since early this year I have had a major crush on my work colleague, we would chat a lot about our lives and he added me on Facebook, we don't text very often but we do have each others numbers. I think about him all the time and it is driving me mad.

I have moved away from him and try to avoid him, but it is still there. I feel I have managed to hide it well though. He used to come on breaks with me all the time, but lately he has been putting a lot of distance between us and barely speaks to me. He talks to everyone and has great eye contact with everyone, accept me. I strongly feel he is interested.

Anyway, I am looking for another job. Has anyone got any tips to get over this crush? I am getting annoyed with it and I think my friends are sick of hearing about him, so I can't talk to them anymore.

PeacefulWaters

Why not act on the crush?

KRB2725

Are you both single?

fierystormcloud

perfumeandglitter wrote: »

Since early this year I have had a major crush on my work colleague, we would chat a lot about our lives and he added me on Facebook, we don't text very often but we do have each others numbers. I think about him all the time and it is driving me mad.

I have moved away from him and try to avoid him, but it is still there. I feel I have managed to hide it well though. He used to come on breaks with me all the time, but lately he has been putting a lot of distance between us and barely speaks to me. He talks to everyone and has great eye contact with everyone, accept me. I strongly feel he is interested.

Anyway, I am looking for another job. Has anyone got any tips to get over this crush? I am getting annoyed with it and I think my friends are sick of hearing about him, so I can't talk to them anymore.

If he has started avoiding you, and isn't making eye contact with you, why do you 'strongly feel he is interested?' It doesn't sound like it to me. He has probably picked up on the fact that you are interested in him, and is avoiding you. If he liked you, he wouldn't be avoiding you, and refusing to make eye contact.

Work romances are never a good idea. Put him out of your mind and move on. No point in daydreaming about some guy who frankly, doesn't seem that into you. And as you say, people at work are sick of hearing about him anyway.

74jax

fierystormcloud wrote: »

If he has started avoiding you, and isn't making eye contact you, why do you 'strongly feel he is interested?' It doesn't sound like it to me.

I was thinking just the same.

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perfumeandglitter

I feel he is interested as I notice him looking at me and when I look over he looks away, sometimes I notice him double take looking as well, plus when I talk to him his hands shake and he is in general very nervous around me. When I talk to other people he is very interested in listening to what I am saying and he doesn't seem to like it if I speak to other male colleagues. There was talk in the office about me and him, I don't know where that came from as I haven't made anything obvious and nothing has happened. On work nights out he is either just talking to me or very off. He is strange. When I messaged him asking what his problem was, I got some rubbish excuse and he said he wanted to be friends, yet he doesn't speak to me or show any signs that he wants friendship, which is all I can offer him and even then I think that is a bad idea.

He was going on breaks with me all the time, we would talk more, but since I asked to move away from him and I ignored him for a while, I feel he is taken that personally as he seemed angry with me. I am married as well, so I feel he is keeping his distance because he knows nothing will happen. I won't act on the crush and I really want it to disappear.

Oh I don't talk about him to people at work, I make an effort to avoid him. I meant my friends outside of work.

meer53

So you're married ? Stop it now, it won't end well.

tea_lover

How to get over it? Try thinking about your wedding vows.

Any

perfumeandglitter wrote: »

I feel he is interested as I notice him looking at me and when I look over he looks away, sometimes I notice him double take looking as well, plus when I talk to him his hands shake and he is in general very nervous around me. When I talk to other people he is very interested in listening to what I am saying and he doesn't seem to like it if I speak to other male colleagues. There was talk in the office about me and him, I don't know where that came from as I haven't made anything obvious and nothing has happened. On work nights out he is either just talking to me or very off. He is strange. When I messaged him asking what his problem was, I got some rubbish excuse and he said he wanted to be friends, yet he doesn't speak to me or show any signs that he wants friendship, which is all I can offer him and even then I think that is a bad idea.

He was going on breaks with me all the time, we would talk more, but since I asked to move away from him and I ignored him for a while, I feel he is taken that personally as he seemed angry with me. I am married as well, so I feel he is keeping his distance because he knows nothing will happen. I won't act on the crush and I really want it to disappear.

Oh I don't talk about him to people at work, I make an effort to avoid him. I meant my friends outside of work.

You asked to be moved away from him and started to ignore him...

Oh my, I wonder what his problem might be!!!!!:cool:

*max*

Maybe he's not a fan of all the perfume and glitter? It does get everywhere.

Seriously. You're married. Of course he doesn't want to speak to you, he knows you have a crush, it's probably very obvious. He's not interested, stop making a fool of yourself and behave like an adult. A married adult. :cool: