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Christmas present for new mum something useful!

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  • penguingirl
    penguingirl Posts: 1,397 Forumite
    I'm a mum to be and I will be distinctly unimpressed if OH ever tries to give me something like an 'afternoon off' or 'babysitting voucher'. Our child will have 2 parents, so I expect us both to do our fair share, not just as a birthday/Christmas/other occasion treat. I wonder how often it is suggested that a new dad is given a day off voucher?

    Things like a massage, hair, nails, spa are subtley different and I'm sure would be appreciated. I love the idea of a posh perfume as a lovely treat and way to feel spoilt. What about a pamper box? For £50 you could get some bubbly, some nice smellies, a couple of bits of make up, cosy slippers, some books etc.
  • Kaye1
    Kaye1 Posts: 538 Forumite
    Someone to do the ironing!!

    The ironing pile was my nemesis when the little ones were small......
  • jackomdj
    jackomdj Posts: 3,073 Forumite
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    If you aren't doing presents as such, how about something for both of you? So she doesn't feel bad about not doing the same for you. Cinema and a meal out or something similar. Often with a young one you don't get time to spend with just the two of you.

    I agree about time off with you "babysitting" not being good as you are a team, I hate it when people refer to Dads "babysitting".
  • BrassicWoman
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    On the cinema/ meal out, cineworld do baby friendly screenings where you wont get glowered at for having girny baby
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  • jjj1980
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    On the cinema/ meal out, cineworld do baby friendly screenings where you wont get glowered at for having girny baby


    That's a fab idea!
  • I'm a mum to be and I will be distinctly unimpressed if OH ever tries to give me something like an 'afternoon off' or 'babysitting voucher'. Our child will have 2 parents, so I expect us both to do our fair share, not just as a birthday/Christmas/other occasion treat. I wonder how often it is suggested that a new dad is given a day off voucher?

    Things like a massage, hair, nails, spa are subtley different and I'm sure would be appreciated. I love the idea of a posh perfume as a lovely treat and way to feel spoilt. What about a pamper box? For £50 you could get some bubbly, some nice smellies, a couple of bits of make up, cosy slippers, some books etc.

    Agree with this. I have 4 sisters and several friends with children, and they would not be impressed if their husband gave them vouchers for an afternoon off as a gift. As the posters on here have said, it's the responsibility of the father of the baby to take part in the baby raising, as well as the mother.
    Kaye1 wrote: »
    Someone to do the ironing!!

    The ironing pile was my nemesis when the little ones were small......

    Well yeah, that would be nice, but again, someone doing the ironing for a gift, wouldn't be the ideal gift for most mothers of young children.
    jackomdj wrote: »
    If you aren't doing presents as such, how about something for both of you? So she doesn't feel bad about not doing the same for you. Cinema and a meal out or something similar. Often with a young one you don't get time to spend with just the two of you.

    I agree about time off with you "babysitting" not being good as you are a team, I hate it when people refer to Dads "babysitting".

    Yeah I think a trip together, like a day out, or an afternoon out is a nice idea, but the idea that many have come up with of a spa day is fab imo.:)

    Also agree that I hate to hear people say the father of the child is babysitting; you don't 'babysit' your OWN children.
    cooeeeeeeeee :j :wave:
  • jjj1980 wrote: »
    That's a fab idea!

    I'm a fan! My local do autism friendly screenings too.
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  • onlyroz
    onlyroz Posts: 17,661 Forumite
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    Kaye1 wrote: »
    Someone to do the ironing!!

    The ironing pile was my nemesis when the little ones were small......
    Why bother? I haven't done any ironing in years...
  • Person_one
    Person_one Posts: 28,884 Forumite
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    onlyroz wrote: »
    Why bother? I haven't done any ironing in years...

    I moved house a year ago. Finally unpacked the last box today, it had the iron in it. :o
  • onlyroz
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    Person_one wrote: »
    I moved house a year ago. Finally unpacked the last box today, it had the iron in it. :o
    I only do ironing when I've got a job interview - so not in the last 6 years.

    The notion of an exhausted new parent spending hours ironing baby-gros is just utterly ridiculous. Every spare moment should be spent catching up on precious sleep.

    I think I know where the iron is - buried in the conservatory somewhere - but for the life of me I can't think where the ironing board is...
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