How much rent should I ask from my son

gettingtheresometime

I would also add that our son's rent isn't being saved up to return to him at some future date......he knows that the account he pays it into is our fun fund lol!

paddy's_mum

Sooetie wrote: »

I do all the shopping including food, packed lunches, toiletries, underwear and socks etc etc. I do all the cleaning and laundry including buying the products. I cook most evenings, pay the bills and am a free taxi service. The only thing I don't do now that I did before he started work in August is give him pocket money. I didn't ask anything the first month as he was paid at the end of the month.

If you are doing and providing all that, then your son is getting a bargain at £300 all in! Even divided by the four (!) adults who actually live in the house, if you costed your time at as little as £1 an hour, you'd be approaching that figure and that's without adding the cost of food etc.

I think your amounts are about right unless the three youngsters are doing a great deal more eg each being solely responsible for a large chunk of the household management such as gardening, cleaning, laundry or cooking.

Caroline_a

Start making him do his own chores! You do him no favours by babying him like that - 3 adults in a house should share the chores! My daughter 15 years ago paid £200 a month - her figure not mine - and helped with housework etc. Why should a boy be any different? No future wife will thank you for doing everything for him - packed lunches?? good lord, mine did theirs while they were in school! Teach him to use the washer, the hoover, dust, clean the toilet because at some point he will need to know these things. I really thought that we were moving away from the 1950s model of the little woman doing everything for her men at home!

You need to make him more independent not less, or he will be still there in his 40!s!!

gettingtheresometime

Caroline_a wrote: »

Start making him do his own chores! You do him no favours by babying him like that - 3 adults in a house should share the chores! My daughter 15 years ago paid £200 a month - her figure not mine - and helped with housework etc. Why should a boy be any different? No future wife will thank you for doing everything for him - packed lunches?? good lord, mine did theirs while they were in school! Teach him to use the washer, the hoover, dust, clean the toilet because at some point he will need to know these things. I really thought that we were moving away from the 1950s model of the little woman doing everything for her men at home!

You need to make him more independent not less, or he will be still there in his 40!s!!

Totally agree with this.

A group of us were talking about what our partners do around the house and we all agreed that as mums to sons it was our duty to get the sons to do as much as we'd expect daughters to do.

My mil was brilliant - taught my hubby to cook, use the washing machine and Hoover so much do he's more domesticated than me ....definitely a keeper!

luckygirl1

It is your house. You make the rules. However, earning 560 pounds a month from your son seems pretty good. And you don't have to worry about mortgage anymore. But, it is your house in the end.

Aced2016

Wow your charging a lot ! But it's your house and decisions. Perhaps the brothers could get their own flat if that's an option ?

They'd be able to cover it no problem, and could stop any further arguments.

Perhaps I'm too soft, but I wouldn't charge my kids rent to live in their family home, but would expect some money towards food though.

ratrace

Aced2016 wrote: »

Wow your charging a lot ! But it's your house and decisions. Perhaps the brothers could get their own flat if that's an option ?

They'd be able to cover it no problem, and could stop any further arguments.

Perhaps I'm too soft, but I wouldn't charge my kids rent to live in their family home, but would expect some money towards food though.

We kind of work the same way in our house, when my brother was 18 years old and got his first job he paid my dad £250 a month for 5 years, when he was around 23/24 he wanted to move out so dad gave him all the £15,000 he had been paying him plus an extra £5,000 to help him put a large deposit down on a house

its the same for me and my sister when we both move out we will have large deposits to put down on a house, we just see the money as a car payment only its being saved instead of wasted

Its also how you get on with your folks me and dad are like best mates so i love living at home, i would not dream of asking my dad how much i was costing him and to see bills, the amount of sacrifices him and mum have made of the years so we didnt go without are priceless

Aced2016

ratrace wrote: »

We kind of work the same way in our house, when my brother was 18 years old and got his first job he paid my dad £250 a month for 5 years, when he was around 23/24 he wanted to move out so dad gave him all the £15,000 he had been paying him plus an extra £5,000 to help him put a large deposit down on a house

its the same for me and my sister when we both move out we will have large deposits to put down on a house, we just see the money as a car payment only its being saved instead of wasted

Its also how you get on with your folks me and dad are like best mates so i love living at home, i would not dream of asking my dad how much i was costing him and to see bills, the amount of sacrifices him and mum have made of the years so we didnt go without are priceless

That's what I would like to do with my kids. I think everyone see things differently that's all.

I just don't like the fact the people say my tax credits etc have stopped so the kids need to make up the shortfall I find that really unfair. The boys are working so 100% should now be buying their own clothes, razors etc. I do believe they should contribute to food, but they're at work all day and will only be using a few plug points at night. I really don't think they'll be costing as much as being charged. And if I'm totally honest I hate the attitude of some people saying well ask them if they can get board cheaper elsewhere. That would make me so sad to speak to my kids like that the minute they earn their own money. They're still my children in our home "Not My Home" its ours and always will be. And I will never make mine feel like that.

But I can't say I'm right and the op's are wrong, we all just have different views of thIngs.

Scarter_2

I think you are all absolutely crazy to think anything less than what this lady is charging is ok!

As a parent your number one job is to prepare your child for the big bad world that they will one day enter.

They need to be managing their own finances by a young age, obviously with some guidance. They need to buy everything from their school uniform to trips to the cinema.

They need to do chours around the house to get the extra money for fun things. By the time they are 18 and if in work,they need to be paying almost what it would cost for them to move out on their own, if not more. Give them a reason to leave. They also need to be doing a releavant amount of house work for the amount of people in the family. This includes making dinner for everyone.

My plan when my children are in full time work will be to work out what they are actually costing in real terms, and then deduct that from the figure that I believe it will cost them to move out.

I will save the difference for them, and then give it back to them when they are serious about moving. Can you imagine there face when you hand them a cheque for 5 or 10k? I would also expect them to be saving them selves along side paying me "rent". I would like to tell them, my own circumstances permitting that I will add to their savings if I think they are really trying to help them selves. The saved "rent" will be a secret bonus.

I know too many 28/29 year olds that complain they can't save up to move so they are still at home with mummy. But they have Sky Tv in their bedrooms and 2 year old cars on the drive way.

In my opinion you are doing this for their own good and they will appreciate it when they are older. And they will probably be in a better financial position. If this all sounds like I don't love my kids then you are mistaken. They are the most important thing in my life and love them very much.

I know in my heart this is the right approach but it won't be for everyone.

I just know I don't want a 25 year old knocking about around the house who can't even operate a washing machine. Why anyone would want to make their own lives harder is beyond me.

I would do anything for my kids, but I also know they would do anything for me.

Picky_Pickle

£75 seems a bit steep since he's only 18. Perhaps reduce to say £60 but get the girlfriend to contribute if she's practically living there.