Getting over the feeling that you'll never live at home again

Notnow

AdrianC wrote: »

But you do still live at home.

It's just that you aren't sharing your parents' home now. You're living in YOUR home.

And, yes, I do mean "home", not just house.

OK, that's a bit... weird. There are other shops, y'know. You could even go TO the shop instead of have them deliver...

I have been to plenty of new shops. It's just there are certain things I like that I can only get from shops that aren't around here. I also have to change my address over on all my accounts so sometimes things are still being delivered to my old place and I have to go pick them up.

suki1964

When I moved out on my own it was weird for a while

Like yours it was sparsely furnished, I had a bed, a radio and a wardrobe

The silence was the killer.

But over time I got bits and pieces. I furnished and decorated and made a home. I then had house work to do, I got pots and pans and started to cook again. I had friends call in as soon as I had enough cups/ glasses


As money circumstances improved I started to have a social life again

Then I moved again into a much bigger place, in a different area, and I started all over agiain

Both times the silence and the emptiness were the hardest things to over come. Even if you were independent at home, cooking, doing your own washing etc, there was always someone else there. Someone to say morning or night to, someone who put the kettle on and made you one the same time, someone you could hear in the bathroom

Now there's just you and the silence can be deafening

But you get used to it and cope. Even now , 30 odd years later, when I'm home in the house by myself I have background noise on and I can't abide hearing a clock tick

Notnow

suki1964 wrote: »

When I moved out on my own it was weird for a while

Like yours it was sparsely furnished, I had a bed, a radio and a wardrobe

The silence was the killer.

But over time I got bits and pieces. I furnished and decorated and made a home. I then had house work to do, I got pots and pans and started to cook again. I had friends call in as soon as I had enough cups/ glasses


As money circumstances improved I started to have a social life again

Then I moved again into a much bigger place, in a different area, and I started all over agiain

Both times the silence and the emptiness were the hardest things to over come. Even if you were independent at home, cooking, doing your own washing etc, there was always someone else there. Someone to say morning or night to, someone who put the kettle on and made you one the same time, someone you could hear in the bathroom

Now there's just you and the silence can be deafening

But you get used to it and cope. Even now , 30 odd years later, when I'm home in the house by myself I have background noise on and I can't abide hearing a clock tick

I think that's what a lot of it is. It's very quiet where I am and living alone in a quiet place is something I thought I'd like, and I do, but it's not how I imagined it. Thankfully I'm not in much and am always busy with work so I only get to spend the evenings here and that's when I don't mind having the place to myself and doing whatever I want.

Grenage

Give it a year and the thought of moving back in with your parents will be equally abhorrent - if not worse.

Contessa

I seem to remember, about 15 or so years ago, a company in Germany? produced a CD for people who lived alone.

The idea was to have it playing in the background. It produced random noises as if someone else was living there as well. E.G. doors opening and closing, taps running, loos flushing, pots and pans being put down, washing up being done etc.

I don't know if it was successful-or if it just spooked people out!

Elfbert

Contessa wrote: »

I seem to remember, about 15 or so years ago, a company in Germany? produced a CD for people who lived alone.

The idea was to have it playing in the background. It produced random noises as if someone else was living there as well. E.G. doors opening and closing, taps running, loos flushing, pots and pans being put down, washing up being done etc.

I don't know if it was successful-or if it just spooked people out!

That would definitely spook me out!! :eek:

I went to school for my last A-level exam one morning...and never went back to live at home again! Did pop back and pick some items up. Then my parent sold the house, so no chance to go back

It never bothered me at all, to be honest. I don't think I ever even thought about it. I do very occasionally pass by the house now and I sort of can't imagine that I ever did live there!

Mind you, I moved 13 times in the 3 years after I left - no time to worry about missing anywhere, harder to remember where to go home to each night :rotfl:

Hope you get used to it soon and enjoy your own place, OP.

Notnow

Thanks for your help everyone. I feel much better now about everything and I'll concentrate on making my new place a home rather than thinking of what used to be. I'll still go back and visit there and it'll always be my real home but if I can make my new place feel as welcoming then I will end up having two homes

jojo9239

I cried for a week I missed chats with my Dad and my dog haha good job my OH wasn't offended. I got over it i still love my dad's house but my home is with my OH

Lord_Baltimore

Part of the "problem" is that all houses have a different feel to them. Whenever people move, they always take with them a set of unique memories. Effectively, you're starting out on creating a new set of memories in your new home which you will carry with you, and lament, when you next move.

In the meantime, you have the poltergeist that lives in the cupboard under the stairs to keep you company :eek:!

NicNicP

Is it the company of your family that you miss? I used to wake up excited when we first moved out. I even got excited about washing the pots as my parents had a dishwasher!