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  • dippy3103
    dippy3103 Posts: 1,963 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 1,000 Posts Combo Breaker I've been Money Tipped!
    I'm sure a token amount, say £20 or similar would be fine.
  • Ames
    Ames Posts: 18,459 Forumite
    Bear in mind when her money runs out she could be moved to somewhere not as nice as where she is now. Wouldn't you rather she has a bit longer in a nicer place?
    Unless I say otherwise 'you' means the general you not you specifically.
  • phil122
    phil122 Posts: 18 Forumite
    suki1964 wrote: »
    Did you read the link ?

    Giving away huge sums of money will be seen as deprivation of capital

    Buying expensive gifts for family members will be seen as deprivation of capital


    Tell grandma, that all that hard work and rainy day saving is for the rainy day that's here and now. She's in a care home. It's raining. She needs to fund it
    thanks for the link but i couldn't get it work
    This has only become a problem the last few months as she has moved but hay we are all learning.
  • phil122
    phil122 Posts: 18 Forumite
    Ames wrote: »
    Bear in mind when her money runs out she could be moved to somewhere not as nice as where she is now. Wouldn't you rather she has a bit longer in a nicer place?
    We are hoping that will not happen as with the sale of the house she has about 4 years in this home without her savings so maybe we are looking to far ahead
  • suki1964
    suki1964 Posts: 14,313 Forumite
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    NYM wrote: »
    That link doesn't work for me..:o

    Try this one....Deprivation of Assets...


    Thank you. Not sure what happened there
  • suki1964
    suki1964 Posts: 14,313 Forumite
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    Phil, if grandma was reliant on the state for here care, she would be allowed less then £25 a week for personal spending


    That's for everything, the hair cuts, the mags, the biscuits and cakes she loves, her birthday and Christmas pressie money

    Is that what you want for her?

    Insist she keeps hold of her money and let it pay for the care she needs, and the care you would like to see her receive
  • phil122
    phil122 Posts: 18 Forumite
    Deliberate deprivation of assets is where you have intentionally
    decreased your overall assets, in order to reduce the amount you are
    charged towards your care and support. this is not what she is doing she would be horrified to think this it what she done because its not
  • DomRavioli
    DomRavioli Posts: 3,136 Forumite
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    phil122 wrote: »
    Deliberate deprivation of assets is where you have intentionally
    decreased your overall assets, in order to reduce the amount you are
    charged towards your care and support. this is not what she is doing she would be horrified to think this it what she done because its not

    Giving large sums of money to family IS deprivation of capital. That is how it is viewed - that money is to pay for her care, not her grandchildren's extravagant tastes.
  • TELLIT01
    TELLIT01 Posts: 18,236 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture 10,000 Posts Name Dropper PPI Party Pooper
    phil122 wrote: »
    Deliberate deprivation of assets is where you have intentionally
    decreased your overall assets, in order to reduce the amount you are
    charged towards your care and support. this is not what she is doing she would be horrified to think this it what she done because its not

    If she gives large gifts to anybody it can be considered to be deprivation of capital. 'Intentional' may be open to interpretation, but it will be the council's interpretation which matters, not your mother's.
    To avoid the risk it will be much safer for her to reduce the gift level to below £100 (my guestimate of what would be accepted from my time working for DWP).
    Assuming the sale of the house goes through this is all likely to be academic anyway isn't it as her savings would be above the threshold?
    To the OP - if you expect a simple answer to a question, without judgemental responses, I think you have already realised you are on the wrong board!
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