Is this fraud?

Hawk11

motorguy wrote: »

You need to move on with your life and stop worrying about what your ex wife is doing in hers.

I couldnt even tell you where my ex wife (whom i had a child with too) lives, and nor do i care.

You have a child with a woman and you don't know where they live... Or care????? Really

Saver-upper

Hawk11 wrote: »

You have a child with a woman and you don't know where they live... Or care????? Really

I read "had a child with" to mean that the child is now an adult,and Motorguy has no (need for) contact with ex-wife

Hawk11

Saver-upper wrote: »

I read "had a child with" to mean that the child is now an adult,and Motorguy has no (need for) contact with ex-wife

In that case it would be irrelevant to my situation

motorguy

Saver-upper wrote: »

I read "had a child with" to mean that the child is now an adult,and Motorguy has no (need for) contact with ex-wife

Thats exactly it.

My son is 22, lives with his girlfriend in a lovely apartment and before that lived with me and my new wife since he was 15. Before that and since he was 8 he was with my 3 nights a week and his mum 4.

He and i have a great relationship and are in touch daily and we visit each others respective homes regularly. :beer:

His mum - havent had reason to speak to her since he moved in with us 7 years ago. :cool:

Jamiesmum

I reckon if someone had started a post saying 'is it fraud if i'm dating someone with multiple properties and he gave me a car but I'm still claiming housing benefit on my own place + still claiming benefits??' the general attitude in the replies would change.

Doesn't matter whos point of view it is coming from, it's still wrong regardless. If he has bought her a car they are obviously serious and not just lightly dating. If a guy/women steps into a relationship with someone who doesn't work/earn, they should expect to have to keep them, not benefits. It's a personal choice they will know before they start a relationship.

meg72

Hawk11 wrote: »

Hi, can someone clear this up for me.

My ex wife who I have a child with, has apparently the married.
She lives in a two bed property that is paid for by benefits, the guy she married has several properties (owned) in Wales.
He spends a couple of nights a week at her house, that he has paid to furnish with top end furnishings.
She also drives a brand new car, bought by him.

Thanks in advance

If she has remarried then yes it is fraud to claim benefits. Her new husband can apparently afford to keep her.

motorguy

Hawk11 wrote: »

In that case it would be irrelevant to my situation

Its not irrelevant.

You shouldnt be concerning yourself with the intricate finances of your ex wife.

I never did with my first wife as ultimately it leads to arguments and bickering which your child will pick up on, and my relationship with my son is stronger because of that.

motorguy

Jamiesmum wrote: »

I reckon if someone had started a post saying 'is it fraud if i'm dating someone with multiple properties and he gave me a car but I'm still claiming housing benefit on my own place + still claiming benefits??' the general attitude in the replies would change.

Doesn't matter whos point of view it is coming from, it's still wrong regardless. If he has bought her a car they are obviously serious and not just lightly dating. If a guy/women steps into a relationship with someone who doesn't work/earn, they should expect to have to keep them, not benefits. It's a personal choice they will know before they start a relationship.

The O/P hasnt told us how he knows for absolute fact that his ex wife is still claiming benefits. She may well live in a council rental but not be claiming support.

And if she is, what good is it going to do the O/P (and his relationship with his child) by challenging her on it?

-taff

If she's claiming benefits, and not declaring her husbands income, yes, it's fraud.
Benefits are means tested aren't they?