Eviction notice served

Mollymop5

Good luck on Thursday Mot.Those of us who can't be there with you in person will be here on this forum with you in our thoughts:)

Wol2

mumoftwins wrote: »

Nite all, going to sob silently into my pillow

It is good to let your feelings out - and after all that you have been and are still going through MOT you have every right. And we understand what is going on for you at the moment and feel deeply for you. A good sob can actually work wonders and is not a weakness.

(Hope fellow posters don't mind if I use the "we" word - seems more fitting having spent the last 5 days going through the whole thread and seeing the sentiments and support expressed)

These people on thursday will not (should not) be judging you as a person. They should just be trying to apply a set of rules and regulations - (which were probably written by someone who never been in your situation and whose brief was to ensure that money was saved by all possible means) to the facts as presented. So yes, of course they are going to argue the toss and unfortunately the "toss" centers round whether you made yourself intentionally homeless. We all know you did not - whatever the rules and regulations say - because you have demonstrated that you are not that type of cold calculating individual. You unfortunately experienced a series of events that left you temporarily unable to deal with the mundane day to day transactions (which include paying rent etc). There are a lot of us who have been/are/might be in the future, unfortunate enough to find ourselves in your shoes (and as I have said before this could happen to ANYONE). We understand even if "they" won;t.

The last thing you might need or want right now is someone close, whose opinions you value, (like your dad - Grrr! - )making coments that cause you to doubt who you are and what you;re worth. Please don;t let anyone bring you down just because they're unable to relate to you at an emotional level at the moment, unable to supply you with the support your need right now and can only resort to undermining criticism instead. That behaviour is their problem - not yours to deal with - and is no reflection on you. You have more than enough on your plate at the moment MOT to even have time to listen to their comments, (no matter how close they may be to you), let alone take them to heart - And you are continuing to handle this awful situation brilliantly (even though you probably feel like you're not at times - been there, done that, still trying to put the T shirt on and failing miserably)

So please, please don't doubt your own self-worth. You have not done anything wrong - you are not a disappointment to us - and please don;t let any negative comments affect your perception of who you are.

You WILL be able to survive thursday - whatever the outcome - because the people making the decision ultimately will not really matter -(difficult at the moment to buy into this I am sure) - because they don;t really know who YOU are. They are just making a decision about a case number in relation to set of silly rules- not MOT the person.

MOT -You are a very special and valued person - to the people that really matter and who are in a position to make a decision on that basis. We here all recognise that you are a very loving, caring, honest individual with humanity and integrity. You have demonstrated time and again how much you care for others. You are much loved by everyone you come into contact with, even if it is just over the internet. That is the mark of a very special human being.

So MOT - we believe in you, we care for you - we are all supporting and routing for you on thursday - and we all think you deserve to win - and we all want you to win!!

But even (God forbid!!) if the decision is negative - it won;t change our opinion of, or our feelings for, you - the MOT we have come to know and love. And we will continue to support and help you in your needs and endeavours to provide a secure future for you and your family - because we know you deserve it, whatever the !!!!!! of this world might decide.

So (potentially inhumane and weak-minded - but prove us wrong) decision makers on thursday....Bring it on.......we're ALL ready!!

Much love - and keeping everything crossed for you

Wol2

Viv

Hi there MOT and all, I will be thinking of you too. Try to look for the positives 1, you won't have weeks to wait for the answer
2, You have convinced all of us that you deserve a settled home
3, You know you are right and the council are wrong.
4, All this agonising bit will be over, the worst is over,
5, Your family and friends are proud of you and love you
6, None of this is your fault
7, You now know who your friends are
8, You know you couldn't have done any more, there can be no "If onlys."
and if the worst does happen at least the book and film will be more dramatic!!!! before the glorious finale.
I am sure there are lots more positives but I have already been to a pub quiz tonight and my brain aches.
One last quick question does anybody know whether Martin himself is aware of this huge post, because he should be proud of it too. Viv XX

Viv

Oh and can I say a bit in defence of your Dad, he is just as helpless as all of us in your miserable situation and is perhaps trying to give you something else to focus on, maybe to stop you worrying about what he can do nothing about. And he is only a mere man after all, (not Superman like IT) He doesn't know what to do for the best so he does the wrong thing.

italian-tony

rog2 wrote: »

Apology accepted, sc.- by me anyway - can't speak for I-T, but Italian men do tend to be quite fussy about their appearance. :rotfl: :rotfl:

I have to admit that I am rather fashion and dress conscious. I even make sure my socks colour matches my clothes. I love dressing up and the only time you will see me half scruffed up is when I'm gardening or cleaning the car, windows etc.

italian-tony

I haven't posted much for a while as I've been too busy preparing for the battle. MOT has been at a real 'low' point for some time now and this thread is probably the best thing for keeping her going. I'm sure without all your supportive posts she would have been in shreds by now. The trouble is, people reading her posts might mistakenly think she is really together. I know different. No one knows how she has sleepless nights, falls asleep in the day time, has panic attacks when she is shopping, cries a lot when she is alone, as well as numerous other symptoms of her depression. The lead up to Thursday is torturing her and I am so grateful for all your messages of good will. They are stopping her from hitting rock bottom. I'm afraid her father's comments about her weight hit a sore point and were very insensitive. MOT was completely shattered by his remarks and I just wish he could be a little more tactful at a time when he knows full well that she is going through hell in a handcart. We are not going to the 'do' anyway because finances will not permit. Look at the time; I must get to bed! This is the third night I've burnt the midnight oil preparing MOT's case. Bona Note e' mille grazie.

floss2

Thank you I-T for letting us know how MoT really is, we all know that behind MoT as her rock is you. She is a very lucky woman to have you supporting her in her illness. :grouphug: this is for you from all of us DFW's

BTW, I take it you don't need any wardrobe advice for tomorrow?!

an unsleepy Floss x

Wol2

italian-tony wrote: »

I haven't posted much for a while as I've been too busy preparing for the battle. MOT has been at a real 'low' point for some time now and this thread is probably the best thing for keeping her going. I'm sure without all your supportive posts she would have been in shreds by now. The trouble is, people reading her posts might mistakenly think she is really together. I know different. No one knows how she has sleepless nights, falls asleep in the day time, has panic attacks when she is shopping, cries a lot when she is alone, as well as numerous other symptoms of her depression. The lead up to Thursday is torturing her and I am so grateful for all your messages of good will. They are stopping her from hitting rock bottom. I'm afraid her father's comments about her weight hit a sore point and were very insensitive. MOT was completely shattered by his remarks and I just wish he could be a little more tactful at a time when he knows full well that she is going through hell in a handcart. We are not going to the 'do' anyway because finances will not permit. Look at the time; I must get to bed! This is the third night I've burnt the midnight oil preparing MOT's case. Bona Note e' mille grazie.

IT - you are an absolute star who retores a (formerly jaded) person's faith in human nature. I know it is no mean feat preparing for something like this. And I really do understand what MOT is going through - these symptoms are part and parcel of the mental distress she has undergone. She is not losing her mind (feels like that sometimes) - her body is adopting the necessary coping and survival procedures required in response to the extremely stressful situation she finds herself in. She is not alone in this and over time, as this situation starts to resolve itself in a positive way, she will start to feel she is regaining control of her circumstances and herself.

Good luck on thursday and I am praying all your hard work pays off!

Wol2

mumoftwins

italian-tony wrote: »

I have to admit that I am rather fashion and dress conscious. I even make sure my socks colour matches my clothes. I love dressing up and the only time you will see me half scruffed up is when I'm gardening or cleaning the car, windows etc.

But even when he is 'scruffed up' he looks good and only like some men who dress like that all the time:eek: .

Thank you all for your posts (they made me cry - again) it was lovely to wake up to them even if it was 4.30am!!

gilligansyle

Morning,
On my way to work, just thought I'd drop by and catch up. I-T has hit on just the thing, because the outward appearances are of someone who is coping, only the person knows themselves what is going on inside. This is one of the most stressful situations any one can be in and we all appreciate that there must be times, nearly all day probably, when you are not holding it together, but this is not showing.

One way or the other, you will soon have an answer, we are all rooting for you. You will get through the other side, at the moment its hard to see beyond that, and you have lots of support. Even those people who make unhelpful comments, like your Dad, probably think they are helping by getting you to look beyond Thursday.

Wish everyone could be there with you, but we will be there in spirit.