When are you a grown up?

KateBob

I'm still waiting, 40 years old, married for 15 years with 2 kids!

Sometimes I look at my kids and think "who thought I was told enough to have not one but two kids".
I'm responsible it just for their physical well being but mental health too.
The 14 year old asks me questions I haven't figured the answers out yet for myself!

SailorSam

When i grow up, i want to be a clown.
I'm going to run away and join a circus.

PasturesNew

You're grown up when you consciously stop doing something you want - and attend to something you have to do.... and not just once, but every time it's needed.

Everything from changing out of your PJs because the vicar's coming round ... to turning up for work every day on time and not bunking off.

A kid would stay in bed in their PJs when the vicar visits.
A kid would bunk off work, lie/skive until they got the sack.

An adult would just do "what's expected/what needs to be done" ... in order to maintain the status quo.

There's no age limits.... there are still some childish 4rses flitting around in their 70s.

Person_one

zaxdog wrote: »

These are amazing replies. I'm sitting here in a mini kilt with bright scarlet hair wondering if I should be acting like an adult (or at least looking like one)

Is this a re-run? I have a distinct memory of a very similar thread featuring a skeleton t shirt...

Some days I feel far too grown up and want to go back to a simpler time, other days I can't believe I'm allowed to walk round pretending I'm a proper adult. It's never anything to do with what I'm wearing though...

jackieblack

PasturesNew wrote: »

You're grown up when you consciously stop doing something you want - and attend to something you have to do.... and not just once, but every time it's needed.

Everything from changing out of your PJs because the vicar's coming round ... to turning up for work every day on time and not bunking off.

A kid would stay in bed in their PJs when the vicar visits.
A kid would bunk off work, lie/skive until they got the sack.

An adult would just do "what's expected/what needs to be done" ... in order to maintain the status quo.

There's no age limits.... there are still some childish 4rses flitting around in their 70s.

I agree with this.
My friend told me years ago that she realised she was a grown up when she bought a pair of shoes because they were so comfortable, not just because of how they looked

thorsoak

piglet74 wrote: »

Are you honestly 73?? I obviously don't know you, but I can't believe that you are 73, judging that solely on your posts, you just seem so much younger!

Yes - honestly! Married and with a mortgage at 20, mum for the first time at 23 (we then went on to have another three) lost my dear OH after 48 years, since when I've got a new career, as a "fake baker" baking off the frozen bread in our local shop, starting at 6:30 am four days a week. Met another lovely man and still enjoying life - just back from New York and looking forward to a trip to France next month!

moneyistooshorttomention

There is a cynics take on this:

- when an awful lot of the things that werent going to happen to you have (and the buck stops with you)...

- when you've reached an age where you decided you'd really better Get Serious about restoring normal health (ie perfect health imo) and, as a start, decided to write down what "needs fixing" and found it's a list:eek: and you ain't gonna get much sympathy from anyone else in your agegroup because absolutely everyone is ill:eek:

Sicard

Some say you don't grow up until you have children, then your sense of responsibility sharpens. And it's responsibility that measures your adulthoodness (if there's such a word).

Others say boys never grow up.

Kynthia

There's so many sides to the question of being grown up that it's easy to answer that you are or aren't.

In many ways we never feel grown up because we expect to feel different but we still feel like we did as a young person. Sometimes you act silly or fun - loving and think that makes you un-grown up. However as was said above, meeting your responsibilities, doing what needs to be done, putting others before yourself when needed, etc, all show us to be mature and grown up. Buying a house, having children, dealing with illness and death, planning our futures and putting protections on place for our loved ones, and i'd imagine being the oldest generation still around in your family would all be times we felt grown up.

Detroit

When you stop habitually turning to someone older and wiser than you for help and advice. Either because they're no longer there, or because you no longer feel the need.