What should I do now?

piglet74

MXW wrote: »

I've no intention of contacting him again. He goes on holiday on Friday for 2 weeks, so if I haven't heard from him by then, I will draw a line under it and move on.

You have been here before, in your previous thread it was the same thing, and you asked the question will you text him and tell him how much you miss him.

I fear this man is still married, and I said that on your previous post regarding the previous man,

History is very much repeating itself, take the advice this time, walk away, dont look back, don't keep picking the same type of men.

MXW

hazyjo wrote: »

I always think they're still married... I've been scorned a few times


I do find that if a 'relationship' is more about texting than ringing, one's married or it's not really above the very early stages. Let him chase you. Maybe just ring him one night instead of texting. Is he saying he lives on his own now?


Jx

I have rung him quite a few times, at all different times of the day and evening. He has always answered the phone and we have had lengthy conversations with no issues.

MXW

He has contacted me today, and we have had an honest conversation about what we both want. For now it's sorted...I can't comment on the future.

tea_lover

MXW wrote: »

He has contacted me today, and we have had an honest conversation about what we both want. For now it's sorted...I can't comment on the future.

No, but what you can do is learn from the past, and learn from the experience of others. Pretty much everyone on here is saying not to invest so much at such an early stage, and certainly not to turn all bunny boiler. I just hope you take that on board before you berate him again for daring to go 4 hours without replying to you after 4 whole dates.

piglet74

This is very much following the same line as your previous post. Its almost like it's the same man.
Instead of bringing another man into the mix, maybe you should try learning from.previous mistakes, and as mentioned above and previously, dont be so needy and demanding.

FBaby

He has contacted me today, and we have had an honest conversation about what we both want. For now it's sorted...I can't comment on the future.

What was to sort then? Are you saying that something was indeed bothering him and that's why he'd gone a bit distant? Is it about you, or his situation with his ex?

MXW

FBaby wrote: »

What was to sort then? Are you saying that something was indeed bothering him and that's why he'd gone a bit distant? Is it about you, or his situation with his ex?

He didn't really think there was anything to sort, and was VERY surprised when I suggested there could be something wrong. As far as he is concerned, everything is fine, he wants us to carry on seeing each other, but said it's up to me, and my decision. He has to travel a long way to see me and is driving home in the early hours, but he has said he doesn't mind, we click, he enjoys my company, and wouldn't do it if he didn't want to see me. I think I do need to chill out and just let things take their natural course. I can only take his word for it. I wouldn't be thinking like this if he hadn't told me about seeing his ex. He didn't need to tell me, I don't live near him so would be none the wiser. He said he told me because he wanted to be honest with me.

MXW

piglet74 wrote: »

You have been here before, in your previous thread it was the same thing, and you asked the question will you text him and tell him how much you miss him.

I fear this man is still married, and I said that on your previous post regarding the previous man,

History is very much repeating itself, take the advice this time, walk away, dont look back, don't keep picking the same type of men.

The previous man wasn't married, he actually got back in contact with me to reconcile. I don't think this man is married either, I wouldn't be able to ring him unannounced, at any time without it being a problem.

Takeaway_Addict

piglet74 wrote: »

He hasn't rung you today and you sent him a chatty text and got no reply, and you are practically demanding an explanation,

Previously you text him , and after four hours you got no reply and you text him again,


I'm sorry, but IMHO, you are sounding desperate, and needy as mentioned above.

I agree with this OP, you do sound needy and if you keep getting at teh bloke he will just end it.

MXW

Takeaway_Addict wrote: »

I agree with this OP, you do sound needy and if you keep getting at teh bloke he will just end it.

But as I've just said....I acknowledge the fact I need to take a step back, and will.