Day date then stay over?!

catoutthebag

Hello.
To cut to the chase, I'm supposed to meet this girl for a mid afternoon date, at a halfway city between us, roughly 45-60 min.
She's very left field/alternative/free spirit type. Does her own thing. Messaged lightly fur a few days. Seems ok, perhaps not my type, but no harm saying hello and being sociable And see what happens.

So she's suggested, me staying over at her friends flat if things 'go late'?! And stuff like 'without being presumptuous how would you feel'!

No idea what to make of it?! She's assuming we like each in person?! And that something may happen it seems.

Don't know whether to run in the other direction to be honest.

Plus I think it just puts added pressure (on me, seemingly not her as she seems pretty carefree and confident)

Was planning on booking a train for a 2-3 hour date now no idea what.

Am I the one being silly? I've shown the messaged to both female and male colleagues and they thought my initial thoughts.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Means you don't have to worry about getting back early if you don't want to - but she isn't saying that she will sleep with you.

Alternative =/= easy.

lincroft1710

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Means you don't have to worry about getting back early if you don't want to - but she isn't saying that she will sleep with you.

Alternative =/= easy.

Agreed.....

AylesburyDuck

catoutthebag wrote: »

Hello.
To cut to the chase, I'm supposed to meet this girl for a mid afternoon date, at a halfway city between us, roughly 45-60 min.
She's very left field/alternative/free spirit type. Does her own thing. Messaged lightly fur a few days. Seems ok, perhaps not my type, but no harm saying hello and being sociable And see what happens.

So she's suggested, me staying over at her friends flat if things 'go late'?! And stuff like 'without being presumptuous how would you feel'!

No idea what to make of it?! She's assuming we like each in person?! And that something may happen it seems.

Don't know whether to run in the other direction to be honest.

Plus I think it just puts added pressure (on me, seemingly not her as she seems pretty carefree and confident)

Was planning on booking a train for a 2-3 hour date now no idea what.

Am I the one being silly? I've shown the messaged to both female and male colleagues and they thought my initial thoughts.

She's really not, i think your reading WAY too much into it.:rotfl:

catoutthebag

Maybe so.

But 2 independent colleague thought opposite to what you think ^ so it's clearly unclear.

Either way, whatever, my main concern is wjat train I should book back without going open return:rotfl:

catoutthebag

I wish I could paste the message to see it explicitly then you may have another opinion, but for privacy I don't:p

LKRDN_Morgan

AylesburyDuck wrote: »

She's really not, i think your reading WAY too much into it.:rotfl:

Oh please!!

If this was a male telling a female she could stay over if things go late we would all say he's chancing his arm.

I'd be booking a return ticket. Imagine if she's a horror and you're stuck at some unknowns house all night?

catoutthebag

And think skirt over it being an afternoon first date.

Do your first dates last into late night/over night if they start afternoon? Doubt it

My first dates average a couple hours.

Why be worried about me getting bscj late then? When I'm only an hour from home?

I enjoy her free spirited nature, no mention of coffee/pub but of 'goung on adventures and we'll be dancing in the rain' , as it's opposed to rain this weekend. Anyway, never messaged anyone like it, I'm intrigued by her if nothing else :rotfl:

catoutthebag

LKRDN_Morgan wrote: »

Oh please!!

If this was a male telling a female she could stay over if things go late we would all say he's chancing his arm.

I'd be booking a return ticket. Imagine if she's a horror and you're stuck at some unknowns house all night?

Exactly. When it's a woman it's innocent. Sexist?

missbiggles1

catoutthebag wrote: »

And think skirt over it being an afternoon first date.

Do your first dates last into late night/over night if they start afternoon? Doubt it

My first dates average a couple hours.

Why be worried about me getting bscj late then? When I'm only an hour from home?

I enjoy her free spirited nature, no mention of coffee/pub but of 'goung on adventures and we'll be dancing in the rain' , as it's opposed to rain this weekend. Anyway, never messaged anyone like it, I'm intrigued by her if nothing else :rotfl:

i don't think I ever had an afternoon date when I was younger - it seems a strange concept.

catoutthebag

missbiggles1 wrote: »

i don't think I ever had an afternoon date when I was younger - it seems a strange concept.

Strange thing to pick up on. You must be older or work 7 days a week. It's quite normal, nowadays, you now, especially when people work flexible hours or have other weekend evening plans though. Thanks for the insight though :rotfl: bless you.