Selling the house, need permission from other adult occupants

somuchindebt

We already have a buyer and solicitors are doing work for us. As I said originally it was going to be a fresh start as a family. It still could be but my husband does not want to get help. Debts I have are killing me and I thought that I have to close that chapter in my life. I thought that together we can achieve a lot once this is out of the way. When we don't argue it's good, but it does not last long unfortunately. I have spoken to his parents and they promised to speak to him, but they haven't. When we argue he often leaves me and kids and stays at his old flat at his parents. When he comes back he does not want to talk about it, just pretends nothing happened....

marksoton

somuchindebt wrote: »

We already have a buyer and solicitors are doing work for us. As I said originally it was going to be a fresh start as a family. It still could be but my husband does not want to get help. Debts I have are killing me and I thought that I have to close that chapter in my life. I thought that together we can achieve a lot once this is out of the way. When we don't argue it's good, but it does not last long unfortunately. I have spoken to his parents and they promised to speak to him, but they haven't. When we argue he often leaves me and kids and stays at his old flat at his parents. When he comes back he does not want to talk about it, just pretends nothing happened....

Then you concentrate on you and the kids and let him crack on. Do what's best for you.

NYM

somuchindebt wrote: »

We already have a buyer and solicitors are doing work for us. As I said originally it was going to be a fresh start as a family. It still could be but my husband does not want to get help. Debts I have are killing me and I thought that I have to close that chapter in my life. I thought that together we can achieve a lot once this is out of the way. When we don't argue it's good, but it does not last long unfortunately. I have spoken to his parents and they promised to speak to him, but they haven't. When we argue he often leaves me and kids and stays at his old flat at his parents. When he comes back he does not want to talk about it, just pretends nothing happened....

Maybe your husband needs to concentrate on 'what might happen' if you don't get his agreement to a sale. He's clearly living a comfortable life at the moment without the need to contribute to the family housing costs.

AnotherJoe

somuchindebt wrote: »

We already have a buyer and solicitors are doing work for us.

What a nightmare for the buyers. They are normally advised to steer clear where the sellers are divorcing, here its three-way ! I wonder if they know what's going on ?

Have you sorted out where you will live after you've sold ?

somuchindebt

Another Joe, we are not divorcing at the moment. My original question was hypothetical as this is something I am worried about. I might be wrong, it may depend on how we are when the papers come in. I did not expect it when I was putting the house on the market. My fault, I should have found out a bit more about the sales procedure and this question about another adults occupying the property has surprised me. I understand you feel for the buyers, I do appreciate they have invested money in surveys, solicitors etc.. but I did not mean or intend to have problems with the sale. When the house was on the market, estate agents had my husbands key, so nothing was done behind his back. I think he did not believe the house would actually sell but I can't be blamed for it.
I have not sorted where we will live, immediately can stay with my family and once I have money in the bank I am hoping to be able to rent a house.

Thank you again to everybody for your advice and thoughts. I think I have got carried away with my personal problems here even though just a few post earlier admitted this is not the right forum to discuss it.

PasturesNew

somuchindebt wrote: »

.... does not support the idea of sale. We have been arguing a lot and are probably at the verge of separation / divorce. ....

This is precisely why that paperwork is produced/required.

Without everybody agreeing to move out there can be no sale.

If he agrees, but doesn't, it's then down to the new owner/solicitor to sue his 4rse.

As each individual has their own mind, in some instances people might've simply not told their other occupants that the house was being sold, thinking "that's their problem when the removal men turn up with the new people's stuff"... and I'm sure some people WOULD simply not tell their other half, seeing it as their easy option to cut and run.

AdrianC

somuchindebt wrote: »

My fault, I should have found out a bit more about the sales procedure and this question about another adults occupying the property has surprised me.

All this question is doing is asking him to sign to confirm that he'll be moving out when the sale completes.

It really shouldn't be a terribly difficult - or, frankly, surprising - question, since it's fairly obvious to everybody that he will need to move out when the sale completes.

Isn't it?

AnotherJoe

AdrianC wrote: »

All this question is doing is asking him to sign to confirm that he'll be moving out when the sale completes.

It really shouldn't be a terribly difficult - or, frankly, surprising - question, since it's fairly obvious to everybody that he will need to move out when the sale completes.

Isn't it?

IMO the buyers would be barking if they didn't insist he moved out prior to exchange.
I wouldn't touch this property with a barge pole in its present state.

somuchindebt

AdrianC, yes it would be natural that we move out before or on the completion. And I doubt he would stay if we get to this point. But I think this question gives him little bit of opportunity to mess something up. I am not complaining about this question being asked, I just turned to people for some advice. I don't understand why you and AnotherJoe have to be so hostile. I am in very difficult situation and my life is shi*t already and without your comments. The buyer does not realise what my personal worries are and that me and my husband argue. My husband has not been presented this document yet and my worries, at this stage, are just my worries....

AdrianC

somuchindebt wrote: »

And I doubt he would stay if we get to this point.

"I doubt" isn't really good enough, to be honest. If you cannot deliver vacant possession on completion, life is going to get VERY expensive indeed, because you will be liable for all costs arising from the failure to complete. And that won't just be your buyers, but anybody else down the chain. This might be thousands of pounds...

If your husband really is going to give grief over it, let him get his tantrum out of the way now, when it's just a paperwork delay, rather than when he should be putting his fully-laden toybox into the removal wagon, because the buyers are waiting for the keys...

But I think this question gives him little bit of opportunity to mess something up.

Not really - if the concept of him moving out is going to causing problems, it's unquestionably best that those problems are dealt with now, rather than rearing their head at the point of completion.

I don't understand why you and AnotherJoe have to be so hostile.

I can't speak for Joe, but I can assure you I'm not intending to be hostile. I just think you're worried about the wrong thing. The question on the form is not your problem.

AnotherJoe wrote: »

IMO the buyers would be barking if they didn't insist he moved out prior to exchange.
I wouldn't touch this property with a barge pole in its present state.

As far as the buyers are concerned, though, it's just a married couple selling, not a tenanted property. Moving out on exchange would not be normal at all - moving out on completion would be the usual.