Getting married without the fuss

Tiggger

Guest101 wrote: »

Romance isn't dead after all!


http://www.cumbria.gov.uk/registrationservice/marriages/costs.asp


(that can vary depending on area - you need to contact your local office, but gives you an idea)

These fees are for marrying in Approved Premises, which are hotels etc and not the basic fee for a registration office wedding "without the frills". You may find that your local,registration office has both an Approved Premises type room and a basic no-frills offer too for a small wedding in the Registrars Office. You really need to ask what your local office offers.

System

Like the idea of this one but oh the price! :eek:

I love old churches.:)

suejb2

Do you want to get married where you live? A very quick look it is cheaper to get married Monday to Thursday. Trafford charges £170 whereas Kirklees it's £120.

onomatopoeia99

If you want to simplify what you have to say, go to Italy. The couple are required to say "Si" ("Yes") once each. The official says everything else, in Italian. Apparently there is no requirement for the bride and groom, or the witnesses, to understand any of what is being said. At least, I didn't understand any of it when I was my brother's witness, I know he didn't either, nor did my sister-in-law.

I would do better nowadays after some years of Italian lessons!

Angry_Bear

Judi wrote: »

but its the cringeworthy formalities that make is special... of course you can pick and choose what formalities you would do away with.... such as receptions, honeymoons etc.

Personally the ceremony itself would be enough for me but i remember my Mother cleaning off abroad to get married to my StepDad. She didnt give me and the rest of her family a second thought. It hurt me greatly. Thats one mistake i'd not make.... not considering the feelings of others.

That's the reason I never married my ex in 19 years (turned out to be a good thing though eh? ). We were never interested in all the cost and frippery, but his family would have taken it personally and never forgiven us if we'd just gone down to the registry office and done it alone.

That's why I disagree so strongly when people say "getting married doesn't have to cost a lot" - it can do if you're worried about other people feeling hurt.

Nick_C

Judi wrote: »

but its the cringeworthy formalities that make is special

For you maybe. For me, what makes it special is knowing that my partner will get a pension if I die first, knowing that there will be no death duties, not having to worry about making a will, and doubling our annual CGT allowance by putting our investments into joint names.

We formed our contract with the minimum of fuss and a couple of friends as witnesses.

I don't understand young couples starting out in life who waste £20K on a wedding when there are so many more important things to spend that money on. If you and your OH know that you love each other, that is all that matters. You don't need throw a lavish party for 100 people to prove it the world.