Getting married without the fuss

Guest101

deaston wrote: »

So it can never be popping in to an office and signing some papers with a witness? Even the most basic needs to have all the shenanigans of "do you x take y" etc etc.

In essence it is that.


BUT this is a legal contract and there are some formalities.


What is it you want to avoid?

deaston

Just trying to avoid the cringeworthy formalities. We're not interested in churches, wedding breakfasts, honeymoons etc. We love each other and want to be married, but don't see the need to make a thing of it.

suki1964

You don't have to make a 'thing out of it'
However certain words do have to be spoken

When you make an appointment with the registrar that will give you the options of wordings available, you choose. But the do you take this man/wife words aren't optional I don't think. Marriage is a legal contract and those words form part of it


You don't have to do the honour and obey bit anymore

mickeymouse303

Local registry office and witnesses.

TonyMMM

The most basic way is for you both to give notice (no avoiding that), for which the statutory fee is £35 each, and then to have the marriage performed in the registrar's office (just the couple + 2 witnesses) which all areas have to offer as an option and for which the charge in my area is £46. So you could do it for £116.

There doesn't have to be any flowery words - all you have to do is two simple vows in front of your two witnesses. One to confirm your name and that you are free to marry, and the second to say that you take X as your husband/wife.

That's it - No requirement for anything else. Takes about 15- 20mins max. (most of which is to allow time for the registrar to write out the entry in the register).

System

deaston wrote: »

Just trying to avoid the cringeworthy formalities. We're not interested in churches, wedding breakfasts, honeymoons etc. We love each other and want to be married, but don't see the need to make a thing of it.

but its the cringeworthy formalities that make is special... of course you can pick and choose what formalities you would do away with.... such as receptions, honeymoons etc.

Personally the ceremony itself would be enough for me but i remember my Mother cleaning off abroad to get married to my StepDad. She didnt give me and the rest of her family a second thought. It hurt me greatly. Thats one mistake i'd not make.... not considering the feelings of others.

Georgiegirl256

Guest101 wrote: »

Romance isn't dead after all!


http://www.cumbria.gov.uk/registrationservice/marriages/costs.asp
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Wow, is that how much it is up here now? Our local registry office (in Cumbria) is a horrible little room, which I guess doesn't matter if you just want the basics. We got married in Gretna Green, but I can't remember the price now.

suki1964 wrote: »

You don't have to do the honour and obey bit anymore

Thank goodness!

Judi wrote: »

but its the cringeworthy formalities that make is special... of course you can pick and choose what formalities you would do away with.... such as receptions, honeymoons etc.

Personally the ceremony itself would be enough for me but i remember my Mother cleaning off abroad to get married to my StepDad. She didnt give me and the rest of her family a second thought. It hurt me greatly. Thats one mistake i'd not make.... not considering the feelings of others.

The cringeworthy formalities might be what make it special, but not for everyone.

Your Mum going abroad was her (and your stepdads) choice, and their feelings should be the ones that come first IMO. That's what bugs me about weddings, everyone else feeling they have a say, when really the "big day" is the bride and grooms.

Guest101

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Wow, is that how much it is up here now? Our local registry office (in Cumbria) is a horrible little room, which I guess doesn't matter if you just want the basics. We got married in Gretna Green, but I can't remember the price now.



Thank goodness!




The cringeworthy formalities might be what make it special, but not for everyone.

Your Mum going abroad was her (and your stepdads) choice, and their feelings should be the ones that come first IMO. That's what bugs me about weddings, everyone else feeling they have a say, when really the "big day" is the bride and grooms.

Yep, crazy but I guess so many people get married in the lakes, nice little money spinner

Georgiegirl256

Guest101 wrote: »

Yep, crazy but I guess so many people get married in the lakes, nice little money spinner

Totally! :beer:

System

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Your Mum going abroad was her (and your stepdads) choice, and their feelings should be the ones that come first IMO. That's what bugs me about weddings, everyone else feeling they have a say, when really the "big day" is the bride and grooms.

I must be wired up differently to everyone else.:(