only getting DLA - no other benefits

Poppie68

Cheeky_Monkey wrote: »

:T:T:T:T admirable Poppie

As they say - where there's a will, there's a way

Thanks Cheeky Monkey..... sadly it got me in the end and I took early retirement 3 years ago and a claim DLA for that and other severe health problems but I can't imagine why on earth someone gives up so easily when there is so much that can be done for such a common condition, this forum is full of people working with OA on medication or without but I'm sorry OA in your ankles shouldn't give you the now frankly vastly overused title of disabled.

The op needs to look at going back to work straight away as there is absolutely no reason the husband shouldn't be capable of looking after a baby....I went back to work 1 month after giving birth to twins, I looked after them and my toddler during the day and worked evenings and nights when my husband took over...


No doubt I'm facing a backlash from my posts but I'm sick to death of this pampered society we have become.


Edit: Just thought I would say, I am in no way unique and there are many past and present who basically grab life by the !!!!!es and work their way through life.

kazzah

agree 100% Poppie68
my hubby is 59 and suffers from painful psoriatic arthritis for which he takes heavy duty pain meds as well as low dose chemotherapy drugs methotrexate to try and limit the advance of the disease.

he is currently unemployed after his last job in the charity sector ended ( they are usually time limited roles) and is DESPERATE to go back to work - this week alone he has had 3 interviews

due to him receiving a very small occupational pension he gets no JSA and is on low rate DLA - there is no way he would consider giving up work currently because we still have 6 years left on our mortgage to pay and we too could potentially end up homeless he does NOT consider himself to be disabled and had to be nagged into applying for DLA by his consultant some years ago - I don't know if he will bother when time comes to swap to PIP
as he says - while he has a heartbeat he will continue to work - as his dad did before him - full time until he was 65 and then with two little part time jobs until his death aged 84

they don't seem to make them like that any more !

pmlindyloo

May I remind everyone what this forum is about?

Its about helping people get their entitlement! Not about benefits policy!

This board is here for help and support for those on or looking to claim benefits, not for judgement.

It’s ONLY focus is helping people with their money.

It's here to help people find out what they are entitled to under the current system, and to help them get it.

Benefits provide a lifeline for many, and this site is here to help people with their money, and not to judge. Of course, how to illegally defraud the benefits system shouldn't be discussed here, but ensuring you're getting your entitlement is exactly what it’s about.

We all know the benefits system is a mess – but that’s for the discussion time.

Whatever you're political persuasion, we're all aware the benefits system is a mess. Whether it’s the malpayments of tax credits, benefit fraud, or simply the fact that sometimes it doesn't pay to work - everyone has their grumble.

Yet to discuss the benefits system itself and issues around it, the appropriate place isn't here but the Discussion time Board and even there, please remember courtesy and not to make it personal about anyone. This site's prime purpose it to help people with their money and I will always act to protect that.

Thanks for your co-operation


Martin

I feel very strongly that if you have no benefit help to give to posters then please do not post.

It stops genuine people posting and needing help if they read the kind of comments recently made.

kazzah

I don't think anybody has been unnecessarily harsh with the OP
she has asked what else she may be entitled to

she has had replies to her question

if her husband is able to get a job then that would help their financial situation - she posted reasons why he is unable to get a job

others( including me) have suggested that he "MIGHT" be able to work if his pain is adequately dealt with - there are lots of pain solutions which do NOT involve him being left " not compusmentus" to do a seated job.

helping people isn't always about giving them handouts or information on hand outs - some times motivation can come from knowing that other people work with similar diagnoses, so to give up on work entirely may not be their best option.

tboo

supki wrote: »

he was rejected by atos in 2012. We appealed it. Was rejected again. Told earlier this yr we can start new app so we did... Then got letter to say original rejection from 2012 stands. unless he has a new disability he cannot apply. He has osteoarthritis in both ankles & cannot walk. Heavy medication so not always compusmentus to go and do a sitting down job....

We are on interest only mortgage but we are selling up cos cannot afford it on my wages alone plus I'm pregnant now so need to move out before I start mat pay otherwise will b on the street in Jan when baby arrives.

If you sell up and are looking at renting and claiming HB any equity - if any - has to be used towards another mortgaged property within 52 weeks.

Just to point out also after the birth you may not be eligible for any deductions towards any child care costs with HB either unless your OH gets certain benefits - so enquire at the time before signing up to a child care provider

My experience is I have had RA for over 4 years and have difficulty in walking, I'm on my 5th set of medication so far while they find the right one as none are working right, I'm in constant pain but work P/T (due to childcare issues) and have a 6yr and a OH:rotfl: to look after - so it is do-able for your husband

Don't let your OH give up:)

Poppie68

pmlindyloo wrote: »

May I remind everyone what this forum is about?

Its about helping people get their entitlement! Not about benefits policy!

This board is here for help and support for those on or looking to claim benefits, not for judgement.

It’s ONLY focus is helping people with their money.

It's here to help people find out what they are entitled to under the current system, and to help them get it.

Benefits provide a lifeline for many, and this site is here to help people with their money, and not to judge. Of course, how to illegally defraud the benefits system shouldn't be discussed here, but ensuring you're getting your entitlement is exactly what it’s about.

We all know the benefits system is a mess – but that’s for the discussion time.

Whatever you're political persuasion, we're all aware the benefits system is a mess. Whether it’s the malpayments of tax credits, benefit fraud, or simply the fact that sometimes it doesn't pay to work - everyone has their grumble.

Yet to discuss the benefits system itself and issues around it, the appropriate place isn't here but the Discussion time Board and even there, please remember courtesy and not to make it personal about anyone. This site's prime purpose it to help people with their money and I will always act to protect that.

Thanks for your co-operation


Martin

I feel very strongly that if you have no benefit help to give to posters then please do not post.

It stops genuine people posting and needing help if they read the kind of comments recently made.

Regardless how strongly you feel, this is an open forum and not one thread posted on this board or others is answered by multiple choice or by robots so you get the human approach to questions not genitic robotic answers.

No comments have been particularly harsh and nobody should be put off asking for help by anything written here.... I spoke from experience of OA as practically a lifelong condition that has always been far more extreme than the ops husband condition... I maybe wrongly assume he is fairly young which means a lifetime of claiming benefits and missing out on a working life for something that can easily be controlled.....If it suits them better as a couple though there is absolutely no reason from what the op has written so far that the husband shouldn't be capable of looking after a baby and the op can go back to work straight after having the baby, that is why I advised talking to the Pain clinic.

pmlindyloo

Poppie68 wrote: »

Regardless how strongly you feel, this is an open forum and not one thread posted on this board or others is answered by multiple choice or by robots so you get the human approach to questions not genitic robotic answers.

No comments have been particularly harsh and nobody should be put off asking for help by anything written here.... I spoke from experience of OA as practically a lifelong condition that has always been far more extreme than the ops husband condition... I maybe wrongly assume he is fairly young which means a lifetime of claiming benefits and missing out on a working life for something that can easily be controlled.....If it suits them better as a couple though there is absolutely no reason from what the op has written so far that the husband shouldn't be capable of looking after a baby and the op can go back to work straight after having the baby, that is why I advised talking to the Pain clinic.

Let me make it quite clear that I did not say that anyone had been particularly harsh in their comments.

I posted because I am, frankly, sick of people making unnecessary comments.

it all started with Missb - 'I am sitting on my hands' - with 10 thanks. What is that all about?

Then we have people making assumptions about the extent of the OP's husband's illness. Why?

Then people start giving advice about how her OH can get better/improve.

There is an implied assumption here that her OH should be working or looking after the new baby, followed by stories of how other people can work and child care with the same condition.

We know nothing about the OP or her OH. (or at least on first reading of the post we didn't)

Those are the comments that really annoy me.

I know I should not be replying at all as it only 'feeds' those posters who go from one forum to another (try the relationship and discussion forum for examples) poking fun and making silly comments.

Generally I let them get on with it and feel sorry for their need for attention and that they have such sad lives that they have to use a forum to get their laughs.

Others are genuinely trying to be helpful but it is misplaced without knowing the full facts. It is not this group that concerns me.

I know I have no right to try and 'police' this forum but I am genuinely concerned that a group of people are trying to discredit this particular forum.

There is a dire lack of advice about benefits for people and this forum should be a place where people can come and expect a reply with no suggestion of judgement.

If it is going to be 'taken over' by a small number of people to get some kind of 'I don't know what' then I shall be leaving.

For anyone who wants to read the background of the OP then they can here. ( I hadn't read it before I posted originally.)

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/52665467#Comment_52665467

borkid

pmlindyloo wrote: »

Let me make it quite clear that I did not say that anyone had been particularly harsh in their comments.

I posted because I am, frankly, sick of people making unnecessary comments.

it all started with Missb - 'I am sitting on my hands' - with 10 thanks. What is that all about?

Then we have people making assumptions about the extent of the OP's husband's illness. Why?

Then people start giving advice about how her OH can get better/improve.

There is an implied assumption here that her OH should be working or looking after the new baby, followed by stories of how other people can work and child care with the same condition.

We know nothing about the OP or her OH. (or at least on first reading of the post we didn't)

Those are the comments that really annoy me.

I know I should not be replying at all as it only 'feeds' those posters who go from one forum to another (try the relationship and discussion forum for examples) poking fun and making silly comments.

Generally I let them get on with it and feel sorry for their need for attention and that they have such sad lives that they have to use a forum to get their laughs.

Others are genuinely trying to be helpful but it is misplaced without knowing the full facts. It is not this group that concerns me.

I know I have no right to try and 'police' this forum but I am genuinely concerned that a group of people are trying to discredit this particular forum.

There is a dire lack of advice about benefits for people and this forum should be a place where people can come and expect a reply with no suggestion of judgement.

If it is going to be 'taken over' by a small number of people to get some kind of 'I don't know what' then I shall be leaving.

For anyone who wants to read the background of the OP then they can here. ( I hadn't read it before I posted originally.)

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/52665467#Comment_52665467

In the past, in other threads it has been implied if not stated outright that Missb has been harsh. Maybe she is just stating that she is not going to comment/ get drawn in on this one and that's what people were thanking her for ie staying out of it. That's how I read it anyway.

pmlindyloo

borkid wrote: »

In the past, in other threads it has been implied if not stated outright that Missb has been harsh. Maybe she is just stating that she is not going to comment/ get drawn in on this one and that's what people were thanking her for ie staying out of it. That's how I read it anyway.

But then why post at all?

The benefits forum is quite different to the discussion board where you can comment/get drawn in (the latter actually implies some judgement IMHO).

Makes no sense to me.

Perhaps best left at that.

Alice_Walker

pmlindyloo wrote: »

Let me make it quite clear that I did not say that anyone had been particularly harsh in their comments.

I posted because I am, frankly, sick of people making unnecessary comments.

it all started with Missb - 'I am sitting on my hands' - with 10 thanks. What is that all about?

Then we have people making assumptions about the extent of the OP's husband's illness. Why?

Then people start giving advice about how her OH can get better/improve.

There is an implied assumption here that her OH should be working or looking after the new baby, followed by stories of how other people can work and child care with the same condition.

We know nothing about the OP or her OH. (or at least on first reading of the post we didn't)

Those are the comments that really annoy me.

I know I should not be replying at all as it only 'feeds' those posters who go from one forum to another (try the relationship and discussion forum for examples) poking fun and making silly comments.

Generally I let them get on with it and feel sorry for their need for attention and that they have such sad lives that they have to use a forum to get their laughs.

Others are genuinely trying to be helpful but it is misplaced without knowing the full facts. It is not this group that concerns me.

I know I have no right to try and 'police' this forum but I am genuinely concerned that a group of people are trying to discredit this particular forum.

There is a dire lack of advice about benefits for people and this forum should be a place where people can come and expect a reply with no suggestion of judgement.

If it is going to be 'taken over' by a small number of people to get some kind of 'I don't know what' then I shall be leaving.

For anyone who wants to read the background of the OP then they can here. ( I hadn't read it before I posted originally.)

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/comment/52665467#Comment_52665467

Good advice is not always saying what people want to hear, and it's not always related to benefit entitlement. It's about achieving the right outcome for the individual or family, and that may include telling people that they need to return to work/ increase their hours etc.

Maybe the board would feel more friendly if you stopped trying to censor or moderate people with genuinely good advice, all because it doesn't agree with your own ideals? I know people that have been put off posting because of certain posters that will jump on them if they say something they disagree with, a good example being your nasty digs at missbiggles1 above. Or is it ok for you to suggest that others "have such sad lives that they have to use a forum to get their laughs"? Yours is the only nasty comment I have seen on this thread.

pmlindyloo wrote: »

Perhaps best left at that.

Because you've had your say, so no one else is allowed to?