Asking someone to pay for damage caused.

Mojisola

Leaporlepor wrote: »

I found out this morning that it will cost £315 to fix.

tea_lover wrote: »

Are you sure your standard contents insurance wouldn't cover it? I've never had to list anything under £500.

If the repair is £315, the value of the clock is probably a lot higher than £500.

As the two 'men' are so dependent on their mothers, I'd be speaking to them. Why do women allow their adult children to stay so infantile?

fairy_lights

I'm 28 and don't throw things round in friends houses. If I ever did break something, particularly something of sentimental value I would be mortified and certainly offer to pay.
So I'm trying to see this from your friends perspective but really can't.

pickledonionspaceraider

Pair of grown women acting like complete disrespectful imbeciles and destroying something of value? Yes I would expect them to pay. If they cant afford it, there is something called a J.O.B which those who are physically able to, and have any sense of integrity, go to earn our own money

Guest101

I don't think you have much of a legal case, so it's down to them if they pay.

You might get £5 a week if you took it to SCs, but you'd be back there in 2-3 months once they stopped paying. That's if you can convince a judge

Pollycat

Detroit wrote: »

I think they should pay, by instalments if they can't afford a lump sum.

Whether they will or not is a different matter.
You can get a sence of this by their reactions at the time.

Did they apologise profusely? Did they offer to pay for damages?
If they did neither, I'd imagine they may be less likely to pay if than if they had acknowledged responsibility.

Quite honestly imo they shouldn't need to be asked.

I disagree with your sister, and think you should ask them to pay.

They may refuse, but i think you have little to lose if you offend them, as friends who will damage your property through avoidable behaviour, and not offer or agree to compensate you, are not really worth having.

I'd say something like 'its going to cost me £315 to repair that clock you broke. It's important to me as it was my grandma's. I think you two should give me half each'

If they're offended, so be it. I'd be offended at the damage to my property.

I agree with this - and especially with the bits in bold.

Rain_Shadow

pickledonionspaceraider wrote: »

Pair of grown women acting like complete disrespectful imbeciles and destroying something of value? Yes I would expect them to pay. If they cant afford it, there is something called a J.O.B which those who are physically able to, and have any sense of integrity, go to earn our own money

Er..............

tea_lover

Mojisola wrote: »

If the repair is £315, the value of the clock is probably a lot higher than £500.

As the two 'men' are so dependent on their mothers, I'd be speaking to them. Why do women allow their adult children to stay so infantile?

Oops, yes of course, I shouldn't post when I'm half asleep

TBagpuss

Thye ought to have ofered to pay for what they broke,.

I don't think that there is anythign wrong with you asking them to do so. I would only speak to their mothers *after* you have spoken to them, and if they are not willingto pay up - after all, despite their behaviour, they are adults.

However, if they are as childsih as you sugest, they may well feel aggrieved at being asked to take repsonsibility for their actions, so be preared for them to refuse and/or for the firmedship to cool.

That said, if they do object, they are showing you their real characters.

Lily-Rose_3

Am I the only one who thinks it's very bizarre to be speaking to the MOTHERS of two grown men in the 20s and 30s?! :eek: What the actual heck?

As I said, I think you will find it hard to make any kind of claim against them, as you invited them in, and you should really have moved anything expensive out of the way, if you knew that 2 boisterous and childish men were coming to visit.

warby68

I think they should be asked to pay.

They were asked to stop and didn't. They are adults. Adults should take responsibility. Friends also act decently.

If these two muppets didn't offer at the outset though, I suspect you'll have a hard time as they are Teflon kidults - nothing sticks.

Noone should be expected to move valuable and breakables when adults are coming round even if they are a bit immature. I stopped moving breakables when the kids and their friends hit double figures.

And yes, involve the mums if you have to here - I wouldn't normally but blatant mummy's boys are a bit of an exception.

Even if the item was insured you could easily have had an insurance excess of £250 so I wouldn't feel too bad there.

I really hope these two clowns man up a bit - its obvious you are upset and a little bit vulnerable and it would be nice to think your friends were fundamentally decent even if a few sandwiches short of a picnic.