Plz help. Pregnancy at 40. How to cope this stree or fear or getting pregnant at 39+

Joy_mate

Hi all.
If anyone can calm me down with fear and stree of getting pregnant at 39+ years in this era.
Due to family problem actually it got delayed,
Now I am so so stressful that what will happen!?
Is that still manageable to get normal life?
Ladies do live healthy and happy life after having first child in their 40s.
Thanks you all.

hazyjo

tbh, if you didn't have lots of other posts, I'd have written this off as a non-serious thread (sorry!). Yes, of course women have babies in their 40s and live healthily(?) and happily(?) and normally(?) - why would you think otherwise?

AFAIK, there may be associated risks (increases in miscarriage, Downs, etc) that you will be advised on.

My friend had her third at 43. Another friend had her first at the same age. Both planned. All VERY happy.

I'm 46 and don't feel old enough lol. I doubt we'd ever go for it now, but if it happened, it wouldn't be the end of the world. I would have whatever tests were available, but wouldn't terminate. My cousin in her early 20s had a Downs baby last month. It's not solely a risk for older mums.

Jx
PS Good luck, don't panic!

FBaby

Your post is a bit disjuncted. Hard to give you reassurance when we don't know your circumstances. There's a big difference between getting pregnant at 40 when you already have 6 kids all grown up or just about, or on your own without a job, or expecting your first child with a supporting partner.

In itself, assuming you are healthy, there is nothing to be concerned about being pregnant at 40yo. More and more women are so and cope perfectly fine. What are your worries?

Pollycat

A strange post.

The OP was aged 38 in July 2016 according to one of her posts on the Motoring board.

divadee

Well I'm nearly 40 and currently 15 weeks pregnant. I have a 18.5 year old so this one was a little surprise package!!! This pregnancy is totally different to my last one. Is that down to age? I doubt it as younger people who have had more than one baby have said their pregnancies were all different anyway.

I have had additional private testing done due to my age and the risk of chromosomal abnormalities but that's it really.

Detroit

Try oldermum.co.uk for information and a positive overview of this situation.

Maybe also have a chat with your GP to get the information you need from a health perspective.

Tigsteroonie

Got pregnant at 39, had son at 40 Define "normal life" - normality changes for everybody having a child, whether fifteen or fifty. I'm having a healthy and happy life, as is my work colleague who had her daughter at 41.

Joy_mate

hazyjo wrote: »

tbh, if you didn't have lots of other posts, I'd have written this off as a non-serious thread (sorry!). Yes, of course women have babies in their 40s and live healthily(?) and happily(?) and normally(?) - why would you think otherwise?

AFAIK, there may be associated risks (increases in miscarriage, Downs, etc) that you will be advised on.

My friend had her third at 43. Another friend had her first at the same age. Both planned. All VERY happy.

I'm 46 and don't feel old enough lol. I doubt we'd ever go for it now, but if it happened, it wouldn't be the end of the world. I would have whatever tests were available, but wouldn't terminate. My cousin in her early 20s had a Downs baby last month. It's not solely a risk for older mums.

Jx
PS Good luck, don't panic!

Thank you....

Joy_mate

Tigsteroonie wrote: »

Got pregnant at 39, had son at 40 Define "normal life" - normality changes for everybody having a child, whether fifteen or fifty. I'm having a healthy and happy life, as is my work colleague who had her daughter at 41.

......Very helpful.....

Joy_mate

FBaby wrote: »

Your post is a bit disjuncted. Hard to give you reassurance when we don't know your circumstances. There's a big difference between getting pregnant at 40 when you already have 6 kids all grown up or just about, or on your own without a job, or expecting your first child with a supporting partner.

In itself, assuming you are healthy, there is nothing to be concerned about being pregnant at 40yo. More and more women are so and cope perfectly fine. What are your worries?

Detroit wrote: »

Try oldermum.co.uk for information and a positive overview of this situation.

Maybe also have a chat with your GP to get the information you need from a health perspective.

Thanks for ur time.

kingfisherblue

My three children were born by the time I was thirty, and one has Down's Syndrome. In the last eighteen years since his birth, I have met only a couple of mums who were 35+ when they conceived a child with DS. The youngest mum I know of was 16. Most of us were in our twenties or early thirties.

I'm telling you this to reassure you. When you hear of a mum aged around 40, many people think of Down's Syndrome. Even if it does occur, it's not the end of the world. If tests are positive, though, I believe that the pressure to abort is quite intense (according to what other parents have told me). It's personal choice though.

I was 32 weeks pregnant when DS was mentioned as a possibility. The consultant was downright rude to me, insisting that I have an amniocentesis two days later. He also said (and I quote), 'Well, what do you expect when you refused the tests!). I had my care transferred to a different consultant the same afternoon.

Having a baby at any age is exhausting, but also very exciting. I love my three to bits, and am now a granny to a twenty month old granddaughter. Congratulations on your pregnancy and I hope that your baby brings as much joy as mine have given me.