Really in need of housing advice, please help

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Hmm another 'hound the OP' thread.

People don't normally have children so they will get a council house to live in. A small minority might, not the vast majority. Lets face it, no one just walks into social housing and I think the majority of people realise this. Social Housing was created for those who are disadvantaged, and thank god it does exist in some form.

I for one would be on the streets, and my two kids with ASD would be in care if it didn't. Like many, I started off having a child when I was in a relationship, had a purchased house to live in, had a good job. Then things changed, it was eventually realised first one son and then another had ASD, I could never get a job because of the time spent looking after my kids. Mostly due to an education system that was unprepared to support my children.

I went to uni to help me be a more employable prospect.., six years of very hard work (including college). I never ever thought I'd end up like this. Long term benefit recipient in social housing. Put so much effort into finding a way I could work. Relationship breakdown, effect of special needs etc. It all has a part to play. Definitely made some bad decisions (in terms of partners) but I can't change that now.

You tell yourself it will get better, you'll find a way out of the hole but things keep knocking you back in. But I never ever went into this with a 'dream' of ending up like this, like it was an easy life. It most definitely isn't. And I am certain most don't.

Maybe the OP could change things if she didn't have the baby she is expecting, maybe she is facing tremendous difficulties.., but having lost a baby myself.., 9 days after birth please could people have some compassion for how that affects a person even without any mental health problems. It really does bring you to your knees. Particularly if you have a lack of family support and so are more vulnerable to that 'longing' for your own family. I'm not saying this makes it right.., but some compassion for the OP would be more helpful than the condemnation and total ignorance for the distress she is in. Do you want to be responsible for the consequences of this attitude.., cause I can tell you what they are.., think about it? None of this makes getting pregnant right.., but some understanding for why please?

Mojisola

anotheruser wrote: »

I understand you're going through some stuff, but why you got pregnant is anyones guess.

Yes, it may have been because the pill failed but so unlikely, it's not worth thinking about. But even if the condom split, the guy can feel it and knows it has happened.

If this is the same person, the story is a bit different -
http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-conceive-naturally-with-pcos-and-endometriosis

Mojisola

homeisthecalm wrote: »

I suffer with Psychosis and because of this, my Mum is refusing to allow me to live in the family home, through fear of small children living there seeing what I go through.

Will the OP be allowed to have sole care of an infant if her own mother is too worried to let her live with her siblings?

Detroit

Pennysmakepounds wrote: »

Reading the responses to this ‘Story’, on multiple threads - It’s amazing to see how many people think that everyone who can’t look after themselves is automatically the responsibility of the state, to house and feed.

This is the issue in this country, too many people thinking that they have the god given right to rely on the ‘Social Safety Net’ when they are just irresponsible.

Getting pregnant at the age of 17, with NO job, NO Home, NO means to look after the child. That is irresponsible to say the least.

Criticise me all you want but some people just need to grow up and smell the coffee.

Having a child is a BIG responsibility and should not be taken likely, and definitely should not be undertaken by those who are ‘CHILDREN’ themselves.

People like this young girl, who by her own account (on multiple threads) has real issues and in reality has no real hope of looking after this kid should not be having children.

You hear so many people on benefits calling the weekly benefit allowance a ‘WAGE’. It is NOT a wage, a wage is something you have worked for not a HANDOUT by the government.

Is it any wonder we have no social housing left in this country, when everyone thinks their way to an easy life is to have kids and so they can get a house and claim benefits.

The social system is at breaking point and you see it everywhere, (Granted immigration has not helped) or broken depending on who you ask.

The policies to help house people with, or expecting, children, and the benefits available to their parents are there to support the children not the adults.

Whatever people feel about those choosing to have children they cannot house or feed without statutory help, a civilized society cannot allow children to be homeless or without means to be fed and clothed.

Obviously, their parents benefit from this too, which many agree is unfair to others who work and take financial responsibility for their families.

But, realistically what would be the alternative?

Children homeless and starving? Or placed in the already over stretched care system?

marksoton

Mojisola wrote: »

Will the OP be allowed to have sole care of an infant if her own mother is too worried to let her live with her siblings?

I certainly hope not.

GwylimT

Someone has now called her out on her other fake story on a pregnancy site.

pweetyabiola

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GwylimT

homeisthecalm wrote: »

Alice Walker, what links are there to suggest I am moving in the near future and certainly not 17?


I was moving council properties with my ex partner until recently, and I asked about grocery shopping. I don't ever remember commenting any other age, as I would not have

http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/can-i-conceive-naturally-with-pcos-and-endometriosis

FrankE

Sorry to hear all this. Can you give us an update on how you are? I'm sorry your mum can't help.

GwylimT

BerryCat wrote: »

Sorry to hear all this. Can you give us an update on how you are? I'm sorry your mum can't help.

Probably busy walking her dog or looking after her kids, or gushing over her new geese blinds.