Really in need of housing advice, please help

missbiggles1

Alice_Walker wrote: »

A matter of days ago you were not coping at all. You were also apparently living with your parents.



People can only help if you are honest.

I'm getting deja vu with some of these posts.

missbiggles1

homeisthecalm wrote: »

I am aware of this, and I was taking a higher dosage of this drug with my last pregnancy.


Unfortunately, my medication does carry a risk but you have to look at it both ways and it is best my meds aren't altered.

And you lost the babies....

It might be best for you, that doesn't mean it's best for your unborn child.

silvercar

Can your parent(s) offer some support?

homeisthecalm

Yes you can, it comes down to the dosage

homeisthecalm

So you are suggesting I could have well lost my twins due to my medication? Unbelievable.


It isn't just about what is best for me, but what is best for my child with my around them to parent. My twins has lack of fluid in the womb, and they were essentially crushed because of it. My medication didn't do that.


Risperadone can cause complications but there are no recorded deaths

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homeisthecalm wrote: »

I'm astounded that anyone would suggest I terminate this pregnancy. I have suffered the loss of twins before this baby, and I'm aware you didn't know that, but it still seems odd that you would make such comments without knowing a full background.


I am not a child. I have worked and lived independently since the age of 16.


Thank you for the kind advice of some users, it is appreciated.


I cope extremely well with my Psychosis. It doesn't define me as a person but unfortunately it does make working life difficult. I see no reason why I couldn't give my child a good life, full of opportunities, love and support. Financially, I receive quite a bit extra than if I didn't have a MH problem (because of ESA and PIP), and although things won't be easy, I will cope. I am entitled to Child Tax Credit's, Child Benefits and Housing Benefit (100%).


My only concern at the moment is living in shared accommodation of some sort, as I don't think that would be suitable, given the circumstances. Furthermore, why on earth would Social Services get involved purely on the grounds of MH issues? My Mum suffers with Bipolar and has not once been questioned about her capabilities, even by her GP.

Hi

I think you are showing great strength of character. Well answered.

I have two sons with ASD, and my borough tries to put people in shared lettings (a room in a hostel). I was able to get medical professional's letters (including a social worker for my older son) saying how unsuitable this sort of accommodation would be for my sons (with their need for quiet, safety issues when dealing with strangers, shared facilities etc). This meant we were put straignt into a maisonette when we needed emergency accommodation.

It might actually be to your advantage to get help from social services from this angle (help with housing letters supporting your case). I had help from social services but it was only for 3 months as in spite of some things going wrong, I have impressed them so much with how I deal with my children, they closed the case last week. They don't normally have the time or manpower to help with cases that don't need it. Right now you probably could do with some support whilst accessing housing, but only right now.

There are also Housing Charities that will help support those with housing. Some are better than others. Porchlight in my area, only help people with mental health problems but this can include anything from depression to more serious problems.

I hope this helps. Remember people don't always understand, their experience is not yours, they are saying judging by their experience of life, this is what they'd do.., but of course they don't know you. I lost a baby shortly after birth so do understand how strongly you feel. And how much unthinking comments hurt. They don't mean it as personally as it feels, obviously its you in the situation and it hurts so badly.., people who haven't lost a baby don't get this or how it makes you feel. My third pregnancy, as badly timed as it was was like a miracle of life to me, and I was going to have that child regardless. He's now ten, with a problem that I wasn't even aware at the time existed also in my older son. But I wouldn't ever change a thing. He's still my miracle child.

Detroit

While the suggestions about contacting social services and the local authority are valid, I still strongly advise you to get some impartial advice and advocacy.

Your situation is complex and your health issues, age, and pregnancy make you vulnerable.

I think this will be hard to get through without support.
This is not meant in a patronising way, just as an acknowledgement that the situation is extremely challenging.

The statutory agencies mentioned can provide assistance, but they are working within guidelines specific to their roles, which may not mean they can help you holistically or impartially.

There are lots of agencies who exist to support pregnant young people, many with experience of helping where there are MH issues to consider.

The agency I suggested earlier is just one of them. CAB could signpost you to others in your area.

Blueday

Money_saving_maniac wrote: »

I disagree with you that not many 17 year olds could post for help in a clear well written way. Most of them are literate.

Most 17 year olds may be literate but none I know would structure their writing nor use the vocabulary of the OP. Is she really a 17 year old??

Mupette

homeisthecalm

Where are you really living now, as already said but you haven't yet answered, we can only offer advice if you are honest with us?

PaperDoll

homeisthecalm wrote: »

It says that they're usually only there for up to 16 years, unless you have been involved with them before then.


17 being a child in the eyes of the law isn't actually as simple as that, hence the sexual contact law etc.

Social Services have a duty to HOMELESS 16 & 17 YEAR OLDS.


You fit that description, therefore they have a duty towards you whether you want that to be true or not. I'm not sure why you asked for advice as you don't seem to want to hear any.