2 children one very sick and eventually no where to live

Caroline_a

Another vote for claiming child maintenance. This money is for your children, it isn't extra money for you, and your ex has a legal duty to pay for his children. If he is being like a spoilt brat and saying that he won't see them, then as others said, they are better off without him. It sounds as if he thinks that he is doing your kids and you a favour by coming to sere them!!

xylophone

Contact the Council.

Book an appointment with a Benefits Adviser at CAB.

Claim maintenance - if the father declines to see his son as a result, so be it - does your son need someone in his life who puts his own selfish interests above the welfare of his children?

thesaint

Apply for housing benefit.
Do not rely on what someone told you.

Harmon28

I have claimed dla awaiting for the decision at the moment.

My mum lives in a one bed flat with my step dad locally and neither of them can help me with being a gurantor as even though they both work full time, they don't own their flat. They had a bigger house and I lived with them up until when I became pregnant with my son, and then I moved in with my ex in his property and I stupidly let him convince me that he would take care of us and I would never have to worry about money or anything else.

My mums flat isn't appropriate as the tenancy they've signed says no children and anyway, it's far too small. I mean if I literally had no where to go at all, then obviously she would let me stay but it's in no way suitable for the long run.

My grandparents are my real dads dad, when me and my ex split I always thought we would get back together and it would be temporary. My mum asked them if I could move in until we had worked things out and she agreed on the basis of it being temporary. She was actually due to take some lodgers in in April but due to me living there, she hasn't done so and now she needs the money.

Anyway I spoke to the community nurse today who's informed me the council wouldn't be able to put me in temp due to my daughters condition and that I need to go down to the office now with a letter from my grandparents stating I will be made homeless in September. They then said that I will be treated as a priority and be able to view council properties. In the mean time I'm going to look for private rentals in hope someone will take me with out a gurantor (although don't hold much hope)

thesaint

In that case, I would ask your grandparents to state you will be homeless at the end of July, not September.

missbiggles1

Harmon28 wrote: »

I have got all the medical evidence for my daughters condition and her nurse has wrote a letter stating everything. I'm unsure if a b&b would take me in with oxygen as they are required to tell their insurance and it comes with fire hazards. Also there is still no way to control the smoking of other guests. Her condition is just getting worse and she also has a heart condition which needs surgery when she reaches 6 months old to close a duct, so right around the time I have to leave, great!

My grandparents and I don't really know eachother, they have told me to go to the council as soon as I moved in but I didn't as I was embarrassed and held hope of my ex having a change of heart and now I guess they're getting fed up.

Will I be treated as the same prioryity as those in temp accommodation if I apply for the bidding system now? Or will I be a lower priority?

My husband was on oxygen for over 8 years and we were never told to inform our insurers. We also stayed (as holiday makers) in many b&bs, hotels and flats with it. It's only a fire hazard if the person using oxygen is smoking, which won't be the case here!

Better_Days

missbiggles1 wrote: »

My husband was on oxygen for over 8 years and we were never told to inform our insurers. We also stayed (as holiday makers) in many b&bs, hotels and flats with it. It's only a fire hazard if the person using oxygen is smoking, which won't be the case here!

I'm not sure this is correct. My niece is on oxygen (only 6 mo so not likely to be smoking!). The local fire brigade visited the house, and installed extra smoke alarms and gave my brother and SIL advice regarding the increased fire risks. My brother also has a sticker for the car in case they are in an accident and the emergency services need to know there is oxygen in the vehicle.

It does appear that there is an increased risk, and OP when you get settled again, I'd check with my insurer (both home and vehicle) to be on the safe side. It is possible that an insurer could argue that the presence of the oxygen cylinders or whatever form the oxygen is supplied, fueled a fire and made it worse than it would have been otherwise.

I think it would be something that you should tell the LA too, as it may be something that they factor into sorting out your accommodation. I do hope you get something sorted out asap. My niece is very poorly too and I can see what a strain it is on my brother and SIL. It must be so much more difficult on your own.

danslenoir

thesaint wrote: »

In that case, I would ask your grandparents to state you will be homeless at the end of July, not September.

You'd advocate fraud so that OP can jump the queue?

OP is in a horrible situation, but there are lots of other people in horrible situations out there too, some of whom will genuinely be homeless in July.

PeterLWilson

Harmon28 wrote: »

I have said I will make a claim and he says if I do he will stop seeing the children. I don't want to risk it as I genuinely believe he would and my son would he heartbroken. It's not worth it.

This makes me :mad:

He is using emotional blackmail to avoid paying you the money YOU NEED to keep a roof over your children's heads. I would suggest that whilst the children seeing their Father is important, food and housing are more important. If he is not willing to support his own children, why should he get to spend time with them?

AdrianC

PeterLWilson wrote: »

This makes me :mad:

He is using emotional blackmail to avoid paying you the money YOU NEED to keep a roof over your children's heads. I would suggest that whilst the children seeing their Father is important, food and housing are more important. If he is not willing to support his own children, why should he get to spend time with them?

Given that he left the OP whilst she was seven months pregnant, the emotional blackmail doesn't surprise me one tiny bit. The calibre of this guy is fairly obvious.