Advice please re sister's daughter.

74jax

Mojisola wrote: »

Perhaps not, judging by the replies on here.

I agree. I'm not sure why op thinks otherwise.

Kaye1

If it was me, I would offer my daughter a short term loan so that she could pay her way.

I wouldn't interfere directly with the other Mum- but I would say to my daughter- "if you wanted me to loan you the money for your keep until you get paid, then I would be happy to do so."

If she felt she really wanted to pay her way then fine. If she felt that the arrangement that was in place was ok- then that would be fine too.

She may be an adult but she would still be reliant on the goodwill of others- so I would want to make sure she would be able to pay her way until the job started.

Loz01

Sarah should handle it now she's an adult and has moved out -personally if I was her I would offer a little bit extra to the boyfriends Mum when she gets paid, as a thank you for the month where she didn't pay her anything. If she wouldn't take it, I'd buy a bottle of wine or something as a token thank you.

Mojisola

fierystormcloud wrote: »

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OK, so my sister Chrissie's daughter (Sarah) just left uni, (2 weeks ago,) with a good grade in her degree and she is very happy.

Sarah has been dating Jack for 18 months

The Solicitors that Jack's sister works for had a vacancy come up suddenly, when someone left. She got Sarah an interview, and they offered her the job on the spot (it started last week.)

Jack told Sarah she can live with him and his mother

They live in this big town near the town centre, and the solicitors is only 20 minutes walk from their house.

She has run out of her uni loan and grant, and was just going to live rent free with my my sister Chrissie and her husband until she got a job.

Chrissie asked her if she needed any money the other day, and she said 'no because Jack has lent me £150 to last me til I get paid, just for general bits and bobs. I will give it back to him when I get paid. I'll be OK, as his mother is happy to have no board money off me til late August because she knows I don't get paid til then.'

Nothing more to add about the money question but I think that Sarah's parents should be very proud of their daughter.

She worked hard enough at uni to get a good degree.

She's found a nice BF with a supportive family.

She's got herself a job and has sorted out her short-term financial problems herself.

Good for her!